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 Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 6:47 pm
hi, I'm a relatively new member to the guild, and I've noticed that it's more of an advice type guild than anything else... butwhat it all boils down to is why the heck do we date in the first place? we will allways end up hurt, heartbroken, or just come off as a jerk. So why do we do it? I've heard many good quotes about this subject, and I like all of them, I've also had many bad experiences with dating, which is why i'm not oging to date until I'm 21 (steady date that is). so post here what you think, and thanks for reading this.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 6:51 pm
Because when you find the right person, dating is no longer negative. You won't end up hurt or heartbroken. At least that's been the case for me.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 6:57 pm
We do it because we're all stupid. gonk sweatdrop 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 8:31 pm
because society has changed, in the 1800''s you could "court" someone for a few weeks and if you dug ''em....you got married a few weeks later...and divorce wasnt a word ....
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AmmonSuperCombo Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 11:17 pm
date the type of person you will want to marry. that way you wont have to worry about divorce, which i think could be made completely unneccesary... xp yeah i know i cant spell but school starts tomorrow so let it slide for just a bit longer....
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 2:01 am
I think we date because, deep down, all we want is companionship. Its human nature to want to be around other people - and I've heard it helps if you like them. lol
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 12:31 pm
good point all of you, I guess I really should rephrase the question. "Why do we date when we aren't mature enough to handle the consequences, good or bad?"
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 12:47 pm
because many people are ready to handle said consequences. not at like age 10, which is what the rest of the world seems to approve, but by the time you are about 16 you should be capable of understanding and dealing with many of the issues. not all of them but definitely more than when you were 12. if you are alking with reqards to sexual relationships then yes i agree. that should not be something that comes up while dating. "chastity is not a toy." you only have your virginity once and all the money in the world wont buy it back so dont do anything if you have even the slightest inkling that you will regret it in the future. save it for marriage kids. being faithful to your future wife/husband is worth the wait.
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AmmonSuperCombo Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 1:31 pm
AmmonSuperCombo because many people are ready to handle said consequences. not at like age 10, which is what the rest of the world seems to approve, but by the time you are about 16 you should be capable of understanding and dealing with many of the issues. not all of them but definitely more than when you were 12. if you are alking with reqards to sexual relationships then yes i agree. that should not be something that comes up while dating. "chastity is not a toy." you only have your virginity once and all the money in the world wont buy it back so dont do anything if you have even the slightest inkling that you will regret it in the future. save it for marriage kids. being faithful to your future wife/husband is worth the wait. I wasn't exactly referring to that, but more along the lines of steady dating, even after age 16 it's a very bad idea... until you are, of course, mature enough to handle the consequences that steady dating can bring upon you.
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 2:34 pm
fyr3neko I think we date because, deep down, all we want is companionship. Its human nature to want to be around other people - and I've heard it helps if you like them. lol haha, thats exactly it for me, i get depressed, cuz most of my friends date and stuff, and yeah....i dont have a girlfriend crying crying crying crying crying
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 2:55 pm
Nephite Warrior fyr3neko I think we date because, deep down, all we want is companionship. Its human nature to want to be around other people - and I've heard it helps if you like them. lol haha, thats exactly it for me, i get depressed, cuz most of my friends date and stuff, and yeah....i dont have a girlfriend crying crying crying crying crying believe me man, if oyu're still in grade school it's definetly not a good idea... I've learned many times the hard way...
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 3:28 pm
Unsung_Gaurdian AmmonSuperCombo because many people are ready to handle said consequences. not at like age 10, which is what the rest of the world seems to approve, but by the time you are about 16 you should be capable of understanding and dealing with many of the issues. not all of them but definitely more than when you were 12. if you are alking with reqards to sexual relationships then yes i agree. that should not be something that comes up while dating. "chastity is not a toy." you only have your virginity once and all the money in the world wont buy it back so dont do anything if you have even the slightest inkling that you will regret it in the future. save it for marriage kids. being faithful to your future wife/husband is worth the wait. I wasn't exactly referring to that, but more along the lines of steady dating, even after age 16 it's a very bad idea... until you are, of course, mature enough to handle the consequences that steady dating can bring upon you. what he said.
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AmmonSuperCombo Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 3:57 pm
"Steady" dating at an early age=pain.
"Fun" dating at any age =YAY
Yet we still steady date because everyone thinks that the person they care about is worth the risk-it is, when you're mature enough to handle it.
We date early so we can gain experience so that we won't be too stupid when we're old enough to handle a real relationship.
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Posted: Thu Aug 25, 2005 10:15 am
Torch24601 "Steady" dating at an early age=pain. "Fun" dating at any age =YAY Yet we still steady date because everyone thinks that the person they care about is worth the risk-it is, when you're mature enough to handle it. We date early so we can gain experience so that we won't be too stupid when we're old enough to handle a real relationship. I must disagree with you on that one. when I have children, I do not plan on letting them date until they're 16, people will argue with me that the "deprivation" of dating until that age will only deprive them of experience with dating, and certain situations. I however am against even "fun" dating until age 16 because of a few reasons, but I will only divulge one at the moment. We just aren't ready to date when we're 13, 14, 15, or younger, if an awekward moment does come up, how will a 14 year old deal with it? and I remember being 14, I was such a lost cause... if a girl liked me, I would like her, how am I to know if my children won't steady date if I allow them to "fun" date?
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Posted: Fri Aug 26, 2005 11:29 am
We date people to fill a void in our lives. This is a simple fact. It was designed from the begining to want that feeling of someone loving you. It is just natural.
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