Okay, for the headdress, all you need to do is follow this tutorial:
http://www.freewebs.com/brokendolly/headdress.htmland then add the ears from this tutorial:
http://www.cosplaywiki.org/index.php/Cat_ear_hatFor the dress... You might try searching for Lolita patterns, or joining a Lolita Guild here on Gaia and looking for sewing patterns there. I could draw a pattern for that dress (or at least the top part), but I don't know if you'd be able to follow it.
I'm trying to graduate from doll clothing to human clothing, so I'm not sure how well my hand-drawn patterns would apply to human-scale clothing anyway.
In any event, good luck with it, and I hope the tutorials help you make your headdress!