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STUPID!!! As an example of this situation......my mother is single and will complain about not having any friends to go out with confused so I tell her to call a few friends and figure out something to do
3nodding , but she says she doesn't want to because they are married and they probably can't go out. eek How on earth can you know unless you try and call them! scream
I can't stand how some single people exclude a friend just because they are in a relationship. It happened to me in college when I had a boyfriend and it made me angry and now when it happens to me as an adult and married it just makes me more angry. stressed
It isn't that they are doing it with malice, but they do it because I suppose they assume I want to go out with my husband or that I am busy. I am no busier than they are confused and I spend every evening with my husband. I would like to take a break from going out with him once in awhile and go out with other people.

ALSO. I don't have to sit next to him every single time we go out with a group why do people assume that we are connected at the hip rolleyes . I am my own person I carry out my own conversations. I can interact without the dear husband.

There's a guy at my husband's work who's single and whenever it gets brought up that everyone should all hang out after work for drinks or dinner he objects because he doesn't want to hang with the spouses when he doesn't have anyone. I think that's the same reason why they didn't do a holiday party razz

I love the people my husband works with, I get along with them so well. We are a bunch of cool people, no one acts couplely or anything. It just sucks that we can't do that cuz of one bratty guy.

Why do single people think that married people are boing and lame? I can still party like any single person!

Maybe some of it is because some marrieds (or even just bf/gf's) don't do anything unless they are connected at the hip. An example is, during that 2003 blackout, my husband's friend Mike was over playing on the computer with my husband. It's still daytime mind you. Well, Mike's fiance came over to get him to go to the store to buy water for the dog wit her because she didn't want to go alone.

It's daytime.

Also, there's times the guys are out having fun, and she'd call Mike several times until he'd bale out early and head home.

Now for me: I let my husband go out regularly for "boys night out." He needs to keep his friendships going with others. As I see it, our marriage is healthier with him being able to go out.

I get the same thing quite a lot.

Terry doesn't like going out as much as I do.
He finds it being a bit awkward being surrounded by large groups of people- where as I thrive off it- so he'd rather come out for a couple of drinks with us first, then head off home before we hit the night-clubs.

So if I ever turn up anywhere without him, it's like- shock! horror! where is your husband?

After we got married, a few people suddenly stopped inviting us to come out all the time, or when we do all go out together, they don't talk as much to me and Terry.
It's not that we act all coupley and isolate ourselves, it's that other people assume we will.

But a lot of my friends are okay with it, and act completely normal around us, and still invite us/me/him to things.

I find it's my best friends that deal with it really well- they'll happily turn up at our house, and spend all evening with just us two, without being silly about it and thinking they're being a "third wheel".

Also, I find that whenever any of my friends get into a relationship, they're always dying to spend as much time with us as possible!

Maybe it's because some couples feel less awkward around other couples... although more than once, there has been a case of "Oh, look! Terry and Cherish are married and happy..."...*cough cough*... *hint hint*

you are a very smart woman. if you dont let your husbands out once and a while, they begin to resent you. im worried about my fiance', were having a baby and i know there has got to be a million things he wants to do, cuz there are many things i want to do. but he doesnt seem to ever say anything. im just worried that one day he will regret having a baby, and im also afraid we will loose our love along the way. but i guess its all up to us huh?

I guess people just feel left out or something, a lack of things in common? This is absolutely ridiculous, and I run into it as well. Friends that don't have a live-in s.o. tend to not know how to react sometimes. (Bless the ones who do!) "Do you invite them both all the time?" "Can you ask one over on the weekend, and not the other?" They'll actually ask me this stuff. Drives me nuts.

I think that, personally, my worst was when I had my son. I had Ciaran when I was eighteen (antibiotics and the pill don't go together well!) and every single one of my friends disappeared off the face of the planet. When I was pregnant phone calls got less and less, and when he was born they were gone. "We figured you'd be busy?" or even more fun for my rather fragile ego at the time "Don't you think it would be better if you stayed home?" Yah. I need to worry that going out for an hour or two and maintaining my mental health is more important than the "neglect" my child would suffer for being forced to spend some time with Daddy instead of Mommy. It was just culture clash, I guess, for these dolts. All the same, I think there is one person who still drops by now and then that was a friend before I was pregnant and married. But that's okay by me. Ciaran is ten now, and the friends I have, with or without spouses, are awesome and understanding people.

My friends acted wierd too, after highschool we all had a hard time getting together because there fas college work a nd more work and college and family.....I move with my family right after highschool to a place that's an hour's drive away. (and around here taht's a world away) but we did get together once every few months.

but then I got a boyfriend whom I could on;y see once a month. so my friends stoped call ing me eventually and some never return calls... I feel so exclued since I found out that they have time to see eachother....

but Mat got his shy girlfriend to hang out with "his boys" and I eventually got buddy pall with one of them and we all have a jolly time even after we got married. so now I play Magic t G and DnD with them. but most of all I like to play Rich man Poor man which we call "Rich b***h".

seems I've become "one of the guys",while my friends won't even answer the phone.........