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 Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 2:06 pm
Alright, so Ive got a pretty basic question, and it seems like many other have this problem as well. I didn't see a sticky about this, so I decided I would ask here.
My boyfriend doesn't last. We have tried limiting foreplay, having him think of other things (which I hate the idea of, he should be enjoying himself), we have used condoms that reduce pleasure for the man to help him last longer. Ive gotten to the point where I just lay or kneel there with my mouth shut, in order to make sure I dont over-excite him with moaning.
If there is anything I can do about this, please inform me sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 2:09 pm
Have you tried going twice? Often times he will be able to last longer the second or third time around. Or have him masturbate or masturbate together once before having sex. That might help.
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 2:10 pm
Chalda Have you tried going twice? Often times he will be able to last longer the second or third time around. Or have him masturbate or masturbate together once before having sex. That might help. Yes, we have tried that before too, but by the time he has orgasmed once, he isnt ready to do it again for a while and by that time Im not longer interested. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 2:11 pm
Chalda Have you tried going twice? Often times he will be able to last longer the second or third time around. Or have him masturbate or masturbate together once before having sex. That might help. You beat me to it. 3nodding Guys usually last longer the 2nd time, if you can get him hard and ready to go again. Or you could try going to a doctor and asking if there's anything that can be done.
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 2:23 pm
I think there is a skin numbing cream that doctors can give out that might help. Would just long mutual masturbation work? Ok he could take himself to the bathroom a bit early?
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:24 pm
hullabalooza Chalda Have you tried going twice? Often times he will be able to last longer the second or third time around. Or have him masturbate or masturbate together once before having sex. That might help. Yes, we have tried that before too, but by the time he has orgasmed once, he isnt ready to do it again for a while and by that time Im not longer interested. sweatdrop Insist that he masturbate at least once or twice a day (either that or have sex a lot). Basically, when I first had sex, it didn't take my partner long. Now, however, it takes a lot longer and it's more pleasurable for both of us. And also, about foreplay, I would say that you should probably have him focus most of the foreplay on YOU and getting you turned on. He's pretty easy to get ready to go, but you're the one who really needs to be comfortable for sex. And most guy really like turning their gfs on. There are also exercises (kinda like Kegals) that men can do to increase their stamina, basically it just involves flexing and holding that flex of the muscles you use to pee. If you do about 20 sets per day, it should increase stamina by a lot.
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:39 pm
Oni-Angel Insist that he masturbate at least once or twice a day (either that or have sex a lot).
i think its because in a way it gets to be the same old same old (that doesnt sound right but i hope you know what i mean) so it takes more for the max. pleasure to surface.
if that makes sense
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 6:49 pm
Oh also when he does masturbate get him to practise holding out as long as he can. A lot of guys just masturbate quickly and want to get to that orgasm as quickly as they can which makes the same thing happen during sex. So get him to practise when he masturbates and he should last longer in bed.
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 10:05 pm
For religious reasons my husband does NOT masturbate. And so this was not an option for my husband when we were first married.
As we became more expirinced, and "practiced", He was able to last longer.
Things do go slower the second time, if you wait a couple of hours, then he will be ready to "preform" agaiin, and it will last longer.
All it takes is patience and practice.
Good luck
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~ Gwyndara ~
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Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 6:51 am
Also if he learns to control his pelvic floor muscles he can last a lot longer because when you orgasam those pelvic floor muscles contract, if you can control them/strengthen them you can relax them as you feel them tightning up and stop orgasm.
It's the equivilent of kegal excercises for women.
One: he can just relax and contract the muscles in his pelvic floor (feels like clenching your butt) when he's sitting in a chair, taking a showere, etc.
Two: (the more effective excercise) take a hand towel and fold it over the erection to use as a "weight" and then contract and relax quickly, slowly, hold it just to get used to those muscles, what they do and how to control them, the erect p***s should go up when contracted.
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Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 9:25 pm
Out of my experience, have him masturbate before you guys are going t get to it, he should last longer, even if he has to masturbate a couple of times.
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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 7:07 pm
me and my boyfriend Masterbate and it feels good but if i know were going to do something I don't do it for a couble of days
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Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 5:52 pm
My boyfriend is the same way. Over the years, we've just adapted by expanding our definition of "sex." Instead of just going to the bedroom, sticking it in, and stopping when he's done, we have a long foreplay and a long afterplay.
We may start with a bath and a lot of cuddling. Oral sex, touching, things like that. Afterwards, he will continue fingering me until I have a chance to orgasm as well. So while actual penetration only lasts a short time, we are sexual together for at least an hour or two, if not the whole evening.
That was our solution. I doubt it would work for everyone. But there you have it.
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