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 Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 11:30 am
Okay, so here it goes *takes deep breath*
So, I like this person and they like me back, we hang out sometimes but one of us has to travel 1.30 minutes to hang out. Before this person liked me we would talk all the time I would get called and text's first. After we liked each other it changed.. I would always have to text or call first or i would not be talked to... If we were to hang out her friend would be the one to text me or call me to tell me the details I was never told by her. Anyway, I hung out recently and all she did was aim people on the phone.. That made me think twice..the same day I offered her and her friend (guy) to chill at my house, and he answered with a legit excuse no gas. She told me she had work at 4 pm the next day, mind you its 7 at this time. So i got upset and left. She didn't even bother to talk to me so i sent a text and all i got was a stop. Its really upsetting because i like this person but I don't know. We hung out yesterday and it was fun but it kind of depresses me every time and i don't know why really... I have kissed and stuff but nothing too much...Any advice on what i should do? Should I keep this going? I just and extremely confused..
heart That was toooo much hah
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 6:53 pm
[It wasn't too much at all! We're here for you heart ]
So here's the question: Was your friend just going through a phase/in a bad mood, or was she not a very good friend?
I think that if you feel like she treats you well and acts like a good friend, I would persue this person.
But here's the thing. Is this girl worth persuing?
It doesn't seem fair that she'd make up an excuse [she works at 4 but it was only 7] and that she wouldn't really pay attention to you when you were together. That wasn't too nice of her.
When you sent the text, what do you mean when you say "all I got as a stop"?
Nobody's perfect, but if this friend keeps doing things over and over to get you confused, maybe you could try talking to her about it.
Sometimes communication can be very handy ^^
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 7:15 pm
And, as hard as it may be, maybe the best thing to do if she's always mean to you is to simply not be her friend.
It seems that everything changed once you two realized you liked each other. Maybe there's something she's dealing with, that makes her feel she's not allowed to like you?
Also, I'm sorry, but by 1.30 minutes do you mean an hour and a half?
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 8:04 pm
Ha sorry guys should have made it clearer. I did mean an hour and a half. And yes she would always conveniently forget to call me back not ever text me either i have to do it every time or we would never talk. And when I did confront her all she did was tell me to stop it. My friends at school are not happy because they say i have gotten very angry at people for no reason. I guess because its the only chance I have and I want to hold on to it so badly... Thanks guys smile
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 8:56 pm
hanafan36 And, as hard as it may be, maybe the best thing to do if she's always mean to you is to simply not be her friend. It seems that everything changed once you two realized you liked each other. Maybe there's something she's dealing with, that makes her feel she's not allowed to like you? Also, I'm sorry, but by 1.30 minutes do you mean an hour and a half? I kinda have to agree with hana here... I went through a similar situation (actually still go through it) with my friend adam. There came a point when I just had to say enoughs enough and I dont wanna deal with this.... and we'll stop being friends until he calls me and tells me he misses me and that I'm the only one that likes him for him... and then we'll go through the same process over again... but the only difference is if you decide to not be friends with her anymore, you should stick to your guns on this one....
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 9:59 pm
Layleah hanafan36 And, as hard as it may be, maybe the best thing to do if she's always mean to you is to simply not be her friend. It seems that everything changed once you two realized you liked each other. Maybe there's something she's dealing with, that makes her feel she's not allowed to like you? Also, I'm sorry, but by 1.30 minutes do you mean an hour and a half? I kinda have to agree with hana here... I went through a similar situation (actually still go through it) with my friend adam. There came a point when I just had to say enoughs enough and I dont wanna deal with this.... and we'll stop being friends until he calls me and tells me he misses me and that I'm the only one that likes him for him... and then we'll go through the same process over again... but the only difference is if you decide to not be friends with her anymore, you should stick to your guns on this one.... That also happened and she imed me a few days later and I totally fell for it.. I can say I am emotionally weak because i guess i really like her.. Grr so frustrating!!
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 10:30 pm
Yeah it's hard. Especially when you like someone and want to be apart of their life... And it's not gonna just happen over night, it takes patience... but trust me it might be better for you in the long run...
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 1:35 am
Yeah I know it takes time...I just cant seem to ignore it... I don't really get all tat lucky in that department for some reason...My friends say I can do better but the past tells me not so much...I really need to grow up and just forget it.
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 1:50 am
Nothing wrong with growing up... how old are you if you dont mind me asking?
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 8:22 am
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 9:10 am
yeah.... dont have to grow up just yet
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 2:27 pm
She told you to stop it? =/
That sounds pretty cruel.
Maybe she's a little over-controling.
By that, I mean, maybe she thinks she controls the friendship.
Like, she calls whenever she feels like it, she hangs out only when she wants and so on.
Have you told her that you don't like the way she's acting?
There's so so so many people out there that would treat you way better and you deserve great friends heart
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 9:07 pm
Yes I officially have handled this situation! I sat her down and said "look..." haha. Its fixed and if I don't get treated better im letting it go. There are better people out there.
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Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 1:07 pm
surfthepipe8000 Yes I officially have handled this situation! I sat her down and said "look..." haha. Its fixed and if I don't get treated better im letting it go. There are better people out there. yay! GOOD for you!!!! -grabs surf and dances merrily-
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Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 1:58 pm
-Since it is resolved, I am officially locking the thread-
(p.s, I'm so happy for you! ^_^)
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