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 Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 10:41 am
My husband and I will be married a year in July, and we've never had sex or done any sexual things with each other.
It's not that we're scared, or that we can't because of distance or anything. It's just that we don't want to.
Yes, we love each other. We have loved each other since we were 4 years old, when we first met. He is celibate, as am I. Neither of us find any particular interest in being that intimate, and we are completely comfortable with just kissing and holding hands.
We base our marriage off love, and how we see love does not involve sexual experiences whatsoever.
Is it wrong that we don't want to have sex?
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Posted: Sun Mar 02, 2008 7:59 pm
Do you feel no sexual attraction to each other? As long as there is a sexual attraction I wouldn't worry about, but if there isn't any attraction then when you are married you might feel more like siblings or roommates and miss out on a deep part of marriage.
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Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 2:49 pm
I wouln't nessisarily say that it is honorable, but I wouln't say that there is anything wrong with it either.
I saw a show about that on "Nightline" or something like Jeraldo's "indepth what's hapening in the world" dealio shows. It started off with the idea of "every one knows college students go crazy with sex" but then showed couples that are together based on love and companionship rather than sex or physical desire, who are selibate.
They did a study and polled the college students to get opinions (the results of which I have forgoten) and by the end some of the selibate couples tried sex and a few decided to stay selibate.
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Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 7:35 am
I think it's great! If I had the choice, I kind of wish I waited for my husband.
We did however stop having sex almost a year before we got married. It didn't bother us that much, there were times where we wanted to, but we just held out. And when our wedding night came, it was special for us. (even though i was so tired and ready to pass out at any moment)
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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 7:11 am
My fiancee and I didn't wait until we were married (although that was the plan...) and I am just so glad that he was my first and last. Good for you and your man! 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Mar 11, 2008 10:16 am
Lady Catalina My fiancee and I didn't wait until we were married (although that was the plan...) and I am just so glad that he was my first and last. Good for you and your man! 3nodding
Same here. I lost my virginity w/ my husband 2 months before we got married. So he's my first and he'll be my last too.
And no, I don't think it's horrible that you and your husband are celibate. I think it's awesome that the 2 of you can express your love for one another, minus sex. Bravo, hun! 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2008 6:28 am
♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
Celui qui jette son pain en riant...
Well, I know that for many, sex and love are two separate things, but for me, sex without love does not exist. I never had any interest whatsoever in touching someone I didn't love. My husband is the same. When we met, we were both virgins in every sense of the word, we hadn't had any previous girlfriends/boyfriends/experiences/whatever. That was a value that was really important to us.
However, once we began a relationship, we felt a deep connection and it was common sense to us that we were going to get married...it's a bit hard to explain, but to put it simply, I knew he was "the one" and vise-versa, and so with that knowledge, we began a sexual relationship. Both of us tie in sex with love, as I said earlier, and although we CAN have love without sex (for example, if one of us gets paralyzed from the waist down), but we CAN'T have sex without love, and we enjoy having sex because to us it is an expression of our passion towards each other.
That, and we're good at making babies xd
...le ramasse plus tard en pleurant
♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
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Posted: Sun Mar 30, 2008 6:31 pm
Well i can say this... when my husband and i got mairried.. we wernt virgins.. beacusue we slept together about 6 months before we got married. and that was our choice and we did so beacue.
emenitly after we started dateing we knew that we were getting married. so that was our choice, but does that make our marriage void?
well since it was only us.. i dont think so. but i commend people and incurage people to stay abstant till you find your one true love.
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 7:21 am
I agree with LadyAyami.
I dated one guy that tried to get me on several occasions, but I really didn't feel that he was who I thought he was. I didn't want someone that was faking love just to get sex. My husband and I were together 6 months (about 1 month before we were married) before we decided to take that step. But we knew from the beginning that we wanted to be together. And regardless of problems we've had, we still know it's right.
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Posted: Thu Aug 07, 2008 3:15 pm
It's odd that you two haven't had sex, but as long as you guys are happy, then that is all that matters.
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Posted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 7:31 pm
Angel de Lys
♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
Celui qui jette son pain en riant...
Well, I know that for many, sex and love are two separate things, but for me, sex without love does not exist. I never had any interest whatsoever in touching someone I didn't love. My husband is the same. When we met, we were both virgins in every sense of the word, we hadn't had any previous girlfriends/boyfriends/experiences/whatever. That was a value that was really important to us.
However, once we began a relationship, we felt a deep connection and it was common sense to us that we were going to get married...it's a bit hard to explain, but to put it simply, I knew he was "the one" and vise-versa, and so with that knowledge, we began a sexual relationship. Both of us tie in sex with love, as I said earlier, and although we CAN have love without sex (for example, if one of us gets paralyzed from the waist down), but we CAN'T have sex without love, and we enjoy having sex because to us it is an expression of our passion towards each other.
That, and we're good at making babies xd
...le ramasse plus tard en pleurant
♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
Same for me and my fiance! We are still virgins, but I have never had sexual attraction before him. I could go my whole life and never have sex with him but he is the one, I cannot be with anyone else. I guess that love is what matters, but it is hard.... I guess we get in bad situations alone, and I really plan to wait until marriage. I am afraid we will not make it and will have sex before it. But I will try my best to hold out, and even if we do, it is ok. We will get married. I am trying to set a good example, I really want him to be christian, and I am afraid I will not set a good example for him, and it will be my fault if he ever gets hurt in anyway. It may not make sense but that is how I am.
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Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2008 3:06 pm
That's very unique. More power to ya.
I just couldn't picture my relationship without sex, it's something that makes us both very happy.
But my fiance was my first, and will be my last as well, as others have said.
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