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 Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 12:38 pm
Okay, I just had sex for the first time last night, I'm alwas worried about pregnancy so I was just wondering what the chances of getting pregnant were. I am on the pill and take it every night (not at the same time since I'm never home at the same time everynight, but around the same general time), and my boyfriend used a condom. My boyfriend doesn't have hardly any precum, I've only seen it once or twice before in the 8 months we have been dating, and he didn't ejaculate/c** at all.
I have heard that the week before you period is one of the times where you have the most likely chance of getting pregnant, which I guess is why it worries me a little. So I was just wondering, what are the chances, and do I have anything to be completely worried about?
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Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:25 pm
We cannot tell you your exact changes of getting pregnant from one encounter since pregnancy depends on many things. But we can tell you that condoms are around 96% effective overall and the pill is around 99% effective overall, assuming you used them as intended. So I can't imagine why you would worry with those odds. xp I mean, sure, pregnancy is always a possibility even with the best protection, but it sounds like your chances are so small you shouldn't be worrying. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 7:14 pm
Oooh. Thanks.
Yes I know I probably shouldn't be worrying. I tell myself to think of the chances of getting pregnant ON the pill with a condom and when he didn't even ejaculate...kind of ridiculous..
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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 11:48 pm
Although, I am still wondering, my period is irregular, and we had sex the monday before i start my "fake pills", so I don't really know when I ovulate, so would that be a "safe" time or a fertile time?
[yes I know there really isn't a safe time...but safER]
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Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2008 4:04 pm
Pregnancy is always a possibility, but there are times when it is more or less likely.
If your periods are irregular, then you will not be able to track your fertile or less fertile times as easily.
The pill prevents you from ovulating in the first place, so there is no more or less fertile time if you're taking the pill every day.
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Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 7:45 pm
Yes, I'm kind of a paranoid freak.
The first time he had a condom and I'm on birth control.
Second was the same thing...
The third time he used a condom WITH spermicidal lubricant and I'm on birth control..
And I still worry. Everything is like 99.99% chance of getting pregnant, so I'm always scared I will be that .01% even with all the protection..
The beginning of the month, it was the day or so after my period we were doing stuff and I found a wet spot on my shorts...I found it in the bathroom by leaning over the sink to wash my hands, and I looked at the sink and there was water on the sink, but it didn't smell like water..so I"m also thinking about that too...even though I'm on birth control, even if I wasn't it was right after my period, so there's not a very likely chance there would be an egg already anyways..
-sigh-
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Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 9:30 pm
Are you sure you are ready for sexual activity then? It sounds like you are being very safe, which is great. But being ready for sex isn't just about being safe. It's also about being mentally and emotionally prepared in case there is an accidental pregnancy. If you're worrying this much even with the amount of protection you have, it could mean you're not emotionally prepared for some of the responsibilities that come with sex.
Have you talked to your partner about what you would do if you did end up getting pregnant? Sometimes just talking about it, having a plan, and knowing you and your partner agree can relieve some stress. You can also keep Plan B around in case a condom ever broke or if you ever realized after sex that you forgot to take your pill that day. You cannot be this paranoid if you're going to keep Plan B in the house though because you cannot take it every time you have sex. It's meant to be used very rarely, but if you never end up needing it, that's even better.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 5:22 pm
Yup. I'm sure.
It's just a fear I have. My mom had me when she was 19 and wasn't able to go to the college she wanted, and I just don't want that happening to me. But I always know the possibilities, which is why, even when it is 99.99% chance of it NOT happening to me, I always think about that .01%.
But we've talked and talked about it.
All our options...he always asks me what I would do if I became pregnant..but honestly, I couldn't answer that.
Everyone always says they're so against abortion and what not, but I can't say whether or not I am because I've never been in the situation. It's too easy for you to be against it if it hasn't happened to you. So we've come up with all our options, that way if it does happen, I know what they are and can choose when I'm actually in the situation.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 5:43 pm
Good to hear you guys talked about it. It's nice to have some idea and plan for what you would do, but I agree that things can be very different when you're actually in that situation.
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Posted: Sun Sep 21, 2008 6:45 pm
Okay...another situation..my boyfriend and I had sex recently, about a week ago? But this is what happens..he has this thing that happens where he doesn't always come and very rarely has pre-c**, so sometimes he'll just leave it on since nothing happened, and then use it later if we decide to try again. I've read that you're not supposed to reuse condoms, but I always thought that meant not to use it then take it off after he has came then assume its still good and like rinse it out and use it again. So he just kept it on. The last time we had sex, one week ago today, he didn't come, and we didn't try again, and I believe the next day (Monday and a week before I was supposed to start my period), I started having some light bleeding. I could see it on a tampon, but when I wasn't wearing one it came out as sort of brownish and thick. This has happened before about a couple months ago, and it normally lasts 2 to 3 days, and it lasted 3 days this time and was accomanied by light cramping. My period was supposed to come last sunday, meaning I am now one week late.
Could this mean I am pregnant?
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Posted: Sun Sep 21, 2008 7:08 pm
Yes, it's true that you are not supposed to reuse condoms. Even if he doesn't ejaculate in the condom, you should throw it away and get a new one. Putting it aside to use later can make it dry out and break easier.
If you are sexually active then you could be pregnant. If your period is late, take a pregnancy test. That's the only way to know.
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Posted: Sun Sep 21, 2008 7:10 pm
He always checks it when he does ejaculate, to make sure it didn't break or there was no leak in it or anything. So they have stayed sturdy.
That's what I am thinking.
I have also had/been gettting over a cold for the last week, and have been pretty stressed out.
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Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 12:42 pm
The likely-hood of you getting preggers while using a condom and being on the pill are very small.
There is still ALWAYS a chance. That's the problem You have to make sure that you're ready for the consequences. If not, then don't have sex. If so, then keep up the safe sex practice.
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Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 8:32 am
xxloliipOpxx He always checks it when he does ejaculate, to make sure it didn't break or there was no leak in it or anything. So they have stayed sturdy. It doesn't matter. There could be small holes that you can't see with your eye. Or as Lorien said, it could look sturdy, but perhaps the condom's structure is weakened and it could break unexpectedly. Use a new condom every single time you have sex, even if he doesn't ejaculate in it. 3nodding The chances of being pregnant while using two methods of birth control is slim, but it's still there. As long as you're having sex, there's always a chance you could get pregnant. And as rancidcheeto said, if you aren't ready for a baby, stop having sex. If you're ok with the risk and you've talked it over with your boyfriend, and you feel it's something you can handle together, then keep using contraceptives and having safe sex. You're not 100% protected by using two methods but it's better than using just condoms, or nothing at all. Your period could also be changing because you're in puberty, or it's just changing as you get older. Some women have cycles that change for many years before becoming regular, and some women are never regular at all. And as you mentioned, things like stress, diet, travel, and birth control can throw off a woman's cycle.
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Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 3:43 pm
Thanks. :]
I also recently just got the Gardasil vaccine. My second shot was September 2nd, and I've heard about girls getting the shot and having the cycle messed up, although it's not in the side effects.
And my period is either irregular or longer than 28 days, because I think that each month it starts a day or two later? So if it was supposed to start on the sunday that I was going OFF the sugar pills, would the regular pills stop it from coming?
I understand that BC keeps you from ovulating, but does that necessarily mean it stops your period?
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