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You're right, pain during sex usually means something isn't going quite right. The problem is usually not enough lubrication, being nervous/tense, or not being in the mood.

I would suggest trying a water-based lubricant if you didn't already. Sometimes women think they're lubricated enough even when they aren't, and lack of lubrication is the most common cause of pain, so that's always worth a shot.

If you still feel pain even with lubrication, when you know you are in the mood, and you know you are relaxed, then you need to talk to your ob-gyn about it since pain can be a symptom of a few different things.

it should not matter what type of p***s he has. it shouldnt hurt no matter what type its probaly what lorien said not enough lubrication and she should relax too

That helped a LOT. (:

But I have another questionnn...
When we are having sex, it feels more like a dull ache than anything, and I was just wondering if anyone else experienced that for their first few times. I expect that it will go away. arrow question

Sometimes, if you have to go to the bathroom, even just a little it can ache a bit more than usual. But yeah, aches are normal. That's why there's more than one position! wink

I kind of doubt that's your cervix because I don't think the cervix would feel that hard to him. I know exactly what you're talking about though. I sometimes feel like my partner hits a bone. It might be them hitting the pelvic bone from being at a slightly odd angle? I'm not really sure. Good question for an ob-gyn if anyone has an upcoming appointment! xp

Those are also common feelings. Sex can put pressure on your bladder, so even if it isn't full, it might feel full during sex. Also, some women say they feel like they have to pee before they ejaculate. While most women don't ejaculate anything during orgasm, some do, and you never know if you might be one of the ones who can! If you want to experiment with it, you can try just letting go when you get the need to pee feeling. For easier cleaning, you can try having sex in the shower, on a hardwood floor, on a towel, etc.

Yeah, it is too soon to say for sure whether you can ejaculate or orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. That's because many women who can don't realize it for a long time, often years after becoming sexually active. Women who ejaculate often say they always felt the need to pee during sex but rather than letting go, they held back. So it might be something worth experimenting with.

Feeling like you need to pee isn't a guarantee that you'll be able to ejaculate though. Sometimes it just means there's pressure on your bladder. xp

Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation. If you enjoy clitoral stimulation too, pay attention to your clitoris during sex. It's not difficult to stimulate it, so most women who orgasm during sex do so from the clitoral stimulation.