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 Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 2:56 pm
I'm actually jealous of my friends because they have someone to hug, cuddle, and talk to. I mean it's not that they don't talk to me it's just they have someone to love. My boyfriend broke up with me a month before we got out of school for summer and it hurt...Still hurts... yet I miss going out on double dates. I miss having someone to hold, to hug, to comfort in times of need. I feel like there's no one out there for me....It's like, every guy I date has to have me sleep with him just to proove my love for them. (No I'm still virgin!>.< wink
My best male friend finally has a girlfriend and I want to meet her. He says she's too shy to meet us, yet he was able to meet her friends...That sets alert bells in my head. I don't want to judge her before i even meet her....then he accuses me and my best friend of trying to break them up when all we want is just to meet her. If we don't like her we'll say something but we won't try to break them up. When he said that it hurt...He says he's sorry about it and that he said it while half asleep....
Still I can't believe I'm jealous....They have someone and I don't....
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 3:55 pm
I can't help you much because I have never had a boyfriend or dated in my whole life. However, I can tell you that, that feeling of not having someone to cuddle with will stay put. This whole summer I have seen people every where holding hands or cuddle or something like that and I feel a bit lonely. Yet, I think that God it just prepareing me for having a boyfriend by just waiting. That is a gift...I think...because you think about what he will be like and you dream about it and such. Then when I do find a boyfriend I get to have someone like that but I still wait for special stuff for my husband. You might think this is funny but I am going to try to save my first kiss for my wedding day...just because I am half afraid if I start to kiss it will go pass my line which is like right by the first line. Get what I am saying?
Also, if you just set your mind on God and praise and work towards Him. God will let you see the man right by you that is perfect for you.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 3:59 pm
Ya but it's never really bugged me before...or it has just not like this...It just feels like it's unfair...
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 4:11 pm
You might not be jealous...you might be protective. One of my friends asked me out and I said no...for more then one reason. He then move away so we didn't go to the same school anymore. I talked to him about 3 months later and learn that he was engaged! I was shock, surpriced, you name it. I first felt jealous but thought about it and then know I just to now his girlfriend. I still haven't met her yet, but it sounds like my friend is happy.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 6:15 pm
Yea....I am protective over my friends...I hate being single but at the same time I don't quite like the idea of being eternally alone...I'm calmer than I was earlier when I wrote my message but yea....
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 6:17 pm
Well, I hope I helped you out a bit. God bless.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 6:19 pm
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 7:33 pm
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 8:59 am
I don't know if this is right for the topic, but I really choke up when asked out by a friend (who is a girl). Cause as strange as this might sound, if I have a good history with that person, I won't want to ruin that with a personal relationship which would probably not work out anyway. Then you have to them sthem depressed when you say "no" to them. And then you never quite have the same bond that you did before.
It's really hard for an outcast like myself to get a gf from school who isn't already a long-time friend. sad Even though you don't get that good feeling that comes from a relationship, your life is much simpler if it is just yourself to look after.
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 9:50 am
Skyling Draggonnov I'm actually jealous of my friends because they have someone to hug, cuddle, and talk to. I mean it's not that they don't talk to me it's just they have someone to love. My boyfriend broke up with me a month before we got out of school for summer and it hurt...Still hurts... yet I miss going out on double dates. I miss having someone to hold, to hug, to comfort in times of need. I feel like there's no one out there for me....It's like, every guy I date has to have me sleep with him just to proove my love for them. (No I'm still virgin!>.< wink My best male friend finally has a girlfriend and I want to meet her. He says she's too shy to meet us, yet he was able to meet her friends...That sets alert bells in my head. I don't want to judge her before i even meet her....then he accuses me and my best friend of trying to break them up when all we want is just to meet her. If we don't like her we'll say something but we won't try to break them up. When he said that it hurt...He says he's sorry about it and that he said it while half asleep.... *HUGS!!!!* I am suffering from the same problem. A lot of my friends have someone special. I am already praying that God provides me with someone or that I will know the someone I am supposed to be with when I see him. I feel so lonely sometimes. God does fill you with the Holy Spirit and all....but I still feel a small emptry space that needs filling. I am glad that I am not the only one. ^^ Still I can't believe I'm jealous....They have someone and I don't....
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 9:56 am
True, true. Like I said before I am just waiting for God to bring me a boyfriend because if I go look for one, it would not work. I think dating is one of the hardest things personally. My church is showing this video about dating and courtship to anyone who wants to see it. My mother encouraged me to come with her to this class and I did. They had already played two lessons, so I started to watch it on lesson three. However, the pastor on this video brought up a lot of good points and such. It is Song of Solomon video series by Tommy Nelson, so check it out if you can.
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 11:05 am
-hugs Kitty- Thanks....I guess at this point I'm afraid the Lord wants me single and I couldn't take that. Somehow I don't think it'll happen that way but still....the thought's there in the back of my mind. I know deep in my heart that can't be the case but sometimes that's how I feel.
I did get to meet a friend who I met online and he seems pretty cool. He's a follower which I think is cool, because I really do need more friends who are believers. Plus he's a guy and he's cute! On a normal basis I don't think the guys in my youth group datable......I mean they're dateble just not for me... I guess my friend Brady is the first that I've actually noticed yet we've only met. I'm hoiping to get my friends to meet him too. Dad's a little skeptical about him, mom's only heard about him...At the same time I like him I think I'm just a little bit afraid to get my heart broken again....
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Posted: Wed Aug 24, 2005 2:29 pm
Skyling Draggonnov -hugs Kitty- Thanks....I guess at this point I'm afraid the Lord wants me single and I couldn't take that. Somehow I don't think it'll happen that way but still....the thought's there in the back of my mind. I know deep in my heart that can't be the case but sometimes that's how I feel. I did get to meet a friend who I met online and he seems pretty cool. He's a follower which I think is cool, because I really do need more friends who are believers. Plus he's a guy and he's cute! On a normal basis I don't think the guys in my youth group datable......I mean they're dateble just not for me... I guess my friend Brady is the first that I've actually noticed yet we've only met. I'm hoiping to get my friends to meet him too. Dad's a little skeptical about him, mom's only heard about him...At the same time I like him I think I'm just a little bit afraid to get my heart broken again.... love is a game....there is a risk.....I just hope that you are not as afraid as I am to find someone. I think I might be unconciously avoiding love. I hope I am not. I want to find somebody.
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Posted: Wed Aug 24, 2005 7:02 pm
Kitty_Rabbit Skyling Draggonnov -hugs Kitty- Thanks....I guess at this point I'm afraid the Lord wants me single and I couldn't take that. Somehow I don't think it'll happen that way but still....the thought's there in the back of my mind. I know deep in my heart that can't be the case but sometimes that's how I feel. I did get to meet a friend who I met online and he seems pretty cool. He's a follower which I think is cool, because I really do need more friends who are believers. Plus he's a guy and he's cute! On a normal basis I don't think the guys in my youth group datable......I mean they're dateble just not for me... I guess my friend Brady is the first that I've actually noticed yet we've only met. I'm hoiping to get my friends to meet him too. Dad's a little skeptical about him, mom's only heard about him...At the same time I like him I think I'm just a little bit afraid to get my heart broken again.... love is a game....there is a risk.....I just hope that you are not as afraid as I am to find someone. I think I might be unconciously avoiding love. I hope I am not. I want to find somebody. I think a problem I have is my pride. I've been hurt once and i'm a little afraid to go out again, even though I miss the fun in it....and I use my prider as a shield...or other emotions....I find it a bit funny that I can advice other people in some of their relationships yet with my own I suck at them! >< grrr I'm mad at myself and I'm mad at the world....It just doesn't seem fair....I know my heart believes but my mind's too busy thinking logically....
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Posted: Wed Aug 24, 2005 8:42 pm
wow that's totally like me, I just came out of a relationship a few weeks ago but I feel that without a guy around though I love being around them...I will be able to concentrate more on god and what I'm going to be doing this year in school. But I hope that one day I'll meet a christian guy who will help me to do my best and believes in the word of god
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