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 Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 2:02 am
ok let me explane the situation first.
i was dateing J** i have known him for 2 years and am totaly in love with the guy, however he wouldn't commit. so my friend who i have known for 3 years talked me into dateing him instead, however i don't love him at least not the same way, and if i go to say i love you or i do say it i feel like i am lieing not only to him but to myself as well. I told J** how i felt and that i really wanted him to buy a ring and propose to me because we have been togeather along time and i want to know that it is going someplace. He told me that he loves me and the few days we have been apart has been just horrible, and i feel the same. He also told me that he was thinking since i was gone and wants to buy me a ring and propose.
I walked into his appartment to get a few of my things to stay the night with Katt and i just broke down crying because the smell reminded me of him and stuff. Also me and C** (my friend) have talked about it and he thinks it is also weird that we are dateing and that it doesn't feel right (at this point in time) because we have been such good friends for along time.
I don't know how long i can handle being away from him much longer. I dont want C**'s parents to be angry with me because they like me and i like them but i just don't feel the same when i am with C** as i am with J**.
I don't know who to turn to really and i don't know what else to do. I just feel like i am falling apart. I mean how do you know when you really want and need to be with someone?
please any help would do.
~Crystal~
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 2:22 am
If you read my other problem this may make a bit more since to you ... suprize is my best friend ... now she has a problem and I'm too involved to really give much help on the matter ... If you can help her that would be wonderful ... Please try not to be too mean ... I may be in here posting with her telling me what to say ~ she can't get on whenever she wants like I can ...
wether you agree or don't telling us will help .. even if someone else has said it ...
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 2:25 am
I told her that J** would really want her back if she was the one to break up with him to make him realize what he would be missing ... and I was right ... C** really likes her but I'm not sure what he really WANTS right now ... he says he wants her but is doing just about everything to get into the army ... if he really wanted to be with her you'd think that he would try to find a way to stay local right?
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 8:31 am
In my country all the army thing is different, here poeple have to go to the army.
I heard in USA poeple go to the army cuz they have finaniacl problems and this is thier only way to survive, so if that is this young men case, i can't blame him.
taken_by_suprize, why do you think you don't like your boyfriend?
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 10:13 am
Here some people go for the money some go cuz they just really want to be part of the Army ... Some go to aviod their lives as they are ... and some go so they can see the world
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 1:24 pm
Katt Smith Here some people go for the money some go cuz they just really want to be part of the Army ... Some go to aviod their lives as they are ... and some go so they can see the world When you go to the army in Israel you don't see the world.
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 1:47 pm
Here you end up basically going there
Crystal and I went over to J**'s house last night and we all taked about some different things ... she's hanging out with him now and C** called me looking for her ~ when I tried to call her she didn't anwser for me ither
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 7:13 pm
It's not going to be easy but you have to do this. if you are not feelings nothing for C your going to have to break up with him because its not fair for you or him. you have to think of yourself before thinking of other people. about J if you love him you should be with him. some guys are terrified of commitment. it's understandable. but even if you don't stay with J break up with C because you like him like a friend not like a boyfriend.
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 7:21 pm
Yeah crystal and C** have been friends for several years ... They both think its weird
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Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 2:10 pm
well i did take your advice and i talked to C about it and told him it was too weird and that i didn't have those kinds of feelings for him, then i broke up with him. now i have a new problem. he doesn't get it into his head.
he is all like oh it will get better you will see. and i am like no it wont and we arn't togeather anymore, he keeps telling me we are.
so how do i get him to realize that i am not his girlfriend anymore. because i have tried to sit down and talk with him about it and he just doesn't get it. he also told me he wants to marry me and i told him that i just didn't feel the same way, again he tells me that in time i will. he is really stubbarn and i dont think he gets it.
oh and now J has told me that he doesn't want to get engaged, so now i am wondering if he is saying this to throw me off the track or if he really means it. but he wont talk to me about it because i have already asked.
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Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 2:42 pm
about your ex...he's pretty creepy. I suggest you stop communicating with him. because if you keep on going to places and spending time with him he won't get the message. about J that really sucks but he might have meant it, you might want to ask him one more time, and ask why. if he gives you a reason and says the same answer. he means it.
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Posted: Thu Jun 26, 2008 5:10 am
Ohh this C guy looks cute, you should introdce him to your girl friends. If he find another girl he most likely will leave the dream of marring you.
wink
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Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 6:46 pm
shani26 Ohh this C guy looks cute, you should introdce him to your girl friends. If he find another girl he most likely will leave the dream of marring you. wink that might work but most likely since he's so emotionally connected to her chances are that he's not going to really care. he will just pay attention to her instead of her friends and take it as a date.
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Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 11:57 pm
meleny who said she have to be in thier date? wink
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Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 10:08 pm
  Yeah, I know what it's liked... to date someone you don't even like. Saying 'I love you' is very awkward. It's not true, but you feel like you should say it to return the favor (more or less).
And I don't know why C's parents will be angry at you. It didn't work out, what are they going to do? Threaten you? They are full of experiences with this sort of thing, I don't believe they will hate you over such a petty thing. Unless, you like, I don't know, hurt their son REALLY badly, physically. Anyways, stay true to your feelings.
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