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 Posted: Wed Jul 23, 2008 9:23 am
I think that I was to either come to this subform or the masterbation one... not sure... so I'm just coming here and hoping I can get good advice
Me and my bf have numerous "sessions" on the phone (seeing this is a long distance relationship). Lately though he says hes gotton bored... like it has gotton dull and wants me to spice it up a little. I'm not very creative so that is why I must come here to seek help from the creative minds of others.
He and I mainly play games when doing it: Truth or Dare, Would you rather..., and something I made up a day or two ago when he suggested some "spice" where pretty much the one person just does everything in their power to make other not able to resist much longer doing anything to themselves.
I need more ideas though
Oh, and we do a lot of pictures too.... sweatdrop
Help please
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Posted: Wed Jul 23, 2008 9:37 pm
I can't think of anything offhand, but why is the onus on you to "spice it up"? neutral Where is his creativity and why isn't he trying to come up with ideas, only you?
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Posted: Thu Jul 24, 2008 11:19 am
He is very creative. He's been coming up with all the ideas for 6 months now....... I feel kinda bad. I need to pick up the slack.
He says (and I saddly agree) that whenever I am in control and make the moves, it goes really slow.... like absolutly no change, a "stand still". But I've always been a slow mover. But I am very, very flexable. I move at his speed. And this is something he wants so I'm willing to work hard to give it to him.
Sorry I'm putting it on y'all... I just wanted a couple of suggestions. I'm usually good with advancing ideas... I just need a place to start...
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Posted: Thu Jul 24, 2008 6:48 pm
I've found that some guys are really receptive to descriptive imagery. Like describing a really sexy shower scene and what's happening there etc. As well, if you're doing scenes or something, you don't necessarily have to end them, like, you can leave the last bit up to the imagination.
That's about all the ideas I have... xd
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 1:18 am
yukazer He is very creative. He's been coming up with all the ideas for 6 months now....... I feel kinda bad. I need to pick up the slack.
He says (and I saddly agree) that whenever I am in control and make the moves, it goes really slow.... like absolutly no change, a "stand still". But I've always been a slow mover. But I am very, very flexable. I move at his speed. And this is something he wants so I'm willing to work hard to give it to him.
Sorry I'm putting it on y'all... I just wanted a couple of suggestions. I'm usually good with advancing ideas... I just need a place to start... Ahhh ok. Sorry if I came off as a b***h. whee It's good to hear that he's been contributing too. A relationship is composed of two people, not one, so both people need to share and contribute. Honestly, I'd try reading some books (library, bookstore) or doing some research online and see if you can pick up some ideas. I've found that to be helpful in the past, and frankly I think it's fun. I love going into Chapters and quietly picking up a sex book and flipping through it. I know with my very first boyfriend, we used to send each other hentai over MSN (well, me to him) and apparently that really turned him on. But you said you've already done lots of pictures, so that might not work. What about live webcam? Or private pictures sent in snail-mail letters? I don't do well in control either - I prefer to let my boyfriend come up with things and go along with that. But every once in awhile I'll feel more dominant or creative and I'll suggest something to try. You could try new positions? (Books/online research would come in handy for this.) Or a new toy, or... different lube? Massage oil? Lingerie, light BDSM? Roleplaying? (This was the correct subforum, btw. 3nodding I think it's better suited for this one than the Masturbation Subforum.)
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 4:17 pm
Well, you see, this is a family computer, so I'm not exactly at liberty to do that sort of research, that's the main reason I came to this guild, I feel safe here.... I'm a very restricted person. sad I wouldn't be able to get to a bookstore or library by myself. Its sad really....
And those do sound like good ideas. We do say scenes to each other. It really helps. And sense I'm one of those innocent people who's never done anything, he keeps coming up with things I'm able to do to myself, but I've always had the idea that guys are more limited. My subconscious is telling me that's not true though.
I've heard the suggestion of another toy to use... but I'm a chicken and am paranoid about my parents finding out, or me doing something unsanitary and not that safe...... but I'm still thinking on that topic.
(sorry if I'm being stubborn, I'm trying to work on it...)
Thank you all again for helping me... I always feel like a nu-sense when I'm not able to figure something out by myself sweatdrop
Oh....... Possibly does anyone know of anymore games? we love rewarding each other for the winner.... I'm currently out of ideas for games... until I get a spark of an idea...
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Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 3:27 am
No bookstores where you/he live? Chapters, Coles, whatever chain is near you? I prefer those over libraries, and I'm lucky enough to have my own computer... or could a friend take you to the library, or let you use their computer for a bit? Sorry, just brainstorming, don't mind me.
If you're unble to find a suitable toy, your fingers can work just fine on their own. You can also use an inanimate object, like the handle of a toothbrush or a hairbrush as long as you won't hurt yourself and you can clean it really well before and after use. There are also stores like Spencers which will sell "massage wands" and other similar products - vibrators marketed under a different name so minors can be in the store and/or purchase them legally (I think - haven't heard otherwise yet).
Games... what about like a "task" game? Give each other a bunch of tasks to do, and whoever finishes their list first gets the reward. They can be things like "write me a sexy e-mail" or "touch yourself and think of me", stuff like that. Or include non-sexual things, it's up to you.
On a side note, you're the second person I've talked to in like 10 minutes who's said that they can't use their family computer because their parents wouldn't approve. Hearing teens say that makes me really sad. sad (not your fault of course, just makes me dislike all the more how much of today's society thinks)
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Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 8:54 am
Well, I do have a Booksamillion and a Barns N' Noble near.. and a library across the street... Its just even at the age of 16 my parents don't let me go anywhere alone...
We always use toys on me... What are some toys that guy can use so I can suggest them for him? Oh, and we know about the back massager thing.... *mischievous chuckle* Would that feel the same on a guy? Maybe I can get him to try it....
And I could probably turn something out of that. Thank you (talking about the game in case you haven't noticed, I'm going in order of the paragraphs)
Damn todays society!!! (lol)
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 5:23 am
Maybe, because you said you send pictures, maybe describe what you did before or after the picture if it's something sexy? If you know his sexual fantasy, i.e on a beach having sex. try describing that.
idk, it might work :]
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:23 am
Since you can't go to a library or something like it, I'll just post an idea.
You could take provocative pictures with words for him.
Example: Next time you send him a picture of you in a bikini, write on your tight, chest or tummy something sexy that you'd like him to do.
Roleplay in the phone sometimes is fun also. You could try that one ^_^
Can't think of much more right now, sorry stressed xp
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