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I think the whole question came to me in the car today when my mom, characteristically, was trying to convince me I wasn't in love with my girlfriend because she heard some of our conversations and she said "it sounded like a conversation you'd have with a good friend."

This question makes me think of 3 crucial players in my life:

J- My best friend in the whole world with a record friendship of 5-6 years. (I move alot so this is big.) J is straight and is really cool with me being out. Never once in my life have I thought I had a crush on her. We're both entirely secure with our sexualities and it has helped us be awesome friends. (She says in retrospect it makes sense that I am a lesbian because even back when I was "straight" the anime guys I liked were feminine in appearance like George de Sand and Duo Maxwell and she never knew me to have crushes on real guys.)

C- A friend of mine, our friendship has taken a lot of turns. My friend J says she needs a score board to keep track. We became very close friends in 10th grade due to our mutual love of anime, then we went through a bunch of up and downs, in which we weren't friends then I had a crush on her and then we were friends then we weren't then I fell out of love with her then we were friends and we haven't talked much this summer but I'm hoping we're still friends. And even though we're both lesbians, we're still friends (pretty much.)

L- I met her online about 3 and a half years ago and we became roleplay buddies and friends around three years ago. Then as we talked and trust eachother a little more we learned more about each other, we showed eachother a few pictures and then in December I was able to identify what I felt for her: love. I had no idea why but suddenly I knew what I was feeling for this lesbian friend of mine. And it took a while for me to get up the guts to say it but... I guess we kind of realized it at the same time. (Sunday is our 8 month aniversary!)

Well my mom as I said had been listening to our conversations or at least my half of them and we have very friendly conversations, but isn't there a friendship element to any relationship. Is it better that way? I mean how can you really have a good romantic relationship if you can't sit back and have a good conversation about random things?

I believe that the most wonderful thing that can happen to you is, that the person you love is your friend as well - so why shouldn't you have friendly conversion with them? If love limits conversation to being soppy and kitchy, I wouldn't wanna fall in love, really eek