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 Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 4:29 am
In our relationship it always seems like I'm the one who has to bring up the idea of sex before we do anything. He very, very seldom tries to put the moves on me. Is this normal? In your relationships, does it seem like it's the same person who brings up the idea of sex every time?
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Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 10:22 am
Not really. Its pretty much 50/50 for us.
Although, it can go in perts were I'll bring it up more then He will. But for the most part its even
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Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 5:18 pm
Hmmmmm. It depends on what is going on in our lives. Sometimes I am too stressed to be thinking in that direction or it could be the other way with him being stressed. Lately I have been the one suggesting it before we actually start anything seriously. Maybe you don't recognize when he is suggesting it?? I know my husband might come on to me in a weird way that I don't understand..
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Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:27 pm
Actually no one really initates it when it comes to me and Daniel. It just happens. You know?
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Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 9:48 pm
I bring it up more than she does. She could be hinting at it and it just goes over my head.
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 4:05 am
Well, technically, I suppose it's usually me, too.
You see, my husband wants sex pretty much constantly. At least a couple of times every hour, (no matter where we are rolleyes ) he'll look down my top, or put his arms around my waist, or kiss the back of my neck, stuff like that.
Of course, he doesn't get sex every tme he hints that he wants it.
So usually we only end up having sex if I initiate it... but by 'initiate', I mean 'kissing him back'.
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 10:59 pm
It used to be pretty much 50/50. Ever since we got pregnant though, I want it a lot more than he does, so now I'm the initiator, leaving dirty messages on his phone and then tackling him when he comes home. (He's getting off work soon! Woohoo!) lol
I'm wondering how/if there will be sex after the baby though confused Until then, we are both happy with our new found hyper-sex life.
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Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 7:39 am
I would say it's pretty even between me and Shawn. We have different methods of initiating, though. I will be rather forward...he will be SUPER forward redface
Don't be too worried or feel too bad if your the one always initiating, though. Shawn and I had a patch like that earlier in our relationship. I believe he was shy and didn't realize how open I was to him acting out what he wanted to do xd
I'm positive a similar situation could occur with different couples at different stages in their relationship.
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Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 12:57 pm
those are some interesting stories you guys posted.
for us we just usually it's him but sometimes I wake him up in the morning in a interesting way.......
otherthan that it's whenever both of us are in bed. for his job recently he's been working 9-5am (yes the midnight shift) and he'll "instigate" when he get's home which ends up as me "putting him to bed". So on his days off he'll "put me to bed", then play on his computer. Or when he works the afternoon shift I "wake him up" in the late morning.
Also when your waiting for your pot roast to boil those couple hours..........
xd then again we've been only married since July. Haha, silly newly weds...
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Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 9:40 pm
well David says its seems he's the one who tries to more than me. but i think its pretty 50/50. he's ready to go even when people are around..but i dont really like that because i have to bite my lip to keep my mouth shut. xd
i like to mess with him when he's sleeping. like..you know when guys wake up they're hard? well when he's sleeping ill mess with him and see it move redface sweatdrop plus he'll wake up and sometimes catch me messing with him. whee
other things ill do is wear thin V-neck shirts, while i hug him ill grab his butt, when were lying down watching TV in my room ill rub his neck and collor bone.. just subtle things like that.
him. grab my boobs. lol. thats the most obvious one.
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Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 10:33 pm
Diavolina_Ivy It used to be pretty much 50/50. Ever since we got pregnant though, I want it a lot more than he does, so now I'm the initiator, leaving dirty messages on his phone and then tackling him when he comes home. (He's getting off work soon! Woohoo!) lol I'm wondering how/if there will be sex after the baby though confused Until then, we are both happy with our new found hyper-sex life. Hmm.. I've never experienced (I STILL want my baby!!) but I've heard that AFTER is a lot worse..
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Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 10:56 pm
Diavolina_Ivy It used to be pretty much 50/50. Ever since we got pregnant though, I want it a lot more than he does, so now I'm the initiator, leaving dirty messages on his phone and then tackling him when he comes home. (He's getting off work soon! Woohoo!) lol I'm wondering how/if there will be sex after the baby though confused Until then, we are both happy with our new found hyper-sex life. Well, I'm pretty sure you can't have sex for a few weeks after you give birth because you have to let yourself heal up and stuff. Don't quote me on that though, because I've never had a baby (but I'm currently in a maternal I want a baby stage. heh). Plus for the first few months yuo probably won't have time to, and when you do you'll want to sleep. Hehe
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Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 5:25 am
I think I may just have a higher libido than he does. . .which I think is weird. We've all grown up with these stereotypes that all men want sex all the time and I suppose, even though there might be a hint of truth to it, it can't always be true.
A lot of times I'll bring the idea up, either outright or just hinting, and he just plain doesn't want to have sex. And then it just ends up ruining the whole day because I feel bad because I feel like it's MY fault and he feels bad because he feels like there's something with him for not wanting to have sex all the time.
If I'm pushy, we'll maybe have sex twice a week. . .and it's not like the romance should have drifted out of our marriage yet, we've only been married for a little over six months. . .
I don't know. Sex is frustrating. And I don't think it's supposed to be. Which makes it even more frustrating.
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Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 6:43 pm
danamia I think I may just have a higher libido than he does. . .which I think is weird. We've all grown up with these stereotypes that all men want sex all the time and I suppose, even though there might be a hint of truth to it, it can't always be true. A lot of times I'll bring the idea up, either outright or just hinting, and he just plain doesn't want to have sex. And then it just ends up ruining the whole day because I feel bad because I feel like it's MY fault and he feels bad because he feels like there's something with him for not wanting to have sex all the time. If I'm pushy, we'll maybe have sex twice a week. . .and it's not like the romance should have drifted out of our marriage yet, we've only been married for a little over six months. . . I don't know. Sex is frustrating. And I don't think it's supposed to be. Which makes it even more frustrating. did you guys start out with having sex a lot? i dont know what thats like really. me and David were together for 2 years before we had sex. and now we dont get to see each other very often, once every 2 weeks. so were both wanting it when we do see each other. only question is, can we, when we finally see each other? lol. (theres always someone around) but i could see the frustration in that. neutral
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Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 12:35 pm
Ame no Tenshi Diavolina_Ivy It used to be pretty much 50/50. Ever since we got pregnant though, I want it a lot more than he does, so now I'm the initiator, leaving dirty messages on his phone and then tackling him when he comes home. (He's getting off work soon! Woohoo!) lol I'm wondering how/if there will be sex after the baby though confused Until then, we are both happy with our new found hyper-sex life. Well, I'm pretty sure you can't have sex for a few weeks after you give birth because you have to let yourself heal up and stuff. Don't quote me on that though, because I've never had a baby (but I'm currently in a maternal I want a baby stage. heh). Plus for the first few months yuo probably won't have time to, and when you do you'll want to sleep. Hehe Yep, that's it exactly. We can't have sex for a while after the baby is born, and by then I expect to be exhausted and unshowered, etc from taking care of the baby. I am trying to sneak in as much sex now as possible wink
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