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Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 1:23 pm
So here's the basic layout of my stuffgle.
I am 16 years old, soon to be 17 in March. 3 Months ago my girlfriend had told me that she was pregnant. I was happy, but scared. 2 Weeks ago I ran away from home because my parents wouldn't let me be there until the baby was born. Then she came to me at my best friends house and told me that the baby was not mine, that she had cheated on me 6 months ago with her ex-boyfriend. We have been together for 7 months when she told me. It was strange to me though, she really did not look like she was pregnant, and she just barely started to grow around the time that she told me she was pregnant.
So here it is: I have refused to leave her. I kicked the biological father in the a** and told him to leave, he's still a child and won't do whats necessary to support that child. Though that child is not biologically mine, I will love that child like my own.
Did I make the right choice??
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Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 6:32 pm
Connotations come to mind...basically, it means what similar words mean...
A good example is house and home. Your home is a house but not all houses are your home. When you think of home, you think of the place where you grew up, personal memories, etc...when you think of a house, you get a lot broader results (brick house, mansion, neighbors home...)
I think it's the same between father and dad. Biologically speaking, the other guy is the father...but dad, to me, seems way more personal. You're still a father and a dad...and thsis other guy is the father...but that doesn't make him a dad.
I don't think you really needed to beat this other guy up...but I feel that you did do the right choice in supporting your girlfriend...that is, as long as she doesn't want anything else to do with this other guy. She can't have the both of you in her life. I'm really glad though that you didn't leave her once you found out though. It really shows that you're dependable...that you're there for when she needs you...and that's really important in a relationship...
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Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 7:01 pm
True. No she just wants him out of the picture, she thought she was going to raise the child on her own. It suprised her when I stayed, and she's promised never to hurt me like that again.
Suprisingly when I found out I was just excited that my child would be here sooner.
Is that strange??
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Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 10:37 am
Not really...some people are more ready than others to start a family ^_^
I'm sure you'll make a great father ^_^
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Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 8:21 pm
It takes one sperm to be a father
it takes something much more to be a dad.
teach the kid well, beat the ******** out of the father every chance you get. and remember that you have what it takes to be a good parent
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Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2008 8:33 am
I don't think you have to go around beat the 'father' up every chance you get. Now you're setting an example...you're saying it's alright to beat someone up. I wouldn't want my child going around getting into fights. Not too mention, tis other guy might decide he needs a gun to defend himself.
I think it's better to forgive and forget...we all make mistakes. do things we wish we hadn't...
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Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2008 8:46 am
I'm just going to forgive and watch him. He made a mistake yah, but I'm not gonna trust him. If he wants a part in my childs life who am I to deny him? But he can't bounce in and out of her life, he comes in once, and if he leaves he doesn't come back.
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Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 10:58 pm
Trust in a fickle thing...not easily attainable...
On the one hand, you should forgive and forget...yet, on the other, if you've been bitten once, there's always the chance you could get bit again...
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 8:22 pm
I agree whole heartedly with Hero! He makes a very strong point.
You'll make a wonderful father... And as Hell said it takes a hell of a lot more then one sperm to be a dad.. You'll be great..
heart
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Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:16 pm
Because you are not the biological father, and our society is really oriented to that ( I am adopted, and you should hear the things people say about "real" parents), I would be very careful to guard myself from hurt. You should make sure your girlfriend and the biological father let you adopt the child so that you will never be out in the cold if your girlfriend has another fling.
You might need to turn to your parents to help with this, or maybe an adult at school you can trust.
Good luck. It's nice to know kids do the right thing sometimes.
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