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Personally, I would say that it would be wrong to have an abortion without telling your partner. If you two have a good relationship, you should be able to talk about anything. A part of him might want to keep the baby, but if he is even a little bit mature he will know that you two cannot provide for a baby if you're both young. It's really not fair to the baby to bring him into the world if you have nothing to offer him. It would be better for everyone to wait until you are done with school, have your own place to live, have health insurance, have a little money in the bank, have a car or other way to make it to ob-gyn appointments, etc. If your boyfriend has a serious fit about it even though you know you two cannot provide for a baby, it could mean he's not quite mature enough to handle a sexual relationship just yet.

If you want to get an abortion without your parents knowing about it, try Planned Parenthood. They don't tell your parents if you come in for paps or birth control. I am not sure if that policy applies to abortions as well, but it's worth calling and asking about.

Make sure you are using birth control every single time. If you ever need more birth control or a pap, Planned Parenthood can help you there too. If you have been having sex without birth control even though you don't want a baby, that would be a sign that you're not quite responsible enough to be having sex yet.

Although abortion is always an option, if your bf is completely against the idea, you can always put it up for adoption. This way, you are both getting what you want, and you don't have to raise it.

You definitly should tell your boyfriend, but try and be sensitive about it. Although it is ultimately your choice, you don't him to feel that you've made up your mind and telling him was just a formality. Tell him that you might be pregnant, but you're not sure if you want to keep it and then ask what he thinks.

Whether you're going to terminate your pregnancy or not, this is a big deal. It's very common for younger girls to want to just forget it ever happened and move on, but realize that he's going to have an opinion because half the baby is his.

And yes, you can get an abortion without your parents knowning, but its a frightening procedure, one that you might want the support of your parents during.

So good luck in whatever you choose to do. But think things through and talk them through because whatever you pick to do is going to be permanent. heart