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D/s vs. Abuse

D/s is about the building of a trusting relationship between two consenting adult partners.

Abuse is about the breach of trust between an authority figure and the person in their care.

D/s is about the mutual respect demonstrated between two enlightened people.

Abuse is about the lack of respect that one person demonstrates to another person.

D/s is about a shared enjoyment of controlled erotic pain and/or humiliation for mutual pleasure.

Abuse is about a form of out-of-control physical violence and/or personal or emotional degradation of the submissive.

D/s is about loving each other completely and without reservation in an alternate way.

Abuse is hurtful. It is also very damaging emotionally and spiritually to the submissive.

D/s frees a submissive from the restraints of years of vanilla conditioning to explore a buried part of herself.

Abuse binds a submissive to a lonely and solitary life of shame, fear and secrecy... imprisoning her very soul.

D/s builds self-esteem as a person discovers and embraces their long hidden sexuality.

Abuse shatters and destroys a person's self-esteem and leaves self-hatred in its place.