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 Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 2:21 pm
Gals, I can't STAND my mom and brother. They have me in tears because they keep telling me that Pat's going to break up with me! My mom keeps telling me, "Do you plan on marrying Pat?" and I always say, "Of course. He's my true love." Then she says, "Be prepared for heart break." It tears me apart to know my mom thinks that he's going to break up with me. I know we aren't. We've been going on for six, healthy months. We've never gotten into an argument. If we have, it was those stupd play arguments like, "No. I love you more" and such. It just... really pisses me off when my mom keeps telling me stuff like that. I remember once she told me I was going to be one of those lonely old ladies with a lot of cats. I'm crying right now, gals. D': She never has confidence in me in anything I do, and it hurts to know that my own ******** mom doesn't believe in me.
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 3:01 pm
Well your mum and your brother aren't being very kind.
My mum always says stuff like that to me, but then she is just jealous because I have a better relationship than she ever had with any of her boyfriends/husbands.
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months, in four days time.
Nathan is absoulutely amazing, but my mum will still say things to upset me.
What is your mums relationship like with your dad? Or other guys she has been with? She may just be jealous.
But don't let her get to you.
It's not her choice what happens in YOUR relationship.
Next time, just tell her to shut the ******** up and keep her nose out.
Same goes for your brother, although, he may not be jealous. xd
Your brother is just being a typical brother, annoying as hell.
Then another side to it all, they may just be wary, they may think that what they say really will happen.
I don't mean to be mean by saying this, but it has only been six months, but don't let it deter you.
If you do wish to marry Pat, take your time, you have the rest of your life, and you want it to be right.
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 3:40 pm
This may be a dumb idea.
But maybe you should consider moving in with a grandparent, or another member of your family.
The people you're living with now are causing you a lot of unneeded stress. Maybe it will be better for you?
And this may sound terrible, but most high school relationships end up breaking up during high school or splitting during graduation, since people's lives go on completely different tracks.
Now I'm not saying all couples do that, and you and Pat have a healthy relationship, so I doubt that would happen.
She could have just said what she did based on that.
But the way you've described your mother before, she could just be doing it to be a c*nt. :/
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 4:45 pm
My mom does the exact same thing.. ><;
I agree with Grinny.. you should definitely find someone else to shack up with >.<; At least then you'll be in a more healthy environment...
I do hope you and Pat make it through, though. D: You two deserve it <3
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 5:02 pm
Grin Evilly This may be a dumb idea.
But maybe you should consider moving in with a grandparent, or another member of your family.
The people you're living with now are causing you a lot of unneeded stress. Maybe it will be better for you?
And this may sound terrible, but most high school relationships end up breaking up during high school or splitting during graduation, since people's lives go on completely different tracks.
Now I'm not saying all couples do that, and you and Pat have a healthy relationship, so I doubt that would happen.
She could have just said what she did based on that.
But the way you've described your mother before, she could just be doing it to be a c*nt. :/ I would, but all of my family lives in Michigan or in Roswell, New Mexico. I live in Rio Rancho and it's about a four/five hour drive from here to Roswell. I know my great uncle would take me in, but I don't have anyway to get down there. My mom won't take me, and I don't feel like changing schools. I've got about two years left of school, so hopefully I can hold out until then.
@ Vampy: My mom and dad hate each other. They cheat on each other and then tell them about how they got lucky and stuff. :/ I've been putting up with it for years. I know for a fact that Pat and I will last, though. Yeah, it's been a short time and we're still young, but we've discussed what we want to do when I graduate and we have plans.
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 7:05 pm
Grin Evilly
And this may sound terrible, but most high school relationships end up breaking up during high school or splitting during graduation, since people's lives go on completely different tracks.
Now I'm not saying all couples do that, and you and Pat have a healthy relationship, so I doubt that would happen.
Follow your common sense
You cannot hide yourself behind a fairytale forever and ever
Only by revealing the whole truth can we disclose
The soul of this sick bulwark forever and ever
Forever and ever
That's basically what I go by. And I do agree it doesn't apply to everyone, my friend's parents were together since the eighth grade! It happens! But I think she's warning you just so you aren't hurt if it ever happens (not saying it'll ever happen).
I don't know, sometimes I just don't get people's judgement in general, and I think that's why I've been not getting along with my mother recently. Basically, that's how she raised me, to learn from other people's mistakes, and to learn to make good judgements on situations and everything. But right now she's being extremely hypocritical about things, and that drives me up the wall. Tonight she made me cry over something, but she doesn't know I cried. My dad was home, and I'm glad. I held back tears, but he basically was really taking care of me (I skipped dinner, and then went down to take shower, came back up and he asked if everything was ok, and left out a plate with my dinner on it and everything).
So, I think, based on what I've observed and concluded about my mother, parents don't really want to let go and realize their 'baby' is all grown up, and is going to leave soon. And also they don't want to see their child caught off guard and crash and burn in a situation.
That's my theory anyways, because I definitely know sometimes my mother's judgement on things makes me wonder, and that's the only explanation I have.
I really hopes this helps. You have someone sobbing with you right now, except over different things (since I still haven't found the love of my life except for in my dreams xD). I really do hope you feel better about everything at some point.
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 7:14 pm
You just gotta be strong, hun ;-;
You know we're all here for you <333
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 9:00 pm
Asashina You just gotta be strong, hun ;-;
You know we're all here for you <333 I know. I'm like, crying right now because I just want to leave my family so badly. Today was like, "Gang up on Sophia day and make her cry all day" for almost everybody I know. I have tears dripping down my face because today has been an awful day for me and I found out my dad is flying in town on Tuesday. I'm so excited. *Sarcasm* I hate him so much. I wish I could just move in with Pat. I know his mom and step-dad would let me but I don't have a car or a job yet so I can't help pay for anything. I hate being a minor. I used to be so strong and never cry, but within the past few years I've crumbled. I've been crying like every day and I just hate myself and... Gah. I don't know anymore. The only reason I'm still alive is because of Pat and how much I love him and how much he means to me. The thought of being with him for my whole life and having a familiy with him is the only thing keeping me going anymore. v_v
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Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 6:10 pm
D;
That SUCKS.
I can understand a brother doing that, because ya know, he is a brother.
But a MOM?
NO WAI.
My mom just says stuff like that so I won't get hurt but she lets me decide.
I can't beleive your own mom would insult you with the 'Old lady with cats' thing. All I can say is, your mom is wrong!
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