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 Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:20 am
I don't want to be a pity story.
Nor am I looking for it.
I just need some advice...
I belong to a family of sorts. My mom, my sister and I. My mom is very verbal in how she communicates. She yells constantly; most often it gets me crying. Now, being a teenager I know that it's hard for a single mom to come home and find my school stuff all over the couch and all that jazz. I know that, but most times she just yells for no apparent reason. She curses alot, and sometimes she loses her temper and hits me. That and she doesn't trust me, so I can't go outside or anything unless it's to run an errand or my sister's with me (which doesn't happen very often...) Plus she's very quick to assume I had something to do with it when things go wrong or something's messed up.
My sister and I have our moments, but most of the time she talks to me like she hates me. "Oh my god ____ you're seriously WAY too fat! You need to go on a diet or something!" "What are you wearing? Ugh-no. You look like a grandma." "You embarrass me, seriously..." "Ok, you are NOT related to me." It's been to the point to where she asked mom to make me stay in the back of the house for her birthday party or 'wheneveriwantaparty' parties. And mom agreed. When we were little my sister and my step- sister used to tie me up with a jump rope and lock me in a closet. That and my sister has actually tried to hurt me. Like, one time she tried to smother me with my pillow, she threw a glass bottle into my head (which I had to get stitches for), she's stabbed me with a fork into my calf (she justified that one by saying that I stole her macaroni and cheese, which I didn't. I hate that stuff), and she's tried to poison me with salt water (I have a really bad reaction to a lot of salt. She told me it was lemonade when I was sick.) She's also given herself bruises and told my mom and step-dad that I did it, and I got severely punished for it. However, when she finally DID come clean, she got a pat on the back and was told never to do it again! We're only 19 months apart and she also uses that to her advantage.
I know that every family has it's ups and downs, but it's been this way for a very long time. I am very isolated most of the time in my room, I'm manically depressed and I've thought about scuicide a few times.
What i need advice about its-
How can I deal with all of this in a safe way? Do you have any advice on how to deal with it in general?
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Posted: Sun Jul 20, 2008 12:14 am
Honestly, I'd get out of the house as soon as you are able to afford it. None of that can be healthy for you.
In the meantime, can you stand up to your sister at all, even if it gets you in a little trouble? If you let her push you around, she'll keep doing it. At the very least, don't let her talk that crap to you. How you look and dress is none of her business. If she dislikes your style to that degree, tell her to just stay away from you and leave you alone.
I'd also try talking to your parents if you think it might help. Tell them and show them how your sister is treating you, and that you think you two aren't being treated fairly. Maybe they aren't noticing the difference in how they're treating you two individually.
As for your manic depression, can you see a counsellor/therapist, or talk to your school counsellor? Maybe some therapy would help, or some medication. I don't know a lot about manic depression, sorry, so I can't help much with advice for that. But I know there's treatment options for it, and if your parents won't help you, definitely look into it on your own.
If your parents are hitting you hard enough to leave marks, start recording it. That's child abuse and it's not acceptable. If you decide to go to the police or Child Protection Services (I'm guessing you live in the US, and I'm not familiar with how their systems work down there), then you will have evidence that they are physically abusing you.
That's all I can think of right now, sorry. Hope it was at least a little help. Keep us posted! And sorry for the slow reply. whee
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