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 Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 3:02 pm
A couple weeks ago my bf broke up with me, and right away my friend tried to go after him. I know we were broken up, but I wasn't over him yet. And to make matters worse she went on his ******** msn and pretended to be him and started talking about herself like 'oh, tehya is so hot.' 'tehya is so sexy' 'oh I want her' pretending to be my ex and make me jealous. And honestly I don't know what the ******** to do. I promised the person who told me she did it not to tell her I knew. I want to trust her, and we just started being friends after some backstabbery, but I can't trust her. And I don't know how to deal with this.
I don't have many friends, and they've always been hard for me to make.
I don't wanna lose one over a guy, but she really should have known better.
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Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 6:19 pm
Unfortunately, she's already made the decision not to be your friend. What she's doing now is just trying to make your life miserable, possibly so you get so upset that you actually end the friendship first, thus giving her the guilt-free okay to continue with her ways. As far as I see it, you have two options: you either cut communication with her in hopes she just goes away, or you try to talk to her about this issue. It doesn't seem like she's really in the place to listen to you, so I suggest just ignoring her.
In any case, you did lose her friendship, but you didn't do anything wrong. Just hang tight.
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Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 9:48 am
Soleq Unfortunately, she's already made the decision not to be your friend. What she's doing now is just trying to make your life miserable, possibly so you get so upset that you actually end the friendship first, thus giving her the guilt-free okay to continue with her ways. As far as I see it, you have two options: you either cut communication with her in hopes she just goes away, or you try to talk to her about this issue. It doesn't seem like she's really in the place to listen to you, so I suggest just ignoring her. In any case, you did lose her friendship, but you didn't do anything wrong. Just hang tight.
So, don't hang on so much to someone that is a friend by title, the only way to really make friends is to be one yourself. And if you can do that, you're all set to go and in which case, have nothing really to worry about.
Personally, if it was me, even at a younger age I would have confronted them. not go to them in anger but matter-of-factly, ''this is how you're making me feel'' because the longer you keep the fact to yourself that you know, the more it boils inside of you and the more it might blow up more in your face later in a big, commotional fight.
And I say that from personal experience.
Take care and keep your head.
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Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 7:42 pm
You could let it pass if she really didn't understand how hurtful she was being to you, but it certainly seems she's doing it on purpose. Confront her matter-of-factly about the issue and hopefully she'll understand. In my opinion, I think she lost the title of a true friend awhile ago and you shouldn't hold on to someone so hurtful.
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Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 10:46 am
Talk to your friend about the problem but don't freak out at her and let it get out of hand. Also you don't need to tell her how you found out just that you did. Also anouther bit of advice is don't go and start going out with anouther guy for a while. Evreyone needs time tothink on what happend and what went wrong and how things are going to change.
It's your life to live.
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