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okie, so, i've been with my boyfriend for...an unspecified period of time...lets just say a year and a half, 'cos there was no real point where we were together...it just happened gradually (at points)
anyway, the thing is, he's in Texas, I'm in Scotland, blahblahblah...so we were tlaking on MSN a few nights ago and he got into explaining something to me, 'cos i wanted to know why he was upset, 'cos i thought it was me

Turns out at least 1 person he works with is interested in him...and i'm all calm about it to him, but really i'm like "s**t!!!!!!"

ok, and here's another thing. i love him to BITS...like head over heels...ears over feet...toes over neck...whatever you can think of, that's how much i love him. and he loves me too, just as much, and he's coming over here in...21 days (eek!) andand...ok, the thing is, he wants to move over here eventually, and he also wants to propose to me, lol...yupyup, that's right

anyway, he showed the one girl that's interested in him the ring he's bought me (btw, i'm not gonna say yes first time, he knows that...), and he mentioned that he doesn't think i'm gonna accept (like, he said it as if he thinks i won't say yes...he didn't tell her i said i wouldn't), and she said if i don't then he should tell her so they could maybe get together =o

anyway, i trust him, really, but i can't help being paranoid! i really want to know what he said to her about that, but i didn't think to ask him and we've moved on from that situation and i don't want to bring it up again, 'cos it seemed to really annoy him...

soso...what do you think? ^^;

Sorry, it's my spring break and I've been sleeping this whole time. Laziness FTW! Heh.

Anyway, I think you should trust your boyfriend. I know that can be really hard to do that when he is so far away, but I think it's the only thing you can do, you know? I mean, I really doubt that if you say no to the proposal [especially if you already told him you were going to], he's going to turn around and run to her. And if he KNOWS she is interested, that means he's going to be more on the watch for it. I think you should just ask him to keep you updated [in case anything more happens] and maybe even talk to him about it?

That might sound weird, but think about it - if you had told him about a guy who liked you, he would probably feel the exact same way. It's not unreasonable for you to be jealous - actually, it sounds pretty normal to me. And if you get it out in the open, it might avoid all of the 'why are you being so weird about her? i told you nothing it happening' phase.

oooh, i'm not on Easter Holidays until next friday...10 hour party on the 14th then flay party on the 15th!! booy yeh

anyways, i'd trust him to the end of the earth...i love him more than ANYTHING...and, there's something about him i don't think he'd appreciate me telling you guys, that makes me sure he's legit, y'know...

but it's just...i guess the fact that, since it's so expensive to call from there to here, that MSN is the most convenient way for us to communicate, it's hard to tell his attitude to the situation...but i know it made him feel real bad about it, so i was staying calm to keep him flipping out and taking the blame for it

i don't blame him AT ALL...this woman is married, like, so i blame her, lol, but shush, don't tell him >.> he's 21, she's 30, i'm 18...so yeh...i blame her. makes me sound like a b***h, but i don't want to share him...he's all mine ^~^

he wants to mve over here a.s.a.p...he said if i wanted it he'd move over when he visits in 3 weeks if he'd had everything able to be sorted, but i was realy kinda thinking "WOAH!, couple of years, yeh, but NOW?" so it's like...august 2009-january 2010...so yeh, if this meeting goes well and my feelings are the same/elevated i'll be like hellz yeh, get yer butt over here!!

'cos like...he makes me feel amazing, and lately i've just been so happy talking to him and stuff it's like...ok, we're like this 3000 miles apart, how the hell are we gonna be next each other, yaknow?!

and omg, you can kinda tell how i feel about him with my rambling, sorry guys!!!

thanks for your opinions ^^ much appreciated <3

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She's married?

Well, if you're boyfriend's aware of that, then I think it's a red flag to stay the hell away. If a married man who was ten years my senior was hitting on me, I would be quite disgusted. I'm sure your boyfriend feels the same way~

I think you should trust your boyfriend, deary. >3<
If you two really love each other, then nothing will happen with other people.

This is a tough situation because you don't know her, either, but she might not be looking to take him away, especially if she is married. She just might be looking for some casual friends outside the home. My mother has friends from her workplace that are quite a few years younger than her, and so does my father. People connect over weird things, and it just might be your boyfriend and she have the potential to be friends. And as I said, feeling jealous or threatened is natural in this kind of thing, whether you expected it or not. I wouldn't feel too concerned unless something happened to make you have cause for real worry or fear. ^^

here's what he said she said when he told her he thought i would say no (or something along these lines):

she said i'd be an idiot to say no to a guy like him, and if i do he should tell her so that maybe they could start dating...

i mean...that sounds like if she had the chance she'd be looking for more than a fling/friendship...

and i think i have just cause to say no...i mean, i love him like nothing else, sure, but A) we've never met before, B) i'm 18...., C) he's gonna be 3000 miles away, it'd be hard to be engaged and never see each other...ok, it ight be easier to be apart of i knew we were engaged, but it'd hurt more if something happened, though i know he wouldn't do anything like that, i'm still allowed to worry...

but he's the sweetest guy ever...i told him i was worried about losing him and he said to promise him that whenever i felt that way that i'd look at my left hand and remember that some day i'm gonna be wearing his ring because he love me so much he wants to spend the rest of his life with me

*sigh* i knew he was too good to not have other girls after him rolleyes

i woulda thought that if he hadn't been suspicious of what she meant too...he seemed pretty convinced she was serious, and hw'a a good judge of character and motives in a person, but i guess there's always a chance

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Again, just trust him DD:

Even if he thinks she's a good person, any woman trying to take a man away from their current woman isn't a good person =o=;