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 Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 2:50 pm
I'm in love with my best friend. I don't know what to do. She's bi and i'm les, but I don't know if shes in love with me or not.
Any things I can look for to tell if she does or does not love me in that way?
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Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 3:01 pm
omg! i had the same problem last year... only it turned out that the chick i liked was desperate and started going out with a perverted loser. needless to say, that made me loose my attraction.
anyways! sorry sweatdrop ok. this is a common problem, and there's really never anything to look for to see if someone likes you back. i mean, sometimes we imagine they like us back, and sometimes we don't notice when they actually do like us. the easiest thing to do is just tell her that you like her, and it'll probably be hard, but it's the best way to find out for sure. and you should do it before she gets in a relationship.
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 5:00 pm
the_forgotten_thought omg! i had the same problem last year... only it turned out that the chick i liked was desperate and started going out with a perverted loser. needless to say, that made me loose my attraction. anyways! sorry sweatdrop ok. this is a common problem, and there's really never anything to look for to see if someone likes you back. i mean, sometimes we imagine they like us back, and sometimes we don't notice when they actually do like us. the easiest thing to do is just tell her that you like her, and it'll probably be hard, but it's the best way to find out for sure. and you should do it before she gets in a relationship. Well, i do have a little history with her. She went out with me for a month. She fell out of love with me after a bit, i noticed and we broke up. Then she got together with my other best friend cheyenne, but cheyenne moved away a few weeks ago. I don't know what to do anymore. If i tell her i love her that way and she doesn't love me back, it ruins our friendship
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Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 6:12 pm
it wouldn't necessarily ruin the friendship. don't worry about the past though. i mean, if you ask her if she wants to get back together because you still love her, it's not like your just some random person trying to get her on the rebound. if you tell her you wanna get back together, she will either accept or tell you no. that doesn't mean you guys can't be friends just because she didn't wanna go out.
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 6:30 pm
Mmm I see. You make a good point! I just wouldn't know what to say to her. If she rejects me, I can take it. No loss, right? Things just stay the same.
Could you help me with what to say to her?
Maybe something like
Amanda, I need to speak my mind and heart without making our friendship become awkward. I'm still in love with you and want to be with you. So my question to you is do you want to get back together with me? If not then I'm fine still just being fawesome best friends if you don't like me 'that way'. No loss if you wanna stay fawesome friends, right?
Could you help me buff out the details? Or is it great the way it is?
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Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 11:03 am
Rainbow Star of Love Mmm I see. You make a good point! I just wouldn't know what to say to her. If she rejects me, I can take it. No loss, right? Things just stay the same.
Could you help me with what to say to her?
Maybe something like
Amanda, I need to speak my mind and heart without making our friendship become awkward. I'm still in love with you and want to be with you. So my question to you is do you want to get back together with me? If not then I'm fine still just being fawesome best friends if you don't like me 'that way'. No loss if you wanna stay fawesome friends, right?
Could you help me buff out the details? Or is it great the way it is? that's really good, except you kinda sound like your expecting her to reject you, which is reasonable but you shouldn't say it so much. perhaps just end it after your question. i mean, you guys are awesome friends so she's not gonna reject you without saying that you guys should stay awesome friends. it's just, if you say "no loss" it makes it sound as if your NOT in love with her. you know what i mean?
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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