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 Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 4:05 pm
Well in the past few days major things have happened. My guyfriend who i have had a huge crush over is now going out with some girl that no one knows. So people are doubting there is anygirl.
Still slighty upsetting. That day i found out i must have cried for an hour.
So lately i have been trying to keep busy trying to not like him anymore. I must be honest, it hasn't been all that succesful. But i now have this missing feeling. This feeling like there is no guy out there that i will ever like. A missing feeling? It's quite awkward. Everytime i see him walking down the halls i think "Oh look there he is..i wonder if i could flirt...no wait i can't he has a girlfriend i can't do that."
I guess i am not used to NOT liking anyone. Not trying to flirt or going after as were.
A few questions, what could i do about this missing feeling. How can i stop liking my crush.
He told me we can still be friends since we have been friends ever since the first day of highschool (2004-2005 school year)
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 5:25 pm
You can still be friends with him and have a lasting friendship if you wish, but it might be a good idea to take a break from him for now and have some time for yourself instead. With a little time the feeling of having "something missing" will pass, but if you keep your mind on him too often it will only slow things down for you.
That said, try to keep your mind focused on activities that you enjoy and people whom you know will be able to keep you in good spirits for now. You could also try talking and/or flirting with other guys if you feel up to it since he is not the only one out there.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 5:57 pm
Now this is from my expierence with relations. The more I try to avoid someone, the more they are on my mind, its probably asking for a lot, but don't try to avoid him or anything. If you go out of your way to avoid him that just means that he is on your mind that much more. Now I take note that nowhere in your post says you are avoiding him, so just stop thinking about trying to not like him I guess... if that makes sense, hot damn I am blithering
Like sense said, maybe a bit less time around him will help but otherwise I would keep things buisness as usual.
If you keep your mind on him you might miss other things around you worth noticing
Probably not all that helpful, but I tried
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 6:04 pm
No it helps. Thanks smile
Probably some of the most useful advice i have had in a while.
I will defiently try this all out tomorrow. smile
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 6:10 pm
good to know I am of use I guess. =P
(oh noes spam post) 8flees from the thread*
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 6:17 pm
I've actually been through the same situation lately, 'cept I'm sure the guy she likes is real. I know how hard this must be for you, but you do need to try and move on. If he can't see what kind of person you are and love you for it, then he doesn't deserve to be with you. I'm learning that lesson as well, it's tough to accept.
The super-short version of my situtaion: I've been friends with her for years, she was in a bad relationship, he cheated on her twice, i told her, she believed him, eventually she broke up with him, I didn't tell her I liked her because she had a lot to deal with at the time, she went out with my best friend, now she's broken up with him, I told her I liked her, she told me to get over it.
... Not really all that short, but compared to how much I can strech that out... xd So I do understand where you are coming from. Drop me a PM anytime if you need to, hun.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 6:19 pm
Well, you can't really force yourself to like someone or not like someone. It's just the natural way of life and it's a hard thing to deal with sometimes. And just because he supposedly has a girlfriend, doesn't mean you can't have a crush on him. There were plenty of times when I had crushes on guys with girlfriends. I'd suggest not trying to force yourself to not like him anymore, it'd only stress you out even more. Preoccupying yourself is a good way to get your mind off of him but let nature take its course too. There will be times whe you find yourself staring at him or thinking about him, just shake it off and keep on smiling. I hope you find something useful in this post. Good luck and take care!
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Posted: Thu Sep 22, 2005 2:51 pm
Thanks. I defiently think i can keep myself busy for a while
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