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 Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 6:25 pm
i am having trouble deciding wether i should come out or not. i don't know how my parents are going to take it and i really like this guy and he likes me back but i'm having trouble deciding to come out or not and i need advice and support right now. thanks bye!!! Keithing's cut and paste i've tried to come out before but i couldn't tell my parents or my friends and everytime i try to tell etiher one of them they mention how nice i am and i'm afraid that they will be angry or what not and i need support and advice. thank you very much!
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 7:19 pm
It's a noble move to come out because you think it's essential to a stable relationship, and by no means am I saying it's wrong to do so. However, you have to consider your situation. Are you actually ready to do this because you want to, and is it the right time for it? It's tough coming out younger, and unless you're completely able to survive any situation that might come up from your parents' reactions, I would suggest you wait. Would they be alright with it, or would they think nothing of throwing you out because of it? Think ahead, and test them to see how they react about certain things.
From the sound of it, you haven't come out to anyone else either. My personal suggestion would be to start with your close friends that you can trust not to spread it around or cut you off for it. When you're confident enough, and have an idea of how your parents may react, then start considering coming out to them. Good luck. 3nodding
Oh, by the way, I do believe we have a policy against spamming, so I'm going to delete the younger post and paste your message here. Try to keep related posts in one thread and, since I don't believe I've seen you here before, welcome to the guild. wink
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Posted: Wed Sep 07, 2005 4:23 pm
thanks and sorry for the spamming but i've decided to talk to one of my older friends who is also gay and has a b?f and ask him how he did it and if he has any suggestions...
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Posted: Wed Sep 07, 2005 4:44 pm
Tidus_13 thanks and sorry for the spamming but i've decided to talk to one of my older friends who is also gay and has a b?f and ask him how he did it and if he has any suggestions... That's really good idea. I'm glad you might have someone (who you already know and who knows you) you can talk to. Have you already come out to him, or would this be it? Good luck in either case.
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Posted: Wed Sep 07, 2005 4:56 pm
Actually I am instant messenging him at the moment. Thank you all for your support.
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Posted: Wed Sep 07, 2005 6:57 pm
*hugs* Tell us how it goes?
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Posted: Sat Sep 17, 2005 10:46 pm
If you have doubts, push them aside and do it.
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Posted: Sun Sep 18, 2005 1:08 am
Tidus_13 Actually I am instant messenging him at the moment. Thank you all for your support. You're quite welcome, and do ask if you have any other questions.
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