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 Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 10:51 am
That's all I wanted to hear from him.
"I missed you."
"How have you been?"
"I thought about you alot on my trip."
I feel alot like those dumb girls that are always demanding their men to say something, but those are the things I honestly wanted to hear so bad.
And instead I got a brief description of his trip, and then ignored so he can talk to his dad before he comes back to the US.
I can totally understand blowing me off for his dad, that doesn't bother me..
It just.. seems like he didn't really think about me as much as I thought about him. It doesn't seem like he missed me, almost like he expects me to just be there. Always.
Maybe I held too much expectations, but I'm really hurt.
He says he cares, but then he turns around and acts like he doesn't.
Boys really stink sometimes.
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Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 11:40 am
Well, you could go about the same way, and when he asks you what's pissed you off so much, you could bring up the fact that you don't think he returns the same feelings you give him. Or that he doesn't acknowledge your feelings that you DO give him.
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Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 5:58 pm
Well... if you go about it that way.... if he's already seeming like he's ignoring you, getting angry or ignoring him might not raise his curiosity into asking what's wrong, but instead cause him to retaliate in his own anger. *shrug* If he's anything like me, just confront him head-on with what's bothering you, and that it does bother you. Talk about it without pretending to be mad or making him think you're mad and sad.... we don't read minds... and if we don't know what's bothering you, we'll either give up and leave you alone, or pester you till you tell us...(only if you're in the 'you should know' mood, haha) but we really don't. Guessing gets us in a lot of trouble, and we mostly don't take to subtleties too well.
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Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 4:42 pm
eternaly_doomed Well... if you go about it that way.... if he's already seeming like he's ignoring you, getting angry or ignoring him might not raise his curiosity into asking what's wrong, but instead cause him to retaliate in his own anger. *shrug* If he's anything like me, just confront him head-on with what's bothering you, and that it does bother you. Talk about it without pretending to be mad or making him think you're mad and sad.... we don't read minds... and if we don't know what's bothering you, we'll either give up and leave you alone, or pester you till you tell us...(only if you're in the 'you should know' mood, haha) but we really don't. Guessing gets us in a lot of trouble, and we mostly don't take to subtleties too well. Yeah, I gotta admit, the entire 'cold shoulder' thing does NOT work on any guy. I did that once to him before, I don't remember what I was upset with at that time, and we ended up not talking for 2 months. I don't know if it's really worth the confrontation; I'm not his girlfriend, and I can't exactly be his girlfriend for another four years (which I'm starting to think might be really impossible), so wouldn't it seem pretty dumb to be like "Hey _____, dude. I'm kind of upset that you're not really showing much towards me. What the ******** up, yo?" I think we've also had a similar talk; he said he still liked me BUT he can't expect much from me, and in the same way, I probably shouldn't expect much from him either until we can really pursue this thing further. It's really petty thing and I cooled down a bit and decided it's not much to get worked up about.. I really need to get one of those "handbook to men" books. Those now seem like they'd be awefully handy.
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Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 5:09 pm
If you get a handbook for men, you'll need one for EVERY guy you EVER handle, EVER. Because no man is alike, which is why different methods have different effects on different guys. Now if you don't mind, the cafeteria is about to close, so I need to run and get my nutrition for the night. =D
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Posted: Sun Jan 20, 2008 12:16 pm
but but, Like >.< I can be like a mini handbook of men o.O ? yes?
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Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 5:54 pm
eternaly_doomed but but, Like >.< I can be like a mini handbook of men o.O ? yes? More like footnotes. D: The only completely accurate information you can give her is about yourself, and not everyone is completely self-aware. You can give her advice, and tips on how to go about things, but no absolutes. Ever. To anyone. Except this one telling you no absolutes. D: I love the irony of telling someone no absolutes, because that in itself IS an absolute. However, I can safely say that most men are just itching to get into your pants. And if he's literally itching, don't let him. =D
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Posted: Tue Jan 29, 2008 3:01 am
Haha, well yeah, but you know what I mean.
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