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 Posted: Thu Jul 31, 2008 9:53 pm
Long story short... I'm in love with my best friends ex. Most of you probably think that's a problem but no one cares over here. Sooo, anywho. I fell hard and fast for him... And I want to prove it...But the only problem is that I have a personal issue and want to show it sexually... But he's the shyer kinda guy...and I don't want him feeling uncomfortable. Also I don't feel like I could show my love any other way.
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Posted: Thu Jul 31, 2008 9:55 pm
Gosh I'm one nerdy slut. XDD
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Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 5:45 am
There are lots of ways to show someone you care about them without showing it sexually. You can write a flirty note, take him out on a date, or just telling him you like him. Showing it sexually might drive him away instead of bringing him closer. Take it slow, because you might regret going too fast later on.
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Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 9:35 am
Like bustinrs said, there are many ways to show someone you care.
Sex doesn't exactly show someone you care because sex means different things to different people. For some people, sex is all about love. For other people, it's nothing more than physical stimulation. I am one of the latter people. I attach no emotions whatsoever to sex.
If you are afraid of making him uncomfortable, that's a sign that you know you're trying to move too fast. I am not trying to give a "wait until you're married and in love" lecture here. After all, I prefer sex on the first date. But what I am trying to say is that it sounds like you're trying to force sex into a situation rather than letting it happen naturally. When I have sex, it tends to just happen. The mood is right, and we both want it. I don't sit there ahead of time worrying and wondering if he is ready for it. If you have to wonder like that, then it's not the right time. It sounds like you would be better off starting with kissing, moving up to manual sex, moving to oral sex, then vaginal sex. It sounds like this might be a situation where you should be taking it somewhat slow. Never rush when you're not sure if the other person is even ready for it. Let him get comfortable with you first.
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Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 11:37 am
LorienLlewellyn Like bustinrs said, there are many ways to show someone you care. Sex doesn't exactly show someone you care because sex means different things to different people. For some people, sex is all about love. For other people, it's nothing more than physical stimulation. I am one of the latter people. I attach no emotions whatsoever to sex. If you are afraid of making him uncomfortable, that's a sign that you know you're trying to move too fast. I am not trying to give a "wait until you're married and in love" lecture here. After all, I prefer sex on the first date. But what I am trying to say is that it sounds like you're trying to force sex into a situation rather than letting it happen naturally. When I have sex, it tends to just happen. The mood is right, and we both want it. I don't sit there ahead of time worrying and wondering if he is ready for it. If you have to wonder like that, then it's not the right time. It sounds like you would be better off starting with kissing, moving up to manual sex, moving to oral sex, then vaginal sex. It sounds like this might be a situation where you should be taking it somewhat slow. Never rush when you're not sure if the other person is even ready for it. Let him get comfortable with you first. Seconded. smile The "Alternatives to Sex" sticky has some good suggestions on things you can do with another person without actually having sex.
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Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 9:29 pm
if he's shy it's because he probably doesn't want to offend you, if you're sure about it, you should try to make him comfortable by showing him that you're comfortable. he should be familar with it before you drag him into it. also there's the moral obligations he may or may not have, the fears he may or may not have. but he'll be no more comfortable then you are, once you get that out of the way and show him that there's nothing wrong, he'll be able to get by his own barriers concearning sex. hope that helps.
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 6:46 pm
I say, there is no problem in be in love or going out with a friend's ex, its not their business and since its their ex, why should they care and if they do, thats really weird. I wouldn't care if someone that was a friend went out with my ex-girlfriend, unless they brag about it and make fun of me, you know?
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