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My parents pushed me a lot when I was in high school, and I flat out told them to never expect straight A's from me. I know they're not happy with a lot of the grades I got in high school (I was mainly a B student, and there was the occasional A or A-, but that was about it). Math was the exception, because I had a tutor for math and always had a really really hard time with it. My parents were like that too apparently, and so is my brother (he's in grade 12 this year), so they are a little more sympathetic towards our grades in math.

Once I finished grade 12, I stopped telling my parents what was going on in my school life. If I have homework or tests, I don't tell my mother. Of course, since she teaches at both campuses at the college I attend, that doesn't help if she knows one of my teachers and talks to them about what they're teaching, but for the most part, it's my business. I am 19, and old enough to know what I need to do in order to get good grades. If I do poorly in a subject or on a test, I know that I have only myself to blame, because I am old enough to take responsibility for my actions. My parents have more or less come to accept that, and have stopped bothering me as much. They're pretty bad around exam time, in which they expect me to eat, sleep, and write my papers, or study for my exams, but other than that they're ok.
I still don't do very well in college (I'm a B and C+ student mainly), and I know my mother doesn't like my grades, but I've told her multiple times that they're my business, and I'm happy with them. And if I want a higher grade in a class, then I'll go back and re-take it and try harder.


The only thing I can think of to suggest would be to talk to your parents, and maybe work out a compromise of some sort. I mean, you're older than I am - if I'm 19, then you're definitely of age to be a legal adult, and are old enough to worry about your grades and understand the consequences of your actions. Tell them you appreciate their concern for your grades, but your grades are your business, and the pressure they're putting on you to do well is not helping.
Worse come to worse, you could always try moving out so they can't hound you about your schooling and your grades.

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Well in that case, since you're a minor, there's not really much you can do (I mean you can't move out like I originally suggested, you can't leave home, etc).
However you can still talk to your parents and ask that they back off a little bit, and not pressure you as much.

Then just do your best I guess, and hopefully that will give your parents an incentive not to ground you or whatever. But you're a minor, and you will be able to be out on your own sooner or later. Try your best and get your grades up, and hopefully your parents will leave you alone.

Finding people with the same problem helps a lot. I never really got "good" grades in high school and my grandparents would get on my butt about it.

Once I started to try and they saw that they let off a little bit.

I've had everything, you name it, taken away. It's not cool and it makes you want to rebel even more but it's really not worth it.

Once they see that you're trying they should let off a little.

As they said and you've tried...talk to them some more.

Parents and children can often missunderstand each other.
They don't want you to be perfect, they just want to see you succeed, and want you to make an effort in your school work.
High school for most teenagers is going to make or break their college, job careers and lives.
And some parents just don't want to see their kid fail.

If you tried putting more effort into your work and show them you can handle the responcibility off keeping your grades up then you'll get your privilages back.
They expect you to do good in school and you expect your luxuries, there has to be a balance there. You know?


I would enjoy conversating with you. ^_^
I am just letting you see things from a parents point of view.
A lot of the times we fail to communicate and get lost when it comes to our parents true motives.