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 Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 3:33 am
I personally hate awkward silences, i often find myself at the beginning of most conversations, hoping that the conversation will keep itself going and it will be fun without too much hard work or thought being put into it.
so, the point of this post is... how do you prevent an awkward silence??
why do awkward silences occur?? if an awkward silence does happen, does that mean you have bad social skills?? or maybe it means that the person who you are conversing with isn't compatible with you??
when an awkward silence happens.. how do you fix it??
do you quickly say bye and then dash off??
or maybe you just stand around making odd noises??
i would love to know your views on this topic ^__^
xX
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Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 4:34 pm
Easy, just let them know that a gay baby was just born, it usually makes them laugh if they have a sense of humor.
...And if they're not gay...
If they are, just ask the same question over and over.
Do something stupid to make them laugh, it's what I do. XD
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Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 5:16 pm
KamikazeSkies Easy, just let them know that a gay baby was just born, it usually makes them laugh if they have a sense of humor. ..How is that funny at all..? Awkward silences happen, to everyone. It doesn't mean you have poor social skills. It's just a matter of knowing how to deal with them. In most cases, I find them kind-of funny, and usually end up making a face and going ".... Sooooooooooooooooo...", saying what an awesome awkward silence it was, or commenting on what an enthralling conversation we're having. Acknowledge it and laugh about it, and it usually makes the other person more comfortable too. Then if they don't say anything to make further conversation, well. Either just continue acknowledging the awkwardness of it and end the transaction there on a good/humorous note, or just toss out whatever the first chitchat or question that comes to mind.
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Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 6:20 am
subplot In most cases, I find them kind-of funny, and usually end up making a face and going ".... Sooooooooooooooooo...", saying what an awesome awkward silence it was, or commenting on what an enthralling conversation we're having. Another good response is saying "aw-kwaaard!" in a high voice.
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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 5:58 pm
subplot KamikazeSkies Easy, just let them know that a gay baby was just born, it usually makes them laugh if they have a sense of humor. ..How is that funny at all..? Hey bud, just lighten up. It's one of those things that you'd have to hear, not read.
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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 6:49 pm
KamikazeSkies subplot KamikazeSkies Easy, just let them know that a gay baby was just born, it usually makes them laugh if they have a sense of humor. ..How is that funny at all..? Hey bud, just lighten up. It's one of those things that you'd have to hear, not read. Er. ... Lighten up about what? o_O All I did was ask how that's funny.
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Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 8:51 pm
Usually, i just say, well, don't everyone talk at once (if it's a bunch of people) or well, you're just the chatterbox today, aren't you? (if it's just one other person)... or i'll say something either totally stupid or totally sarcastic, because my first language is sarcasm, second is stupid, and my third is english. Lol.
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Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 7:14 am
ussually when we have akward silences it because someone just shouted somthin stupid like p***s!
but that ussuallly on my bus , uhh if we`re not on the bus its ussually because everyone burst out laughing and then stopped but then we ussually just burst out in laughter again
and i never have awkward silences with just one person unless its the dude i love of if its muy buds colton and brandon because they're just awkward ppl
but to stop an awkward silence we ussually either say gay baby(and it really is funny when you acctually say it ) or we burst out laughing, or someone starts randomly dancing, but me and my friends are all pretty much mental so i dont know if that would work for anyone else............. yah so...................
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Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 4:01 pm
I think that awkward silences don't happen with everyone. I think it depends on the people you are comfortable with and the people you're not. For example, if I'm talking to a stranger there may be a lot of awkward silences, but when I'm talking to one of my best friends, the silences are never awkward.
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Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 4:18 pm
awkward silences happen for numerous reasons.. from not knowing the person, being intimidated somehow by a person, being in an awkward situation, or whatever. they cant always be avoided, but most of the time they can be corrected.
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 2:19 am
I think awkward silences don't happen *with* everyone, but *to* everyone. It's definitely one of those things whose cause can vary wildly, but my theory is that they always stem from having hit a point in the conversation that the other person doesn't want to share in.
We're fast becoming an impersonal society here in America; commitment to *any* interpersonal relationship is very damaged. Just try to keep eye contact with the next five people you talk with, and you'll likely get a hint of what I mean. Even communication as simple as that has become a challenge for us.
Is it the same in other countries?
My usual method for dealing with such times is either comedy (even a bad joke can be very relaxing, because then the other person feels like you're little more approachable, because it takes a certain level of openmindedness to actually tell, let alone laugh at a knock-knock joke) or simply sharing something else that's on my mind at random that I've been wanting to talk to someone about, and preface that with something like, "Not to change the subject, but to change the subject- I've been thinking..."
Very reliable, that's been. Maybe not for keeping a chat going, but for easing someone else's nerves, yes indeed.
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Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 9:55 am
subplot KamikazeSkies subplot KamikazeSkies Easy, just let them know that a gay baby was just born, it usually makes them laugh if they have a sense of humor. ..How is that funny at all..? Hey bud, just lighten up. It's one of those things that you'd have to hear, not read. Er. ... Lighten up about what? o_O All I did was ask how that's funny. It's funny because "gay" would be its gender, rather than boy or girl. Also, it could be a one-up on the people who argue that homosexuality is a choice. And (unless the doctor tests every baby's genes--I've heard that homosexuality is determined by genes) how would the doctor know the baby was gay? It's not like the baby can tell him/her.
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Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 6:30 pm
jensenns Usually, i just say, well, don't everyone talk at once (if it's a bunch of people) or well, you're just the chatterbox today, aren't you? (if it's just one other person)... or i'll say something either totally stupid or totally sarcastic, because my first language is sarcasm, second is stupid, and my third is english. Lol. Ha, funny you say that, because i do the exact same thing as you. Its probably the best way to go xd I think awkward silences happen to everyone at some stage, and can't be avoided. I just try to make them funny. mrgreen
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Posted: Sat May 03, 2008 11:59 am
Well it depends on the two persons involved. If both are extroverts then the chances of an awkward silence happening is slim to none because both will keep interrupting each other. If you have an introvert and an extrovert it won't be very common to have an awkward silence. The extrovert will keep talking and the introvert would give short one-liner answers to keep the conversation going so that he/she won't have to do much talking. If both are introverts however then the only way for the conversation to really keep going is if both have the same interests.
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Posted: Sat May 03, 2008 1:35 pm
I get into awkward silences some times myself, and it really can't be helped. For me, the conversation is going great then it somehow takes a wrong turn at some point and it becomes weird for all parties. Awkward silences really can't be helped, they just happen really. The only solution that I know of on how to get rid of an awkward silence is just change the topic and see where that goes. confused
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