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 Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:28 am
So I started on birth control pills and was on the 5th day...they say it takes 7 days for the effect. Me and my boyfriend were being safe about it and we used condoms. I was much more in the mood then he was. I kept jumping on him...then we realized the condom slipped. He realized there was something different then when I lifted the sheets I kind of laughed and said your not wearing a condom. He kind of gave me the Oh s**t look. We kind of liked it without it..and he asked me if he could pull a couple of thrusts without it. I said sure. We both realized and kept telling ourselves how risky it was to do that. But after he did that we put the condom back on. I'm not sure if he pre c*mmed. He's usually good at keeping it in......
Sorry for the long story.
But is it possible for me to still get pregnant like that?
I take the pills at the right time every single day.
I know the consequences...a baby. Life changing situation. But in a odd odd way I want a baby. I'm 19 going on 20.
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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 8:33 am
Of course it is possible, you had unprotected sex!
Any time a p***s is in your v****a, pregnancy is a possibility. The chances of getting pregnant go down if you use birth control. However, since he was not wearing a condom and since your birth control pills were not effective yet, you two were not using any birth control.
Pre-ejaculate is something guys have no control over and can't even feel coming out, so there is not such things as "usually being good at keeping it in" when it comes pre-ejaculate.
If this was a one time thing and he didn't ejaculate, you might be fine. But you can take a morning after pill if you really want to play it safe and if this happened less than 72 hours ago.
It's ok to want a baby, but you also have to be mature enough to realize when you are actually ready for a baby and when you're not. If you're 19, it's possible that you are ready for a baby, but the vast majority of people are not. Most people are not finished with college, don't have money in the bank, don't have health insurance, don't have their own place to live, don't have a job that will offer maternity leave/a partner who can pay all the bills alone for a while, etc. when they are 19 years old. So don't think about your emotions here, think about money. It's really unfair to have a baby before you can offer him anything.
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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 11:45 am
Well its already too late for the plan B pill. I don't know why I'm not scared right now. I'm pretty sure if I was pregnant he'll have a hard time adjusting because of the whole Navy thing. I already have 2,000 saved away. In ways I would feel bad because its not really far to the both of us. I won't have an abortion though because of the mistake that we both made. I had to do research for my Philosophy class about abortion pills that have a long confusing name and abortions. I think the pictures would scare any women for not having an abortion. If I have happened to get pregnant. I'm just going to drop my first major (nursing) and fall back on Child Development. I think I want to be a teacher instead if that happens. I get paid for school. I don't know why I'm so persistent for wanting a baby. I worked at the day care at my College. I'm surrounded by babies, toddlers and pre-school kids all the time. I burp them, I clean them, I feed them, I deal with them when there's no way of getting them to stop crying. I deal with the frustration. But I don't get mad. But ever since then I don't work there...because of the money budget. When I see a parent chase there baby whose walking for the first time. I want one I don't even have little cousins because we all grew up together. Its hard to say I don't want one. I hope in a way I am pregnant. In another way...I don't. My parents are extremely supportive, I live with them because apartments are getting extremely expensive. They don't make me pay for anything. They only ask that I clean and pitch in to whatever they want to make me do... I guess I'm just lucky. Really lucky...well. LOL thats my story
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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:05 pm
That's great that you're putting thought into it, and it's great that you are going to school. But if you can't afford to live on your own now, how would you afford to live on your own with a baby?
I think it would be incredibly unfair to have a baby while you're still living at home with your parents. As I said in another thread here today, your parents already raised their child/ren. It would not be fair of you to get pregnant so that they have another mouth to feed and look after. Even if you do most of the work with the baby, it's still going to be another person in their house taking up room, making noise in the middle of the night, causing the electric bill to go up, etc. And if you pay for baby things, that's even less money you'll have in order to move out, which means you might not be moving out of Mom and Dad's anytime soon. It's not fair to Mom, it's not fair to Dad, and it's not fair to Baby. I'd suggest waiting until you can afford to live on your own or with your partner before you have a baby. Just liking babies and being able to handle their crying isn't enough.
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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 6:55 pm
miss_cool_danielle So I started on birth control pills and was on the 5th day...they say it takes 7 days for the effect. Me and my boyfriend were being safe about it and we used condoms. I was much more in the mood then he was. I kept jumping on him...then we realized the condom slipped. He realized there was something different then when I lifted the sheets I kind of laughed and said your not wearing a condom. He kind of gave me the Oh s**t look. We kind of liked it without it..and he asked me if he could pull a couple of thrusts without it. I said sure. We both realized and kept telling ourselves how risky it was to do that. But after he did that we put the condom back on. I'm not sure if he pre c*mmed. He's usually good at keeping it in...... Sorry for the long story. But is it possible for me to still get pregnant like that? I take the pills at the right time every single day. I know the consequences...a baby. Life changing situation. But in a odd odd way I want a baby. I'm 19 going on 20. Being that you JUST started the pill, that is a huge risk. You aren't even in the swing of things yet with the pill. I really hope that you aren't pregnant. But, if you do want to be pregnant and take care of a baby, you have to be able to provide care in quite a few ways. You and your boyfriend have to be financially stable, emotionally stable, and be able to care for and be responsibe for the baby. It's a big task to take on, but if you and your boyfriend are completely prepared and ready... do what you want. Just be careful.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 11:12 am
Your absoultley right...I should hold off. It didn't even darn on me to take my Plan B pills. But for right now I guess its whatever happens, happens.
We haven't even talked about what would happen if I got pregnant, and if I am. I have a great feeling that he's going to feel like all his fun is out the window. We know the risk we both took that night.
And right now all I'm getting are symptoms of my birthcontrol and my cycle.
I thought it over and over and over. Yeah I really am not ready for a baby. One of my cousins who is only 14 is having a baby. I want to say something but for one I don't know her and I don't want to be a hypocrite
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 4:31 pm
miss_cool_danielle Your absoultley right...I should hold off. It didn't even darn on me to take my Plan B pills. But for right now I guess its whatever happens, happens. We haven't even talked about what would happen if I got pregnant, and if I am. I have a great feeling that he's going to feel like all his fun is out the window. We know the risk we both took that night. And right now all I'm getting are symptoms of my birthcontrol and my cycle. I thought it over and over and over. Yeah I really am not ready for a baby. One of my cousins who is only 14 is having a baby. I want to say something but for one I don't know her and I don't want to be a hypocrite I'm proud you were able to come to that conclusion. 3nodding Nothing says you can't have kids when you're a bit older, but it's so much better to be prepared before you decide to be a parent.
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