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I was talking to a friend of mine and we discussed our "first time" with our fiancees. We had two totally different experiences! So I was wondering about yours. (You don't have to go into detail! I don't wanna know details!)

Mine hurt like a mother. Our first "try" was more of an "attempt" because it hurt so much. Probably due to a nice mixture of sheer terror (I was uber nervous) and the fact that I had hoped to wait til marriage. (Plus I had never seen a man in his birthday suit so it was VERY weird! Nor had any man seen me in my b-day suit.)

Oh yes and it was in the front seat of his pickup truck. xd Not comfortable and very, very awkward. Luckily he was very understanding and had no problem stopping.

- Did your first time hurt?
- Was it planned?

My first time was on a water bed, we were both virgins. So if you can imagine, it was kind of awkward xD

It did kind of hurt, then it went from OW! to oooh...lol

But other than that, it was pretty awesome. We both had planned to save ourselves for marriage, but then we decided we probably wanted to get married someday, and truly loved each other. I don't regret it, we both will have really grand honeymoon sex because it won't be awkward. :3

I'm getting married August 16th to my foxy <3

Over the months it's gotten more and more enjoyable as we both discover together what we enjoy most.

Our first time was the wedding night... It hurt like the type of pain when someone tries stretching two fingers too far apart from each other. Stinging burning stretching. I think I broke my hymen by accident when I was 8, so no blood thank goodness. Unfortunately I was completely exhausted from the wedding and then a five hour drive to the bed and breakfast which meant I wasn't really in the mood to do it, that probably contributed to the lack of comfort. The next morning was much better, but I didn't really enjoy it until a month or two later.

My first time with my fiance was also my first time in general. xD

It was at my sister and me's Halloween party as things were winding down, we went in the side yard of my house with a blanket. It was very cold and surprisingly not very painful. Except, I could barely get into it cause I just kept thinking "I'm having sex. Oh my god, I'm having sex." xDDDDDD

I guess I'm like one out of the billion of girlies that actually didn't have any sort of discomfort... but I guess I will contribute that to years of masturbation... Lol... But yea. :/ My first time was very, "This is it?" It was rather disappointing to say the least... And then I realized that it's all about foreplay!! Not sex. Sex lasts two minutes. Foreplay lasts hours. <3

It was definitely planned . . . on my part anyhow. ^^ We were both virgins but I've always been one for taking risks and knowing what I want (or thinking I do anyhow) so I jumped him. We weren't even engaged yet by that point, but I knew that I wouldn't regret giving it up to him even if we hadn't ended up getting married. Penetration hurt the first two or three times . . . but that was all. I think that sex is a big deal until you have it. Afterwards, it's just sex . . . meh. I mean, it's still enjoyable and one of my very favorite parts of the day (not that we have sex every day) but it's just not as big of a deal anymore.