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Excuse my language but I did a small test to prove my friend was wrong which I had failed. Meaning he was right. Solving problems in person rather than on the phone, through texting, MAPLING, gaia, etc. is the best thing to do. I did this to see if that was true because there has been countless times when my friend and I would get into a fight and seemingly it always happened over the phone, through a text message, on gaia, or on Maple Story. I figured out she is a coward because she had always ran away from something to be done in person. And said all these things she would not dare say to me in person.

Despite height differences, despite the fact that she takes Aikido, I can still beat her to a pulp and I know that. Take this, I was literally dragging three guys almost twice my size just to scare a friend. That was when I was having fun, imagine if I was pissed off. Which might I add, BARELY even happens. One guy took martial arts, one guy works out a f*** load, and the other a little bit of both. No lie. Take my word because it is true, I don't need to prove myself to be telling the truth.

As my experiment went:
I was talking to myself out loud about random things. Kinda like a crazy person...and no, I'm not crazy. One person walks by, stops, then comes up to me and says:
"What was that noob"
I said I wasn't talking to him. [No names will be mentioned]
I began talking to myself again. Again, another fellow comes up to me and says the same exact thing. I replied the same as what I said to the last guy who came up to me. But this time... he full on went about dissing me. I'm in the guild "NXpimp" and I use to have NX. But it expired. I tried to lighten the mood and MAYBE make friends. But he took it the total wrong way. And figured I was stupid despite the fact that my grammer was a s*** load better than his. THEN [this is my warrior who is level 25, female so I'm using the armor and the helmet that covers your face] goes on about how my face was ugly. Even though he hasn't seen it. Even though he hasn't seen my real face [not to toot my own horn I'm just saying that MANY people tell me that I have a pretty face, frankly I look average at the very least]. Even though looks shouldn't even matter. I personally go for personality. Again, I tried a different approach to MAYBE make friends. Failed. I would say he pretty much won that even though some things didn't make sense. He could still type a lot faster than me. Which gave him that advantage to win the fight and continue the fight.

My friend can type a lot faster than me. She could text faster than me. DOn't even think about over the phone because they have the chance to hang up; run away. In person they can't run away, in person they can't say things they would over the internet/phone, in person you will have the authority to speak. Over the internet is just unfair because you can't see the emotions, you can't see reality, you can't hear the hurt or anger in your voice, you can't hear the reality because people will have an advantage. With that, I highly recommend to resolve in person, not over the phone/internet because no matter what, there will be some advantage. In person everyone has the chance to say, hear and see whats really going on. Thank you.
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I'm sorry. Usually I'm a cheery person but this just really made me upset. I'm still use to trying to get it over with over the phone/internet. But I realize that in person shall always be the way to true peace between the two in argument. I just wanted you to know. If you know the person in real life, and you get into an argument, do it in person. Because of the choice of trying over internet/phone, our friendship still suffers from it. We still have disagreements and have a small tiny fight here and there and get back in the past. Do not make the same mistake, do not ruin your relationship with the person. It'll never be the same. If you don't know the person just stop, go offline or get away from that person. It'll just make you look like the bad person too if you continue to fight back.

Again I'm usually a cheery person but just wanted people to realize this and not suffer the same thing as I am. I got really stressed out because my friend and I fought again a little while ago. I'm going to take care of it tomorrow. Uhh...I think I get into many fights with people [I do. Even if I just said something when talking to someone. Or did something on accident] because I have a different way and mind than many MANY others. I wanted to vent it out. Its better that way because holding it in can cause damage to yourself. If I did this in my journal then my friend would get pissed off because she doesn't like the spot light on her or whatever the reason is...Thank you for reading this and tolerating it.

HAPPY MAPLING!! AND HAVE A NICE DAY!!

I don't regret putting that up...because it was another test. To show that the person who says something about it, is a coward they themselves. It is a comfort zone behind that mask not only from the intimidation, which I do not use when confronting someone. It's also to keep the upper hand, and live in a fantasy. I remember it just like yesterday that she actually wanted to beat the crap out of me. And for the most stupidest reason too. Because I was depressed...and wouldn't snap out of it.

Also because I have to be strong, people ALWAYS try to intimidate me to try and get their way. Even here in Hawai'i, people think just because I'm a girl, they can over-take me and get what they want. I'm not over-confident or anything along those lines.

I'm only talking about this one person who doesn't want to solve her problems in person WITH ANYONE ever. The internet and the phone is only a mask that covers whats really going on. Its only this person who runs away from problems and doesn't really agree because she does but because she just wants to get it out of the way and get out of there.

The same goes to you, I wouldn't want to be friends with you either. I don't like cowards. The only reason why I've stayed with this girl, is because I'm trying to help her onto the path for a better life. MANY have given up on her. I haven't. MANY times has she hurt me. I forgave her.

I'd have to agree with everything that Artess just said; Instead of fighting with the person && causing more conflict's, you should have toned yourself down and be the mature one, even if you didn't prove your point or whatever, you'll know that you were the one that was trying to fix the problem, so you wouldn't be able to say to yourself, " Oh I did something wrong, I said this instead of that.. " o__o;

But like, you getting people to help you is showing that you can't defend for yourself. Why would you need people to help you with your own problems ? I hate dragging other people into my own problems so I don't even bother going through all that effort, right ?
Well, like what Artess said, this thread is pretty much pointless .

I didn't say you're a coward period. I said you're a coward to face problems FACE TO FACE. Just by saying that "...I am a "coward" for telling you that's wrong...", I could assume that you wouldn't say that to my face.

Okay I was pissed off at the moment and tried to make myself seem bigger. Only because of her threats to me. Only because people think they can overtake me. I'm really cautious, perhaps, too cautious which winds up causing people to hate me and assume this and that...I don't expect people to congratulate me or side with me, respect me or love me. I could care less... In fact, I didn't even expect anyone to say anything to this topic I've posted. I haven't even threatened her...I don't threaten anyone. I won't throw a punch at anyone unless they do it first because I know better to start fights or any type of violence. I am in fact against it. If you don't want to take my word for it, then so be it. I've already said that I'm not self-centered either. I haven't bullied anyone in my life.
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I will always make a mistake especially at this time because my head is crazed by all this crap thats happening around me to others, happening in the world, happening to myself. Everyone makes a mistake...No such thing as perfect. And I can so defend for myself. Look, 3 people have just disagreed with my thoughts right now and I'm trying to get you guys to see what I mean.

AND You can't do everything by yourself. Not always. I hate dragging people because I don't like to burden people...but I do it anyways. See, when you're upset, someone will always sense it. Which will make them concerned and brings them down.
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AGAIN. I personally think that I'm an ugly piece of s**t. And AGAIN. I was pissed off because she always ran away. Like MANY MANY others, I am blind when I'm angry. And say something I don't mean...I don't even start the fights between us...she does and I'm the stupid one who continues it. Except for the last fight...I stopped already and walked away. As for everyone else, the fights start from other people because they can't see where I am getting at.
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What I mean is, its not that I don't like her. Its that I don't like the way she acts and it isn't only to me. She does it to other people. But I'm the only one who stands up and tries to do something. God knows if she hates me or not...God knows the truth she tells.

This post was just me pissed off but I could still see well enough to tell you that solving problems in person is the best way to keep your relationship decent. Unlike mines...its screwed up because I chose to fight back, I chose to continue it over the phone or the computer. Even though I was trying to calm her down and solve the problem...I should've known better than to talk to her when she was pissed. I should've known better...

I guess you guys are right, I'm a horrible person....Good bye.

I prefer arguments over the computer. Because really, when people are upset they tend to say things they don't mean. When you argue over a computer you have time to think about what you want to say and you can make your point without walking on the other person's toes.