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 Posted: Mon Jan 28, 2008 12:15 pm
My boyfriend left me and Aeris. He took his stuff and left. Now I don't know what to do. I don't have a job or anything. I am so scared.
So now i know he left me for good. He wants to take aeris away from me. I found a job today although it doesn't pay much and i won't have too many hours. My heart is so broken and i just need to get my life back together. I officially hate guys who are undeserving and inconsiderate. This also officially sucks. I also cannot log into my email or myspace because i think my "ex" messed it up ....so if anyone has anything to send me send it to littlevelveteenhero@yahoo.com
Update in last post.
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Posted: Mon Jan 28, 2008 1:16 pm
Here laid to rest... I know this must be tough for you. Do you have any family or friends near you that can help? At least until you get a job? I know of jobs and housing places here in Florida but Im afraid Im not much help when it comes to Connecticut. =/
...is our love ever longed
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Posted: Tue Jan 29, 2008 11:15 pm
I do have some people with me but no one can really help what i am going through.
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Posted: Wed Jan 30, 2008 7:26 am
Oh Narc.. I'm so sorry honey.
Why does he want to take Aeris?
Don't worry honey.. If you end up going to court, ten-to-one they'll let you keep Aeris. The court usually sides with the mother, if she's competent. And you're more than competent.
Narcsissa, if there's ANYTHING I can ever do for you and Aeris, or you just want to talk, let me know, okay?
I'm always here.
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Posted: Wed Jan 30, 2008 2:44 pm
man, that sucks muchly.
what happened that got things to this stage?
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Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 9:00 pm
Thanks Alanna!
Honestly I have no clue how things ended up this way and I don't know why he would want to take aeris. He has told me that he doesn't even know how to take care of her. She hasn't even noticed he has been gone. I hope everything works out ok in the end.
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 6:03 am
Probly not the best thing I could say, but he DOES have to pay child support. So you should start attacking him for that, because in Canada at least, if you (the father) leave the mother of your child, you are expected to pay child support and if you cannot pay it, then you're pretty much screwed ^-^
but all-in-all, if ever he wanted custody of Aeris, you've got almost 100% chance of keeping her than he does. If they can deem you unfit like Alanna said, then he'd get her, but you prove yourself more than capable everyday. In a baby's life, their mother is their most important person.
Things'll eventually turn in your favour Narc, but it'll be rough getting there. I wish you and Aeris all the best luck that I can give. You'll make hun.
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 8:39 am
Yeah it's the same in the USA. If you dont pay hcild support they'll start garnishing your wages and if you STILL cant pay it or refuse to then you get arrested.
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 7:01 pm
He cant win, so long as you arent doing anything illegal. Dont worry, the courts will be in your favor. I have faith in that. smile
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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 1:02 pm
So the drama continues. After a month not seeing my ex he pops out of nowhere and wants me back. He told me how he was stupid and wrong and how he should have never left. The thing is that I am not so sure I want him back . The only thing I care about its Aeris' future. I don't want her to not have both parents, but I do not want her to have to deal with heartbreak and pain because of her parents. Any suggestions?
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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 3:24 pm
Having both parents together is not the bigger concern, because she can have both parents involved in her life regardless of whether or not they are together. If he has been neglectful of her in the past then there is a good chance he still will be. If you think it's worth it to give him another shot, then go for it. Maybe the best thing you can do right now is to take it slow and don't put your trust in him for a while.
Maybe you need an outsider's perspective from someone who knows the situation and knows both of you, like a relative or friend.
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Posted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 10:03 pm
Yeah... Everyone is pretty much saying the same thing when i talk to my friends and family. They think that i am much happier now then when I was with him and that I should have someone who will treat me better.
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Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 2:13 pm
It's hard to hear, but if a relationship is bad for you then it's best to end it and not go back. Everyone deserves happiness, and your baby deserves a happy mother. It's better for her if she can see that her mom doesn't take s**t from men, It will teach her to be confident and not take s**t. Ya know?
To use me as an example, Dane and I broke up, now we're on and off. He may be Evelyn's father, but he's not a good person for me to be with and he's not a good father. Looking to the future, I don't want Evelyn to see me with him because I don't want to see her with guys like him. See?
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