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 Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:46 pm
Okay, so this topic is a RUDE reply to this ORIGNAL topic about a girl gaining weight
PLEASE NOTICE THE LINKS ABOVE ARE INDEED TWO DIFFERENT LINKS TO THE TWO DIFFERENT TOPICS, THE ORGINAL AND THE REPLY
original = 2nd link
reply = 1st link
So here is the skimmy:
A girl wants to gain weight on purpose and it makes her happy.
The guy calls her out on the Lifestyle discussion rather than PM'ing her or anything...how ******** rude >_>
I think as long as she is careful about it, and doesn't put herself at a serious risk of heart attack or stroke it is okay. I mean, gaining a lot of weight at once isnt healthy, its best to stretch it out, but its HER choice. And there are healthy ways to do it.
I told her healthy ways to, AND told her to join this awesome guild blaugh
So lets discuss:
What to you think of him?
What do you think of her?
Will you reply to him or her?
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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 7:14 pm
since im spending most of my free time trying to lose weight in a healthy way, i find it odd that someone would want to do this opposite. haha.
but then again, most people do odd things that dont make sense to others.
im not part of the feedee culture, but if she can do it without getting a problem, then more power to her. 3nodding
i wouldnt say what he posted was rude. just a different opinion. and considering it has relevance to living a healthy lifestyle, its appropriate.
it is possible to live a healty lifestyle while still having alot of weight.
but since we (the general publie) associate really really skinny with healthy, its an opinion that doesnt easily change (and the irony is that most of the public that supports this opinion are pretty big people, a guild like this is more of a niche).
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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 7:25 pm
el cabong since im spending most of my free time trying to lose weight in a healthy way, i find it odd that someone would want to do this opposite. haha. but then again, most people do odd things that dont make sense to others. im not part of the feedee culture, but if she can do it without getting a problem, then more power to her. 3nodding i wouldnt say what he posted was rude. just a different opinion. and considering it has relevance to living a healthy lifestyle, its appropriate. it is possible to live a healty lifestyle while still having alot of weight. but since we (the general publie) associate really really skinny with healthy, its an opinion that doesnt easily change (and the irony is that most of the public that supports this opinion are pretty big people, a guild like this is more of a niche). Let me rephrase, the reason i think he is rude is because he flat out made a thread about her, rather than PM'ing her his opinions...if he did that to me..i would probably die >_>
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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 9:09 pm
I don't think he's humiliating her, he's stating an opposing opinion.
I mean, he's uninformed, but it's his opinion.
I doubt the girl posted it without knowing how she'd likely get some flack, she is apparently confident enough not to care, more power to her.
I would never be a feedee, I would never appreciate a guy trying to force me into it. I can see the attraction to it, but it's not for me... but if I dated a guy into it, and I did happen to think "Hey, this might be kinda cool" I'd go for it...
But honestly, I find feeders creepy, at least the more vocal ones. I've come across members on sites like Deviantart who take half-naked photos of their girlfriend in front of buckets of KFC and McDonald's bags and they claim them as "art", never show her face and recieve comments like "How much bigger is she going to get?" "Ooh, how full is she?!" and much creepier comments (I've blocked them out of my memory, honestly). I've seen it done in ways I deem unhealthy, to girls whose bodies I'd kill to have... I think you can do it healthily, but I've seen feeders get mad when people tell them "She's beautiful at her current weight, but please just be sure not to do it to where her health is in jeopardy". I try to realize I'm viewing the worst of the bunch.
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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 9:29 pm
PiercedPixie56 el cabong since im spending most of my free time trying to lose weight in a healthy way, i find it odd that someone would want to do this opposite. haha. but then again, most people do odd things that dont make sense to others. im not part of the feedee culture, but if she can do it without getting a problem, then more power to her. 3nodding i wouldnt say what he posted was rude. just a different opinion. and considering it has relevance to living a healthy lifestyle, its appropriate. it is possible to live a healty lifestyle while still having alot of weight. but since we (the general publie) associate really really skinny with healthy, its an opinion that doesnt easily change (and the irony is that most of the public that supports this opinion are pretty big people, a guild like this is more of a niche). Let me rephrase, the reason i think he is rude is because he flat out made a thread about her, rather than PM'ing her his opinions...if he did that to me..i would probably die >_> coming from most of my gaia life on the GD and a family that does stuff like this on a daily basis. i dont find it that terribly rude. stupid and pointless more so. he has a disscussion in there and its something that many people in todays society feel but dont say (the subject of weight and why people do things they do in a relationship if its their own free will in doing it or their searching for appeasement from their significant other, not the feedee fetish.) maybe im looking into the last part for far too long though haha.
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Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 5:33 pm
I hate the whole 'Oh, well you had a good body before!' argument.
Well yeah, but CLEARLY not to the person who JUST SAID they weren't happy being skinny.
Duhhhhhhr
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Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 6:07 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty I don't think he's humiliating her, he's stating an opposing opinion.
I mean, he's uninformed, but it's his opinion.
I doubt the girl posted it without knowing how she'd likely get some flack, she is apparently confident enough not to care, more power to her.
I would never be a feedee, I would never appreciate a guy trying to force me into it. I can see the attraction to it, but it's not for me... but if I dated a guy into it, and I did happen to think "Hey, this might be kinda cool" I'd go for it...
But honestly, I find feeders creepy, at least the more vocal ones. I've come across members on sites like Deviantart who take half-naked photos of their girlfriend in front of buckets of KFC and McDonald's bags and they claim them as "art", never show her face and recieve comments like "How much bigger is she going to get?" "Ooh, how full is she?!" and much creepier comments (I've blocked them out of my memory, honestly). I've seen it done in ways I deem unhealthy, to girls whose bodies I'd kill to have... I think you can do it healthily, but I've seen feeders get mad when people tell them "She's beautiful at her current weight, but please just be sure not to do it to where her health is in jeopardy". I try to realize I'm viewing the worst of the bunch. You don't find me creepy do you? emo I think the important part of a good feeding relationship is that it is centered on the >>feedee<<, and the feeder is just there as a convenient way of achieving midnight convenience store ice-cream runs. There are actual feedees out there, girls who get off on gaining weight and overeating, with or without a feeder.
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Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 9:35 pm
Fuzzy Necromancer You don't find me creepy do you? emo I think the important part of a good feeding relationship is that it is centered on the >>feedee<<, and the feeder is just there as a convenient way of achieving midnight convenience store ice-cream runs. There are actual feedees out there, girls who get off on gaining weight and overeating, with or without a feeder.
I think if two people are into that sort of thing, more power to them... but I would rather people be healthy about it, which in the more vocal ones I haven't seen any sign of health being considered. That's why I said more vocal ones.
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Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 10:21 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty Fuzzy Necromancer You don't find me creepy do you? emo I think the important part of a good feeding relationship is that it is centered on the >>feedee<<, and the feeder is just there as a convenient way of achieving midnight convenience store ice-cream runs. There are actual feedees out there, girls who get off on gaining weight and overeating, with or without a feeder.
I think if two people are into that sort of thing, more power to them... but I would rather people be healthy about it, which in the more vocal ones I haven't seen any sign of health being considered. That's why I said more vocal ones.awww, who would ever find him creepy? Ive never dated a feeder, then again im not a feedee >_> I just have this fetish for fetishes x3 So if a boyfriend asked me to do something, 8/10 i would. The two things i'd never do are: fake necrophiliac fantasies, bestiality
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Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 10:25 pm
PiercedPixie56 awww, who would ever find him creepy? Ive never dated a feeder, then again im not a feedee >_> I just have this fetish for fetishes x3 So if a boyfriend asked me to do something, 8/10 i would. The two things i'd never do are: fake necrophiliac fantasies, bestiality
Then again, I know I could for me... Well, no I couldn't off the top of my head... but I know they're out there.
I would do some much more traditionally aweful things before I'd gain weight on purpose for somebody sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Mar 09, 2008 10:05 am
PiercedPixie56 The Dread Pirate Ghosty Fuzzy Necromancer You don't find me creepy do you? emo I think the important part of a good feeding relationship is that it is centered on the >>feedee<<, and the feeder is just there as a convenient way of achieving midnight convenience store ice-cream runs. There are actual feedees out there, girls who get off on gaining weight and overeating, with or without a feeder.
I think if two people are into that sort of thing, more power to them... but I would rather people be healthy about it, which in the more vocal ones I haven't seen any sign of health being considered. That's why I said more vocal ones.awww, who would ever find him creepy? Ive never dated a feeder, then again im not a feedee >_> I just have this fetish for fetishes x3 So if a boyfriend asked me to do something, 8/10 i would. The two things i'd never do are: fake necrophiliac fantasies, bestiality That's super special awesome. o.o A fetish fetish? You're, like, a sexual chameleon! =o
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Posted: Sun Mar 09, 2008 10:32 am
The Dread Pirate Ghosty Fuzzy Necromancer You don't find me creepy do you? emo I think the important part of a good feeding relationship is that it is centered on the >>feedee<<, and the feeder is just there as a convenient way of achieving midnight convenience store ice-cream runs. There are actual feedees out there, girls who get off on gaining weight and overeating, with or without a feeder.
I think if two people are into that sort of thing, more power to them... but I would rather people be healthy about it, which in the more vocal ones I haven't seen any sign of health being considered. That's why I said more vocal ones.Well then, you'd better keep away from deviantart, dimensions, and the girl's thread. >__>; I must have a different sphere of experience. Almost all of the topics in dimensions about somebody gaining weight on purpose either had the thread starter emphasing that they were perfectly healthy or posters reminding them to stay healthy while they do it. I saw a lot of topics and posts where somebody mentioned that they liked gaining weight but stopped because of health issues. I also think that weight gain and fat really isn't the death scentence people make it out to be.
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Posted: Sun Mar 09, 2008 5:43 pm
Fuzzy Necromancer Well then, you'd better keep away from deviantart, dimensions, and the girl's thread. >__>; I must have a different sphere of experience. Almost all of the topics in dimensions about somebody gaining weight on purpose either had the thread starter emphasing that they were perfectly healthy or posters reminding them to stay healthy while they do it. I saw a lot of topics and posts where somebody mentioned that they liked gaining weight but stopped because of health issues. I also think that weight gain and fat really isn't the death scentence people make it out to be.
As well as a girl who wasn't as big as me who was gaining weight (the girl who posed for what to me appear dehumanizing photos as she can't even picture her face in them, but they are in no way artistic, on Deviantart... where the background was littered with fast food). Me and another person commented about her weight gain when her boyfriend asked in his journal how big should she get that "She iss beautiful the way she is, but if she wants to gain more weight be sure to not let it affect her health" and we were both flamed by countless FAs. "Don't listen to them, she's hot!" If I am to believe the photos, she's gaining weight by pouring fried and greasy food into her body... we only get one body, loading it up with grease isn't healthy, you can't even begin to argue that. Yes, there is a way to gain weight healthily, and fast food isn't it.
I think anybody that has seriously talked with me on this issue should realize I'm the first person to admit gaining weight doesn't necessarily mean a death sentence, but you can't deny it comes with diseases such as diabetes and the additional weight on people's joints isn't healthy. I am overweight, but I have been told by my doctor I don't need to lose weight unless I want to for beauty purposes and that I'm "healthy as a horse"...
however, there is a difference. I don't gain weight for fetish, this is how my body is "naturally" (sure, I could cut out a bit of sugar, but eating a diet typical by today's standards I am still greatly overweight and there are skinny people who eat the same as me, it's how my body works)... it's what is healthy for me, and my body is built to take it. I have bigger bones, bigger muscles, I'm always going to be bigger... I will never manage to be a size 0 no matter how hard I work to lose weight. I have friends who are but who are about my size or bigger, and are clearly so unhealthy at a weight close to my own. The difference is they ate themselves to that point, and their body is not made to carry the weight they've put on themselves. It gives them back problems, it gives them trouble walking, it is clearly not healthy.
When I gained 10lbs last August during a visit to my boyfriend, I was clearly miserable. I look at photos and I was so unhappy, I felt much worse... I slept more and was more groggy, I felt unattractive and just sicker... all the big meals and fast food I was being fed aren't what I'm used to, and aren't healthy, and I felt the effects of it in less than a week. I look at photos of me and I just look unhappy, even though I was glad to be with my boyfriend I can tell in my eyes that I just don't feel good. I've seen many photos of plus sized fetish models, and while not all of them are like this, I've seen that same miserable look in their eyes. They don't feel good, no matter what they may say... It may be flattering to be told you're hot if you have little self-esteem, so you keep gaining weight so the people that find you hot will find you hotter, it doesn't change the fact that they don't feel good... and it can be seen in their photos. I had actually noticed that look before ever visiting my boyfriend, I believe I mentioned it to a member of the guild at the time they showed me the model.... It was very upsetting for me to see the photos of me taken at my biggest weight and to think I was starting to get that same look. I won't ever allow myself to get to that weight again.
Not to be mean, but you're a fairly skinny guy, Fuzzy. I think until you've actually felt the effects of excess weight it's hard to understand that it just a few pounds extra on a body not built to take it can make a world of difference. Just a few pounds extra can make you groggy and make your life uncomfortable. Anybody asking somebody to, or wanting to gain even fifty pounds more needs to consider what it means for the life of the person gaining, and let's not forget those aiming to be 100+lbs over what would be deemed a "healthy" weight. I for one hate riding in airplane seats, my hips just barely fit... I feel guilty for the skinny people having to sit next to me, what if my fat arm invades their personal space? I envy them because the seats are comfortable enough to them. It's not just with airplanes, though, it's with many things in life... I can't even sit on most swing sets due to my hips, it hurts to try swinging. You have to pay extra for your clothes, and it's harder to find them, and they're never as cute as what smaller people can buy... Choosing to actively gain weight is giving up a lot of stuff, health, comfort and money... hence why many more people try to lose weight... Maybe you were fat once, although I would imagine it would have been mentioned before had that been the case. But honestly, I think you have to have lived with extra weight to really get the nasty effects of it.
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Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 10:07 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty Fuzzy Necromancer Well then, you'd better keep away from deviantart, dimensions, and the girl's thread. >__>; I must have a different sphere of experience. Almost all of the topics in dimensions about somebody gaining weight on purpose either had the thread starter emphasing that they were perfectly healthy or posters reminding them to stay healthy while they do it. I saw a lot of topics and posts where somebody mentioned that they liked gaining weight but stopped because of health issues. I also think that weight gain and fat really isn't the death scentence people make it out to be.
As well as a girl who wasn't as big as me who was gaining weight (the girl who posed for what to me appear dehumanizing photos as she can't even picture her face in them, but they are in no way artistic, on Deviantart... where the background was littered with fast food). Me and another person commented about her weight gain when her boyfriend asked in his journal how big should she get that "She iss beautiful the way she is, but if she wants to gain more weight be sure to not let it affect her health" and we were both flamed by countless FAs. "Don't listen to them, she's hot!" If I am to believe the photos, she's gaining weight by pouring fried and greasy food into her body... we only get one body, loading it up with grease isn't healthy, you can't even begin to argue that. Yes, there is a way to gain weight healthily, and fast food isn't it.
I think anybody that has seriously talked with me on this issue should realize I'm the first person to admit gaining weight doesn't necessarily mean a death sentence, but you can't deny it comes with diseases such as diabetes and the additional weight on people's joints isn't healthy. I am overweight, but I have been told by my doctor I don't need to lose weight unless I want to for beauty purposes and that I'm "healthy as a horse"...
however, there is a difference. I don't gain weight for fetish, this is how my body is "naturally" (sure, I could cut out a bit of sugar, but eating a diet typical by today's standards I am still greatly overweight and there are skinny people who eat the same as me, it's how my body works)... it's what is healthy for me, and my body is built to take it. I have bigger bones, bigger muscles, I'm always going to be bigger... I will never manage to be a size 0 no matter how hard I work to lose weight. I have friends who are but who are about my size or bigger, and are clearly so unhealthy at a weight close to my own. The difference is they ate themselves to that point, and their body is not made to carry the weight they've put on themselves. It gives them back problems, it gives them trouble walking, it is clearly not healthy.
When I gained 10lbs last August during a visit to my boyfriend, I was clearly miserable. I look at photos and I was so unhappy, I felt much worse... I slept more and was more groggy, I felt unattractive and just sicker... all the big meals and fast food I was being fed aren't what I'm used to, and aren't healthy, and I felt the effects of it in less than a week. I look at photos of me and I just look unhappy, even though I was glad to be with my boyfriend I can tell in my eyes that I just don't feel good. I've seen many photos of plus sized fetish models, and while not all of them are like this, I've seen that same miserable look in their eyes. They don't feel good, no matter what they may say... It may be flattering to be told you're hot if you have little self-esteem, so you keep gaining weight so the people that find you hot will find you hotter, it doesn't change the fact that they don't feel good... and it can be seen in their photos. I had actually noticed that look before ever visiting my boyfriend, I believe I mentioned it to a member of the guild at the time they showed me the model.... It was very upsetting for me to see the photos of me taken at my biggest weight and to think I was starting to get that same look. I won't ever allow myself to get to that weight again.
Not to be mean, but you're a fairly skinny guy, Fuzzy. I think until you've actually felt the effects of excess weight it's hard to understand that it just a few pounds extra on a body not built to take it can make a world of difference. Just a few pounds extra can make you groggy and make your life uncomfortable. Anybody asking somebody to, or wanting to gain even fifty pounds more needs to consider what it means for the life of the person gaining, and let's not forget those aiming to be 100+lbs over what would be deemed a "healthy" weight. I for one hate riding in airplane seats, my hips just barely fit... I feel guilty for the skinny people having to sit next to me, what if my fat arm invades their personal space? I envy them because the seats are comfortable enough to them. It's not just with airplanes, though, it's with many things in life... I can't even sit on most swing sets due to my hips, it hurts to try swinging. You have to pay extra for your clothes, and it's harder to find them, and they're never as cute as what smaller people can buy... Choosing to actively gain weight is giving up a lot of stuff, health, comfort and money... hence why many more people try to lose weight... Maybe you were fat once, although I would imagine it would have been mentioned before had that been the case. But honestly, I think you have to have lived with extra weight to really get the nasty effects of it.Amen to that sweatdrop I do want to lose weight, currently i'm a size 16, which is not easy to find to fit comfortably. I want so badly to be at least a 13, 13 is easy to find, they still make that in like cute brands. My boyfriend says, "Darling you're fine, don't worry!" But in England, i honestly couldn't find a bottom to fit me at all. Im not sure of the size difference, im a 15/16 here and there i went up to a 18! Still didnt fit >_> My hips are bad, but my a** is worse. I can't even get most jeans past my a**. As soon as it comes up to it, it's like nope, not going to go over. If i gained any more weight, i just wouldn't be able to find clothes over there. What i dislike about fast food and large meals is, i HATE feeling so bloated after it. I just want to crawl in a hole and die. I mean some girls, who are plus size are beautiful, and if they can keep their breath and energy, power to them. If they can afford to find nice fitting clothes at Lane Bryant, power to them. I don't think I'm terribly big, and i don't think you are either, like you said your fat in their space x3 Dont worry your fat is minimal dear. But personally, i don't want to gain any more. And if possible, loose enough to find fitting jeans again =/
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Posted: Tue Mar 11, 2008 7:44 am
PiercedPixie56 Amen to that sweatdrop I do want to lose weight, currently i'm a size 16, which is not easy to find to fit comfortably. I want so badly to be at least a 13, 13 is easy to find, they still make that in like cute brands. My boyfriend says, "Darling you're fine, don't worry!" But in England, i honestly couldn't find a bottom to fit me at all. Im not sure of the size difference, im a 15/16 here and there i went up to a 18! Still didnt fit >_> My hips are bad, but my a** is worse. I can't even get most jeans past my a**. As soon as it comes up to it, it's like nope, not going to go over. If i gained any more weight, i just wouldn't be able to find clothes over there. What i dislike about fast food and large meals is, i HATE feeling so bloated after it. I just want to crawl in a hole and die. I mean some girls, who are plus size are beautiful, and if they can keep their breath and energy, power to them. If they can afford to find nice fitting clothes at Lane Bryant, power to them. I don't think I'm terribly big, and i don't think you are either, like you said your fat in their space x3 Dont worry your fat is minimal dear. But personally, i don't want to gain any more. And if possible, loose enough to find fitting jeans again =/
I really do hate feeling full. When I was younger I used to stuff myself because I was afraid the food would be taken away from me (once my mom told me I had two days to eat all the birthday cake I wanted before she threw it out... that's the complete wrong way to do it). I wouldn't do it all the time, but I'd do it more than I wish I had. When I was in Missouri I felt pressured to eat all my meals so I would eat 'til I was completely full, then feel tired and shitty. I don't like feeling like my stomach is stretched.. to me it's just uncomfortable.
When I lose more weight I don't know where I'll shop for tops, as Lane Bryant's 14/16 shirts are already looser than I like them... But I'm not worried about it as I want to get down to a 16, and then maybe a 12.
I'm not horribly big, but I'm much bigger than I'd like to be. One of my boyfriends told me "You're not fat, you're thick... if you had a smaller bone structure you'd be fat, yeah... but you're just thick" Still, I would prefer to be slightly less thick, lol. I really think the hip thing is going to be a problem unless I get down past a 12....as my weight doesn't seem to even favor my hips. None of my jeans fit right right now... one is slightly tight on my waist, but looks great everywhere else, the others are perfect/slightly loose on my waist and loose... The sad thing is they're the same size in the same brand.
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