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 Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 9:32 am
My mom is(i dont know ho many times i've said this)
and if i told her i'm bi shed probably kick me out. crying
which makes me sad to even think about it
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Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 9:42 am
well, you never know. my parents are totally gay haters. they aren't phobic, just kinda like... i dunno. my mom doesn't like bi's or lesbians and my dad doesn't like any. especially bis. but i was forced in, out, back in, and out in a really messed up way of the closet and once they finally believed me, they were "cool" with it. i mean, i know they aren't, cuz they've spoken way too much and still do about homosexuality in a bad way, but at least they didn't kick me out. they just tried to give me an intervention about how it was all in my head, wasn't true, blah blah blah.
trust me, after a bunch of s**t drama, coming out to a homophobic parent won't be all that bad. you just gotta do it when your prepared to handle all of the stress. i'm not gonna say don't worry about it, cuz it's a really froustrating period of time, but it'll be worth it in the end if you really want them to know about you.
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 9:04 pm
the_forgotten_thought they didn't kick me out. they just tried to give me an intervention about how it was all in my head, wasn't true, blah blah blah. . That is a parent's way of trying to accept the fact that their child isn't 'normal', whatever normal may be. By saying it is just a phase, or any such wording, allows the person to think that it will be over. My parent said that about me going on 3 years ago. And the only thing that is the same about me from then, is that i still like girls. I am dating a guy right now, but we talk about girls, we look at girls, and we flirt with girls together.
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Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 8:49 pm
Nobody im my family knows im bi. I know how they will take it. my mom told me that if i was gay she would beat the s_ _t out of me, then kick me out and never speak to me again.
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Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 9:33 pm
My mom has a gay brother, who's my uncle.
But surprisingly, that doesn't mean she's acceptive of it.
Thing is, if I ever came out, my mom would be more likely to support me than my dad. As long as he's around, there's no way in hell that I'm mentioning anything about being bisexual.
There'd be a huge scene and I'd be out the door..
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 1:04 am
My perents aren't technically homophobic my dad just flat hates anyone that isn't straight and my mom said gays/bi's/trans/lez' ect... are ok but If I'm not straight then she doesn't want me to tell her until she's dead.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 9:13 am
My mom's perfectly alright with it, but if my dad knew... ugh. He's a conservative bigot Texan, you'll get the picture. Luckily, while he lives in Texas, I'm safely over here in Oregon.
Ignorance is bliss, I suppose.
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Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 5:50 pm
I'm not sure about my parents technically being "homophobs" but they trash talk bis/gays/lesbs enough... they're hypocrits in my opinion, saying they're fine with jodie and kim (lesb neighbors) but avoid them at all costs and the gay guy neighbor of mine back when we rented a condo killed himself cause his bf broke up with him my parents said that was a bunch of ******** up s**t and that weird gay fags like him deserve to kill themselves... stuff like that is pretty hypocritical cause they said he was a friend of ours...
and I once asked my mom what she thought of the bisexuals in the world (the topic came on in the news bout california and gay marriages- about that they said it was "disgusting" and "unhumane") and she said bi teens are just going through the "popular phase" that MTV started it all somehow stare psh she's a frickin liar and I know both of my folks would flip if I told them
.... I don't even want to imagine what my grandma would say (extremely religious)
so as far as telling them.... not until I'm positive I can move out and support living on my own... hopefully with my gf one day heart
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Posted: Sat Aug 30, 2008 12:30 pm
my dad is but my mom's not..
and i tried tell my mom im bi but she didnt believe me she was just like ok sure you are.
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Posted: Sat Aug 30, 2008 3:27 pm
My mom's a lesbian,
and my dad's out of the picture,
but trying to get back into the picture.
Mom doesn't want me to be a lesbian,
but supports me with anything I do.
My stepmom (Mom's ex)
is the same.
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Sat Aug 30, 2008 9:51 pm
isabella505 I'm not sure about my parents technically being "homophobs" but they trash talk bis/gays/lesbs enough... they're hypocrits in my opinion, saying they're fine with jodie and kim (lesb neighbors) but avoid them at all costs and the gay guy neighbor of mine back when we rented a condo killed himself cause his bf broke up with him my parents said that was a bunch of ******** up s**t and that weird gay fags like him deserve to kill themselves... stuff like that is pretty hypocritical cause they said he was a friend of ours... and I once asked my mom what she thought of the bisexuals in the world (the topic came on in the news bout california and gay marriages- about that they said it was "disgusting" and "unhumane") and she said bi teens are just going through the "popular phase" that MTV started it all somehow stare psh she's a frickin liar and I know both of my folks would flip if I told them .... I don't even want to imagine what my grandma would say (extremely religious) so as far as telling them.... not until I'm positive I can move out and support living on my own... hopefully with my gf one day heart that's what my plan used to be. then it went all wrong. dude, i swear, everyone blames mtv for all the problems!
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Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 7:36 am
the_forgotten_thought isabella505 I'm not sure about my parents technically being "homophobs" but they trash talk bis/gays/lesbs enough... they're hypocrits in my opinion, saying they're fine with jodie and kim (lesb neighbors) but avoid them at all costs and the gay guy neighbor of mine back when we rented a condo killed himself cause his bf broke up with him my parents said that was a bunch of ******** up s**t and that weird gay fags like him deserve to kill themselves... stuff like that is pretty hypocritical cause they said he was a friend of ours... and I once asked my mom what she thought of the bisexuals in the world (the topic came on in the news bout california and gay marriages- about that they said it was "disgusting" and "unhumane") and she said bi teens are just going through the "popular phase" that MTV started it all somehow stare psh she's a frickin liar and I know both of my folks would flip if I told them .... I don't even want to imagine what my grandma would say (extremely religious) so as far as telling them.... not until I'm positive I can move out and support living on my own... hopefully with my gf one day heart that's what my plan used to be. then it went all wrong. dude, i swear, everyone blames mtv for all the problems! how did it go all wrong? if you don't mind my asking i know! rolleyes stare and people think we're weird geesh
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Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 2:08 pm
i'm pretty sure mine are. if they weren't before, they are now. since i was 12 [i'm 16, so for 4 years now] they started going to this fundamental baptist church. one of the main teachings is against homosexuality. i pretty muc sit there with clenched teeth every sunday, it's like having someone poke you with a sword or something while you just sit there, unable to scream. the 'rents have been brainwashed, i think it's embedded in their brains now that all lgbt is bad. i tried to come out to my mum last year, and i broke down and backed down. at the end of our convo though, she's like "if you were gay, though, you know that it would be against god..." or something like that. she also said that i was just rebelling against the church and that's why i was coming out. so i'd say they're not afraid if it, but they're way against it... so i'm scared that if i really come out, that i'll be disowned.
my mum also suggested i see a therapist about it. i kinda wanted to go for some other issue i'd been having, but when she suggested it for my being bi or gay or whatever, i said no, i'm scared that she'll try to take me to one of those ppl that try to "change" you or whatever.
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