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 Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 1:01 pm
Lately I have been extremely upset over the fact that I haven't been able to speak to a rabbi, so upset that it's had me in tears.
Today my mother asked me to drive her to the doctor's...
ACROSS THE STREET FROM THE CHABAD LUBAVITCH HOUSE.
I gained the courage and I walked into the Kosher restaurant, next to the pocket-in-the-wall like synagogue.
I sucked up my anxiety of talking with people, said "Shalom" to the cook, was greeted back, told him what I was looking for, he asked me to leave my number...
He said the rabbi will contact me!
I feel so much courage today. After I left and went back to the doctor's office I almost cried.
Was this a sign?
All I know is THANK YOU HaShem.
I'm finally getting somewhere.
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 2:21 pm
UPDATE! Rabbi is calling me tomorrow night at 10pm. He just called me now.
Divash, I'm scared because I need to wear pants. I hear Hasidic Jewish women cannot wear pants.
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 3:34 pm
 He has Redeemed Me!Though I That's cool ^^ After reading about your "Star of David Necklace" story, I'm glad to know that you are finally able to talk to a Rabbi~ God is incredible, isn't he?
It very well could have been a sign from God, seeing as your worked up the courage seemingly by yourself, and the Rabbi contacted you. You could always pray to Him, asking for guidance, courage, and to lead to on the right path! Good luck! am undeserving, He gave his life for mine.
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 5:49 pm
In Medias Res II Divash, I'm scared because I need to wear pants. I hear Hasidic Jewish women cannot wear pants. The object is to be modest. You're not joining the shul right off the bat are you? you're testing the waters and learning and stuff, finding the right place for you in an environment you're happy with. Be modest, dress normal, no one's gonna give a s**t if you're in Couture or a Kilt. The fact that you're through the door, means something.
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 5:51 pm
LordNeuf In Medias Res II Divash, I'm scared because I need to wear pants. I hear Hasidic Jewish women cannot wear pants. The object is to be modest. You're not joining the shul right off the bat are you? you're testing the waters and learning and stuff, finding the right place for you in an environment you're happy with. Be modest, dress normal, no one's gonna give a s**t if you're in Couture or a Kilt. The fact that you're through the door, means something. I love you Neuf, I've been worried about this all night. I know it seems silly since it's a small sacrifice for Hashem but the fact is I feel MORE exposed in skirts, even long ones, and I am not comfortable in anything but my jeans. Neither of the ultra-Orthodox men looked at me strangely when I had short sleeves on either, so I shouldn't fret.
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 6:10 pm
If you're really self conscious, wear leggings under a skirt.
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darkphoenix1247 Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 6:19 pm
In Medias Res II LordNeuf In Medias Res II Divash, I'm scared because I need to wear pants. I hear Hasidic Jewish women cannot wear pants. The object is to be modest. You're not joining the shul right off the bat are you? you're testing the waters and learning and stuff, finding the right place for you in an environment you're happy with. Be modest, dress normal, no one's gonna give a s**t if you're in Couture or a Kilt. The fact that you're through the door, means something. I love you Neuf, I've been worried about this all night. I know it seems silly since it's a small sacrifice for Hashem but the fact is I feel MORE exposed in skirts, even long ones, and I am not comfortable in anything but my jeans. Neither of the ultra-Orthodox men looked at me strangely when I had short sleeves on either, so I shouldn't fret. I don't particularly care for skirts myself- like Neuf said, modesty is the basis of it. As long as you walk in wearing clothes, you're much better than you think. blaugh Hopefully the meeting with the rabbi will go well, but if not, it's a start! Good luck, and no matter what, don't let other people stop you from doing something you feel is right.
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 6:22 pm
thank you! He's calling me after shabbat tomorrow night.
Good thing I don't go out much, eh? wink
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 8:02 pm
He has Redeemed Me!Though I Just remember that God is with you ^^ He'll lead you the right way! am undeserving, He gave his life for mine.
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Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 9:24 am
Also, I think I wrote about this before but can't find the thread.
The topic of the Golden Calf incident.
Reader's Digest Version with tounge and cheek interwebs speak to make it seem less preachy and more humorous.
Moses leads the Israelites to mount Sinai, goes up to the mountain telling his people. "BRB going AFK for a bit." His followers wait for him to return. After a while they lose track of how long he's been gone. Suddenly a cry of "ZOMG, Where is he?!" and "BAWWW" ring out and the people figure he's not coming back. So what do they do? The men folk look for another leader, and their new leader has a new god. So, in a panic, the men folk make a golden calf to appease their new god. While the women folks frowned upon their asshattery and yelled to the men "LURK MOAR!" Then Moses comes back sees the golden calf and yells "OMGWTFBBQ I said BRB!"
Laugh, it was meant to be funny.
Any rate, take this into a modern context.
You wake up in the morning and realize your 5 minutes behind schedule and you're going to be late for work. So you start to panic, you hurriedly get into your work clothes and now you can't find your keys. So you proceed to ransack your house looking for where you might of dropped them accidentally and it turns out the keys were right where you left them. However instead of being 5 minutes behind schedule you're now 20 minutes behind schedule.
The moral of the story is... "Fear leads to panic, panic leads to blindness, so don't panic."
But fear is okay. Fear is a natural feeling, lets you know how important the situation is, keeps your mind going. Fear can lead to courage if you know how to stand up and look past your fear, however if fear gets the better of you, it will lead to panic.
But don't take my word for it, learn the knowledge of others. Here's what some other writers had to say on the subject.
Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear. Except a creature be part coward it is not a compliment to say it is brave. ~Mark Twain, 1894
Cowardice, as distinguished from panic, is almost always simply a lack of ability to suspend the functioning of the imagination. ~Ernest Hemingway, Men at War, 1942
Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point. ~C.S. Lewis
Courage is being afraid but going on anyhow. ~Dan Rather
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Eloquent Conversationalist
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Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 10:02 pm
In Medias Res II UPDATE! Rabbi is calling me tomorrow night at 10pm. He just called me now. Divash, I'm scared because I need to wear pants. I hear Hasidic Jewish women cannot wear pants. IMR, it's true, Orthodox women don't generally wear trousers. If you don't have a skirt, try wearing a long shirt that will cover your hips and the place where your legs meet in the middle (ahem). Or tie a shawl or scarf around your waist so that the rabbi can tell you're making an effort, just by looking at you; later you can explain that you made the decision to dress more modestly, but haven't yet been able to buy skirts. When you get to know him better, you can talk to him about skirts/pants and your feelings about them. Also keep in mind that Chasidism is not, by far, the only way to live as an observant Jew. There are a lot of different branches of Orthodoxy, and Chasidism is only one of them. Also there are a good many branches of Chasidism, and Chabad/Lubavitch is only one. In fact, Chabad may or may not be the right path for you. Some, but not all, branches of Chabad believe that their deceased Rebbe, Rebbe Menachem Mendel Schneerson (spelling?), is the messiah that we've been waiting for. That, to me, feels too close to what Christianity has done to elevate their deceased leader. It's hard to let go of a beloved leader upon his death, but... well. R. Schneerson didn't accomplish during his lifetime what the Torah tells us that the Mashiach will accomplish within his lifetime, so he's disqualified. Back to the original topic, though: Wear something that covers your skin from elbow to collarbone to knee. Don't cover your hair, since you're a young and unmarried girl, and it's not appropriate. The rest... the rest, you can replace trousers with skirts next time you go shopping, one by one. One step at a time.
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Posted: Wed Jul 30, 2008 8:44 pm
Divash In Medias Res II UPDATE! Rabbi is calling me tomorrow night at 10pm. He just called me now. Divash, I'm scared because I need to wear pants. I hear Hasidic Jewish women cannot wear pants. IMR, it's true, Orthodox women don't generally wear trousers. If you don't have a skirt, try wearing a long shirt that will cover your hips and the place where your legs meet in the middle (ahem). Or tie a shawl or scarf around your waist so that the rabbi can tell you're making an effort, just by looking at you; later you can explain that you made the decision to dress more modestly, but haven't yet been able to buy skirts. When you get to know him better, you can talk to him about skirts/pants and your feelings about them. Also keep in mind that Chasidism is not, by far, the only way to live as an observant Jew. There are a lot of different branches of Orthodoxy, and Chasidism is only one of them. Also there are a good many branches of Chasidism, and Chabad/Lubavitch is only one. In fact, Chabad may or may not be the right path for you. Some, but not all, branches of Chabad believe that their deceased Rebbe, Rebbe Menachem Mendel Schneerson (spelling?), is the messiah that we've been waiting for. That, to me, feels too close to what Christianity has done to elevate their deceased leader. It's hard to let go of a beloved leader upon his death, but... well. R. Schneerson didn't accomplish during his lifetime what the Torah tells us that the Mashiach will accomplish within his lifetime, so he's disqualified. Back to the original topic, though: Wear something that covers your skin from elbow to collarbone to knee. Don't cover your hair, since you're a young and unmarried girl, and it's not appropriate. The rest... the rest, you can replace trousers with skirts next time you go shopping, one by one. One step at a time.
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