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 Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:26 am
Ok gals, I need your advice, tips, help and support. This is something that's been bugging me for quite a while and I need to know what to do because it might ruin a friendship.
First of all, there's L. She's been a friend of mine for four years now and our bond got much stronger when we went to a concert of our favourite band together several months ago. She doesn't dislike C., but she doesn't like her, either.
C. is my best friend. But dear God, she can be oh so annoying. Several weeks ago she also became a fan of my favourite band. Now, the trouble is, C. wants to accompany L. and I on our "grande tour" in Germany next year. We want to go see our favourite band in Germany (we decided that, like, two months ago) and now C. wants to come along as well.
But L. and I don't want to. We wanted to go to Germany on our own and we don't feel like dragging C. along, since that might ruin the trip and the concert. C. will be allowed to go (she asked her parents already) and as a matter of fact she pretty much invited herself.
So what do I have to do? Tell C. we don't want her around? Lie to her?
Help me, please!
Lost and confused,
Taormina
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 8:05 am
You will just have to tell her straight out that you don't want her to come along.
Tell her that the plan was originally for you and this L. firend.
Sadly, there is no way you can do this without C. getting annoyed, but it's also the only other way that you can go without her.
If C. really wants to go, then she can go with someone else.
It is not fair of her to invite herself, she's being selfish, and that means that there is no reason that you should allow her along with you.
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 8:18 am
Pure Vampyre You will just have to tell her straight out that you don't want her to come along.
Tell her that the plan was originally for you and this L. firend.
Sadly, there is no way you can do this without C. getting annoyed, but it's also the only other way that you can go without her.
If C. really wants to go, then she can go with someone else.
It is not fair of her to invite herself, she's being selfish, and that means that there is no reason that you should allow her along with you. You're right. This plan was originally for me and L. so there's no way I'm going to take another friend with me. She'll have to cope with it, I'm afraid. Thanks. <3 EDIT: I still feel bad about it, though. I don't want to hurt her feelings, seeing she's a friend of mine after all. She's quite emotional, so I'm afraid she won't understand it.
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:00 am
Think how bad you would feel if C. came along.
If L. and C. started to get into arguements.
Compare feeling bad, telling her that she can't come, to allowing her to come along and arguements etc.
You would regret bringing her.
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:25 am
Pure Vampyre Think how bad you would feel if C. came along.
If L. and C. started to get into arguements.
Compare feeling bad, telling her that she can't come, to allowing her to come along and arguements etc.
You would regret bringing her.
I guess you are right. Thanks for helping me out. I feel a lot more better (and wiser about the whole situation) now.
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 11:26 am
No problem.
I hope everything goes well.
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