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 Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 5:05 pm
My dad is really into his religion, Christianity, and I'm Wiccan. First off, I don't know how to tell him, or when. Can anyone help me with this who might have experienced something like it? Thanks to anyone who helps!
Guild Captain,
~ Ruby ~
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Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 10:39 pm
actually I'm going threw it right now to.
One thing I did was I started droping hints. If he doesn't get those then I guess you'lljust have tocome right out and tellhim.
Now if hegetsupset(which he most likly will) just remeber it's because he cares about you and your soul.
Also for alot of parents as their kids get older they feel like they r losing control and this adds to that problem. I know my father right now isn't taking the time to listen to me so you may have to sit him down and tell him excally what you belive. It's hard but if you are truly dedicated to the Craft( and I'm not meaning to question your dedication) then it's just another step closer to the Lord and the Lady.
Show himsome ofyour reading materials and lethimreadthem. The more he knows the easier it will be for him to accept it. If nothing works and you get the respones I got" I don't want to hear it" or "I'll not permitt those books or that religion in my house" then show himyour dedication study the booksin the house.
A cousin of mine told her mother by saying a wiican prayer at the dinner table when she wasasked tosay grace one night. May be you could try that.
Sorry I know I wrote alot but I've been studying to tell my parents all week.
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Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 5:39 pm
Hmm... that may work. It's just that I'm 13, and since I was 10 or 11, I've been Christian. My dad is really strict too... I mean really. If I knock something off the shelf when were at the store, by accident, he grabs my arms [it hurts] and yells so the whole store can hear. He has mental disability issues, not mental retardation [no offense, that's just the scientific way of saying it], but he's a little crazy. He also has anger management problems. Should I wait and tell him when I'm an adult then?
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Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 1:34 pm
well..that might be a good idea maybe you should tell him when you move out.
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Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 5:41 pm
Hey there. I'm going through the same thing - and have been for the past four years. That right there tells you that it might be a tough road to walk. Especially with your case being somewhat like mine. My parents are both strict, authoritative Fundamentalist Christians (I actually coined a loooong term to describe them - Apostolic-Pentecostal-Fundamentalist-Messianic Jewish-"Enlightened"-Christian. Will explain at a later time.) ... My dad's pretty harsh, and my mom kinda just lets him do whatever to me - even though he's not my BIOLOGICAL father... scream ... They don't necessarily have diagnosed psychological problems, but they definitely have anger issues and other major dysfunctions. For a long time, they outright wouldn't even listen to my side of things - they simply wrote it off as the Devil trying to take me down, I was into evil stuff, etc. Lately, they've been more open to me telling them what I think about, especially when I stress over and over again that these topics are things I'm researching, not yet committed to. That seems to help. Plus, their church is starting to learn about a lot of stuff that I started researching on my own four and a half years ago! And my parents (and their pastor) told me I was in the wrong! Now I can go "See? Told ya so!" Only... not so gloating. Though I'd like to. sweatdrop 3nodding
The best thing you can do is study up. Also, anticipate their questions, and figure out how you would best answer them. It even helps to make flash cards. And let them know your feelings using "I-messages"...
However, the one thing I would definitely stress THE MOST is that you need to find a way to make your home life better. It sounds like your dad needs some help. I would not say TO him that he should go to a therapist, but possibly talk to your school counselor. You also might benefit from going to a therapist yourself. A great way to go to one without much cost is by finding a local college that has a psychology and counseling department - they often have student counselors at the ready, just waiting to be able to help and get experience. Tell them, whoever you choose to talk to, about your stressors, including school, home life, religion conflicts, relationship issues, etcetera.
Hope I helped, hun. And sorry for not being around much - my parents never let me use the Internet at home, and now that I have college classes, I'm always doing homework... (*whispers* I should be doing some now! sweatdrop sweatdrop )
heart heart heart
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Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 11:26 am
you know I hate when people tell me that Wicca is the devil trying to get us. I'm not just going threw this with my dad their is a kid at school who I thought was my friend but the other day he sayed some things that just irritated me so much I can't even be in the same room as him right now. scream
People need to learn that just because I belive something different then you doesn't mean that what I belive is wroung.
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Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 7:30 pm
Since your dad is alittle off... I wouldnt tell him. If he chooses to believe as he does then you have the choice to follow your own beliefs. For myself I just let people know im a free spirit and im open to hear about anything and will tell people what I may think if they ask..but other than that I keep quiet.
dramallama Just be true to yourself dramallama
merry meet
blessed be
buenos noches
go with god
and farewell
or whatever your goodbye may be
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Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 4:05 am
One last peice of advise make sure you explain clearly what you belive that makes things alot easier forr them because it will answer more of their questions. And DON'T let them change the topic on make them hear you and let them know that this is important to you.
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