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 Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:46 pm
Hey you guys, I haven't been on in a very very long time!
Very.
I wanted to update you.
I had Charlee, as most of you know, last April.
Before she was born I was thinking about adoption. Then afterwards I still kept trying to figure out what the right thing to do was.
I am very indecisive.
To cut to the chase, I dealt with too much crap in these last many months, and now she is in San Jose California, with her new parents.
The adoption is very very open, and she has a big brother and two loving parents.
They tell her about me everyday. It took me almost a year to figure out what was best for both of us. She was placed with them January 5th. We flew to California, and now the adoptive mother's mother is inviting me to live with her while I go to college! I don't know if I should, I live in Tx and I would be so close that I could visit Charlee all the time!
The adoptive mother is so much like me, I love Charlee's new parents with all my heart! We have a non-stop flow of emails and they constantly post pictures on their website.
The first day without her was so horrible, because I didn't have anything to do that day. The next day I started school. Life is all straightened out for me, I'll be graduating in August, and going to college! (hopefully!)
I just wanted to let you know I was alive and how I was doing.
Adoption is so very hard, but I do not regret it one tiny bit. She is at the best place possible.
Has anyone seen Juno?
Or
the lifetime movie Mom at Sixteen?
I place important things in bold for those who do not like to read walls of text. To summarize the passage. smile
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 12:10 pm
Well, You did what you had to do and none should hate or nothin'. I'm glad that you found her a mother very like yourself in a gorgeous state of America! You should go to college in Cali 'cause the mother could visit you and you could see her sometimes AND get a friend in the process 3nodding
I had my not so wee little girlie-poo. She's rounding 18 pounds and she's just a week shy of being 5 months....Hehe...My birthday's coming up too =O wee!
but good to see you're doing well and getting things done that you think need to be prioritized. Good luck with getting a college acceptance ^-^ and it was nice to hear from you again, makes me wonder if the other guild vanishers will come back...so far we've gotten 2 back to posting ^-^
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 8:31 pm
good to see you back, and you're so brave and such a good mom! You have made tough decisions and came out knowing it was for the best, and i'm ridiculously proud of you. I'm glad to hear about the adoptive mom being so supportive and cool, it makes things easier i'll bet.
no, havent seen those movies yet. i want to, but no time!
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 10:41 am
I'm glad you made the right decision for yourself. I can't imagine how hard it must've been to make it, but it's great you know the new parents and still have a part in Charlee's life. I think you should take up the offer of living there, to go to college. It would give you support in so many ways, and be able to see the lilun when you want. I'm very proud you made a mature and wise decision that suited you.
It will be hard, but you've got so much support, and as you said they're great adoptive parents. I wish you all the best for the future, and I hope you finish school this year with top marks. Well done to you smile
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 5:17 pm
Thank you.
:')
I'm trying to make this life altering decision of whether to move there or not.
I'm not all too keen at staying in people's house, I get all awkward and shy.
My step mom got mad when they offered to let me live with them.
Pros: I wouldn't have to pay rent. I'd be in a vegetarian/vegan friendly state!, I'd be closer to Charlee.
Cons: I'd lose all my friends here, I'd have to adjust to new house rules...
The one thing I'm terrified about is not having any friends.
I have tons and tons of friends here in Texas... I've had to move almost every year of my life.
It's more of stepping over my comfort zone. :/
I'm visiting in July, and I have until December or so to decide.
Those movies are sooooo good!
Beyond good!
They are must sees.
Anyway, I don't want to move there JUST for Charlee, I mean, I'd love to see her more than I would, but I don't want my life, when I get there to revolve around her, seeing as she is not exactly... mine. Does it make sense to you guys?
I'm having some serious inner battles with myself here.
What would you do if you were in my situation?
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Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 9:47 am
Its tough to ask us what we would do because we were in your situation and we already what we did, you know? i mean, i kept Evelyn and adoption never crossed my mind.
As for your friends in Texas and whatnot, believe me when you get out of high school and/or get to college your friend group totally changes. Don't be afraid of not having friends! You can always make friends, and you have to learn to be comfortable enough in your own skin and know what you want out of life. Besides, if your friends really are your friends they will stand by you no matter what. Even if you are miles away, they will be there for you.
You don't have to go live with Charlee if you don't want to, though it seems like a damn good bargain.You've already done what's right for your daughter, now it's time to do what's right for you. Really take time and think about exactly what that means. Nobody can make this decision for you, but we're all right here and support you in your decision (whatever it may be).
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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 12:58 pm
Juno was one of the best movies I have ever seen. Adoption is very hard. I have had some friends that have gone through the same thing you have gone through. Its very tough but its good to see that you are doing well.
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