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 Posted: Thu Sep 22, 2005 11:17 pm
Okay, so I was on the very verge of coming out of my closet. Really. I was just going to say, "******** it, I don't want to have sex!!" to anyone who would listen, but then we had a damned AIDS presentation at our high school, and wouldn't you know, now everyone will think I'm paranoid about AIDS if I said I was asexual, even though I've known about my asexuality for over a year.
GOD, life blows.
How did you come out? When? Was it appropriate at the time? Did you sit your parents down for a "serious discussion" or did you just blurt it out because you were bored and wanted to see their reactions?
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Posted: Fri Sep 23, 2005 10:42 pm
I never really came out. It just kinda slipped out. I'm fortunate enough to know a couple other asexuals in the real world, and they caught on after about a year os knowing me. Still, it's almost a secret amongst the people who don't know. I'll tell people, but only if they know already. Does that make any sense?
As for my parents, I've tried, I don't think they really get it.
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 12:58 pm
I didn't really come out yet. Just told a couple of people (who were incredulous). And my parents, especially my mom, thinks I haven't found the right person yet.
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 1:39 pm
I've told people, my dads angry cause he wants the family name to keep going(even though I have 2 brothers).
But sex just sounds dull and boring, uninteresting.
I cyber, but just cause it's entertainment for me, something to do.
My mom says I'm not old enough to care, My dad say in time I'll want sex. But I doubt it. Just sounds dumb. So...yeah.
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 10:29 pm
For some reason I believe they'll be more wound up about my being bi-romantic rather than just asexual. I mean, I want to just tell them so they stop telling me to not have the sex I don't even want, but I can't find the right time. It would just be weird to bring it up randomly. "So, mom, I don't ever plan on willingly having pleasurable sex." It's just too weird, even to "blurt out".
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Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 2:49 pm
Luckily I haven't anyone to 'confess' to, if that's a way to put it. I couldn't give a damn if my family knew or not, but I think it's better to elude them. They're the type that are interested in grandchildren. They've been wondering why I haven't had a boyfriend, but of course, its not their business.
None of my 'friends' would really care anyways. It's not like I'm a big deal in their lives. We pretty much don't get into the personal side of things.
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TheBrideInBlack Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 11:05 am
Well, I brought up the subject to a friend of mine and we started talking about it. Anyway, he raises an eyebrow suggestively and asked if I was asexual... I told him I'm not sure yet. sweatdrop
So, I guess that's the closest thing I ever got to 'coming out'. (for now at least)
Other then that I haven't mentioned it to anybody.
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Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 10:13 pm
Well I want to wear freakin' asexual and ace and A and upside down gradiated triangle buttons all the hell over the place. I mean, dammit, I'm damn well PROUD of being asexual, I just can't find a good time to bring up the subject. I mean, randomly and they'd be, like, "OMG, YOU HAD SEX!! I BET YOU'RE TRYING TO COVER IT UP!" or something. As soon as I'm out, I'm going to be like those guys who wear rainbow t-shirts, waving around rainbow flags with rainbow hair and rainbow-themed jewlery. Only in various shades of grey in my case, I guess.
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Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 3:28 pm
I tried telling my parents on multiple occasions.
Ignoring the fact I have never had a boyfriend (nor had an interest in one) they alternate between assuring me "It's a phase", "You'll change when you get older", and "You just haven't found someone you like yet."
It's sad that they don't trust me. In a way.
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Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 4:16 pm
My parents are like that too, except that they laugh at me and think I'm lying. Well, they're sort of the same, in the sense that they're denying that we're asexual.
Wait 'til we're older, then we can shove it in their faces!
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Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 7:47 pm
I don't remember when I really "came out". I just kinda mentioned it up casually. But, of course, my mom keeps saying "oh, I was like that when I was a kid," and "you'll grow out of it". It really pisses me off. And I told my mom that, too.
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Posted: Sat Oct 22, 2005 11:38 pm
OldSoulSong Haven't told my parents yet...they don't trust me as it is, and they wouldn't believe me. Plus, I don't really like sharing all that much with them. Unhealthy, I know. If it makes you feel any better, the one I'd be telling would be my dad, not my mom. So there, I'm not too cold.
I've told...*counts fingers* 3 of my friends. One of them happened to be tonight. Kind of strange. I don't really know if any of them believed me though. My best friend is the one I think handled it best...she was asking stuff like "Well, do you think...later in life?" or "How about when you find the right person?" I already think I've found someone I want to spend the rest of my life with...I just don't want to have sex with him. Anyways, I got kind of frustrated and just showed her the AVEN site. Another friend...who've I've known half my life...I just don't think he believes me. And the other...I think I kinda of freaked her out in a way. Scared her away even.
Whatever. I don't care. This is who I am, ain't gonna change.
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