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 Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:22 pm
I really like this guy and we've been going out for awhile. He's a christian, and i've prayed about it and at first i felt like God okayed it. but now i'm not sure. I'm really confussed on something. I think God has okayed him, but if he hasnt..and i still decide to date him, will God send me to hell? I mean, i'm a christian , i believe in God, but will he send me to hell for dating someone if he says no about them?
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Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:31 pm
I don't think God needs you to "okay" things with him. We have free will. Now granted, we can't do anything but if you date one boy who maybe isn't ideal for you, God isn't going to send you straight to hell. God may be leading you to this guy in other ways too, you may be destined to learn from one another, even if you eventually go your seperate ways.
God will never smite you down for making a descicion that ends up to be a bad one. God is all loving and nothing we do can seperate us from God's love- nothing.
That being said, it's great that you prayed over it. That's something I just started doing as a freshman in college this year, and I wish I had before. Listen closely, and you will guided to wear you need to be. And even if you misinterpret the message (which I've done plently of times) God takes you mistake and makes something wonderful out of it.
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Posted: Sun Mar 30, 2008 10:44 am
Hey there!
Well, first I'm going to ask you a question.
Why do people go to Hell?
People go to Hell because they either have sinned and are not right with God, or they have no relationship with Him period.
Are you a Christian? Yes. Are you right with God? Maybe.
If you're right with God, then He isn't going to send to Hell over a boy. Sure he might be the wrong one, but you might not even be making any mistakes. God created perfect mates for our own fleshly desires. So that we can be loved in a way nobody else can love us in. All in all, God wont send you to Hell for dating the wrong guy. I mean, if he did, I think I'd be in Hell about thirteen times over. xd
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Posted: Sun Mar 30, 2008 8:11 pm
Honestly I don't think that is the case, I mean I think that God probably had you meet this boy for a reason. Especially if you are both Christian, just keep your relationship God-centered. It is really difficult to keep a realationship... TRUST ME! Tomorrow My boyfriend and I make one year, and we knew eachother and started going out before we were saved, and it is VERY, VERY DIFFICULT to fight temptation and other things. Just pray together, and keep everythign revolving around God.
I mean DUH have your human moments of "cutie time" (LOL Sorry I'm dumb), but Just when it is extra hard to live a Godly life just pray together about it, whatever it is.
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 8:12 pm
Whether he is Christian or not, I really do not think God would condemn you for dating him. Just ask yourself: does your relationship with this guy get in the way of your relationship with God? If it does, then maybe you should rethink why you're dating him. If he turns out to not be Christian, I would caution you, though not nessessarily tell you to end it. I've seen way too many seemingly good relationships turn sour because of a religious conflict, especially of those who last into marriage and have kids, and they both try to teach the kids their own beliefs.
Just be careful, pray, and like Kitten said, keep your relationship God-centered. God has a reason for everything, just put your faith in him.
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:04 pm
Seems like I don't really have much left to say here. It's pretty much been covered. Even if he's not the right boy for you, it's at least a lesson in what you DON'T want in a relationship. So, go ahead and date. Just keep your nose clean. xd
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Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 9:20 pm
It's just sin. Do you believe Jesus died for you? Then your sins are forgiven.
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 6:50 pm
@GuardianAngel44:
Even if we ask to be forgiven, and are, we are wrong to stay in sin.
We need a make a conscious effort to stay away and not just think God as a scapegoat. Ya know? o.O;
@Laid_black_rose:
God's not going to send you to hell for dating someone.
If that were true, we all would be. O_O;
But I mean, as long as the boy isn't pushing you away from God, making you sin when you KNOW it's wrong.
It's not something to worry about. =3
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Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 10:32 am
Koutsuku @GuardianAngel44:
Even if we ask to be forgiven, and are, we are wrong to stay in sin.
We need a make a conscious effort to stay away and not just think God as a scapegoat. Ya know? o.O;
Interestingly enough, Koutsuku, the expression 'scapegoat' originates from the Bible - or, rather, a mistranslation in the Latin Vulgate from the original Hebrew (Online Etymology Dictionary). Jesus is a scapegoat. A scapegoat is traditionally a goat upon which the sins of Israel are placed and in turn is set loose into the wilderness to atone for the nation's sins (Leviticus 16).
Koutsuku @Laid_black_rose:
God's not going to send you to hell for dating someone.
If that were true, we all would be. O_O;
But I mean, as long as the boy isn't pushing you away from God, making you sin when you KNOW it's wrong.
It's not something to worry about. =3
It's best to seek God's counsel about this. I'd ask God some really important questions like:
"Do You intend for me to spend the rest of my life with this person?"
"If I spend time with this person, will it add to your glory or not?"
"Do I really need to be with this guy?"
"What will he think of You if I, one of Yours, breaks his heart when I no longer wish to be with him?"
There's nothing more tragic than going into a relationship with someone without looking ahead. Why go into a relationship at all if you're not sure you can stick it out for the long term? Don't just go for it without considering your actions.
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Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 12:59 pm
I'm sorry, Priestley.
I used the wrong word.
I meant to say something along the lines of "basically abusing Gods forgiveness."
Just thinking "Oh, well...He's always gonna forgive me if I ask...So, sins just sin. Nothing to fear!"
We need to make an effort, with Gods power to help us, to stay away from sin.
And if we mess up, hey, we tried.
But Gods gonna be there to pick us up and say "Don't give up. I'm here for you..."
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Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 7:13 pm
Koutsuku I'm sorry, Priestley.
I used the wrong word.
I meant to say something along the lines of "basically abusing Gods forgiveness."
Just thinking "Oh, well...He's always gonna forgive me if I ask...So, sins just sin. Nothing to fear!"
We need to make an effort, with Gods power to help us, to stay away from sin.
And if we mess up, hey, we tried.
But Gods gonna be there to pick us up and say "Don't give up. I'm here for you..."
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:40 am
Laid_black_rose I really like this guy and we've been going out for awhile. He's a christian, and i've prayed about it and at first i felt like God okayed it. but now i'm not sure. I'm really confussed on something. I think God has okayed him, but if he hasnt..and i still decide to date him, will God send me to hell? I mean, i'm a christian , i believe in God, but will he send me to hell for dating someone if he says no about them?
I'm sure that this has already been answered several times but...
Of course God wouldn't send you there! See, we are saved by Jesus Christ and made right with God through Christ. So no, you wouldn't go there XD
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Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 9:42 pm
For your current situation, i really don't think you will go to hell dear x3
Dont worry, God loves all his children and as long as you and him are doing the right thing, and are together for the right reasons, love is beautiful :3
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 10:12 pm
Laid_black_rose I really like this guy and we've been going out for awhile. He's a christian, and i've prayed about it and at first i felt like God okayed it. but now i'm not sure. I'm really confussed on something. I think God has okayed him, but if he hasnt..and i still decide to date him, will God send me to hell? I mean, i'm a christian , i believe in God, but will he send me to hell for dating someone if he says no about them? As long as you believe in the Lord, you won't go to Hell. Especially when it comes to a guy. This is more like a question if you should go out with this guy or not. All I can say is God does miraculous things, you never know if this guy right right for you until you try. God won't sent you to Hell if for dating him, if he's not not right for you, then he's not right for you. God has plans each and every single one of us and, God has one for you. Just stay close to Him and he will provide your every need.
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Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 11:37 pm
what you need to realize is how you are saved.
we are by grace alone through faith alone in Christ alone.
all of our sins past, present, and future are wiped away.
one thing you need to realize though is that God does not always give us direct answers to issues in our lives. infact, he rarely comes down and says "ok, this is the game plan." he just doesn't work that way and just because he hasn't said it does not mean that you are sinning against him.
instead of worrying whether this is wrong or right ask is this bringing me closer to God or further away from him. if we base everything on only morality we become afraid and see God only as an enforcer. (however, i am not saying that morality is bad, only that if you use it alone without the rest of the Bible as context it will only hurt and confuse you since none of us can be perfect until we receive his final grace in heaven)
as long as you and this young man respect God and respect each other there is no sin in dating him.
remember we are saved by grace alone through faith alone in Christ alone.
once you are his, you are his. Jesus says in John 10:28 that no one can snatch you from his hand once you belong to him. this means you cannot snatch yourself away, either.
He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to his mercy, by the washing of regeneration by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out upon us richly through Jesus Christ our savior, that being justified by his grace we might be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.
Titus 3:5-7
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