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 Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 2:03 pm
A young girl, maybe 9 years old, knocked on my apartment door today. My boyfriend said that she told him that she was collecting money for the American Heart Association. I had seen her going door to door before I left to pick Robert up from work and I saw that she did in fact have pamphlets in her hands.
Well, Robert said that we were low on money and had nothing to give her (which is semi-true) and she smiled, said okay and apologized for bothering us and went on to the next door.
He came and told me what happened and I just looked at him and said:
I wouldn´t have given her money even if we had some to spare. In this area, I don´t trust that they´d actually give it to the corporation but keep it for themselves.
Am I wicked for thinking that? @_@;; I mean, if I´m going to donate to an organization, I´m going to write out a check and mail it to them myself. I don´t trust door-to-door-ers, even if they´re 9 years old.
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Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 4:41 pm
yeah.. because of a bad experience I had once with a door to door 'donation' collector, I'd be wary too. honestly, if you want to donate to a reputable organization like the AMA (just about any charitable organization.. AMA, World Wildlife Fund, ASPCA, Red Cross, etc..) will have an official website, you can find their website online easily enough on which they do have a link for donations. unless it's girl scout cookies (yum yum!) or one of my sons school friends, I dont do door to door donations anymore no matter what they offer in return for your donation.
I wouldnt fret too much about it. it's hard to trust anyone these days.
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Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:37 pm
*agrees with Calypsophia*
V wouldn't be able to say no he's too trusting of anyone for good or bad but if I was a little less trusting I'd at least try and gather together some change in coins and ones and apologize that I couldn't help more.
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Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 3:55 am
Nerevar Fatehand *agrees with Calypsophia* V wouldn't be able to say no he's too trusting of anyone for good or bad but if I was a little less trusting I'd at least try and gather together some change in coins and ones and apologize that I couldn't help more. it's easier to pocket change in coins than it is a check. and for me, it would be the point of the matter. if someone is in need of money, just be honest and ask me. not that I condone begging, but I would be more inclined to give some change in coins for that, than give to someone I suspect may be lying to me. hehe, I once saw someone with a sign begging in the middle of the street, and the sign said "I need a beer, and that's the truth!". I swear, if I had a $5 or a beer, I'd have given it to him just for being honest lol.
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Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 9:10 am
I live in a pretty small town. Door to door collections are pretty common. I donate to local charities every time they come to my door (Fireman's association, the local VA, the schools' music association, etc.) I've never worried about where my check was going to.
If someone from a larger, non-local, organization comes to my door, I take the information and say I'll think about it. That way, I can check out the legitimacy of the organization and not feel pressured by someone waiting for a check.
Sometimes, though, if I don't feel like dealing with them, I just won't answer the door!
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Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 6:51 pm
I think you probably are on the right track. Here when there are collections for big organisations like the blind foundation, surf life saving, breast cancer association, etc usually there are ads on tv about it. If i see the ads and then the collectors then i usually give them some change. If its something obscure I dont usually donate. Nor if its anything religious (im not exactly sure why, possibly because im not sure what i believe yet, and ive seen how a few have misused their money. Also because they badger you so much >.< )
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Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 7:48 pm
i go door to door for the Heart Association too.
they give you documentation, like a cover letter, in case people have questions.
sometimes i get a little cardboard badge.
that's how they raise all their money, through neighbors visiting neighbors.
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Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 4:06 am
chessiejo i go door to door for the Heart Association too. they give you documentation, like a cover letter, in case people have questions. sometimes i get a little cardboard badge. that's how they raise all their money, through neighbors visiting neighbors. if you mean the American Heart Association, they have a website with a link for donations. I've also gotten mailings from them in the past.
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Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 3:56 pm
Yeah, I would of done that. In certain you just can't trust things like that. I mean if a door-to-door person comes to my door, I would still try to just tell them piloty to them that, a "no, no is here" or "I don't have any money at the time." But a person can understand that. It's just normal, sadly, that we just don't trust people and suspect people of doing thing like that. I mean, I know a little off topic, on the Tyra Banks show, they did something like that. It's just normal for people to do that. There was a "begger"(he was an actor) on the street and when he was asking for spare change most people didn't give the guy any money. So it's normal that you would do that. A lot of people would. I know I would.
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Posted: Sun Jan 20, 2008 3:33 pm
it is probably easy to classify what you did as "bad", but everything is always more complicated than that. it is obvious to me that we shouldn't ever trust anyone totally, and with all the different kinds of people in the world, it has become apparent that age, gender, occupation, and outward appearance can mean nothing. so, while your attitude is probably a smart one, if built up to high, it can make your life miserable.
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 8:35 am
die kleine Fee A young girl, maybe 9 years old, knocked on my apartment door today. My boyfriend said that she told him that she was collecting money for the American Heart Association. I had seen her going door to door before I left to pick Robert up from work and I saw that she did in fact have pamphlets in her hands. Well, Robert said that we were low on money and had nothing to give her (which is semi-true) and she smiled, said okay and apologized for bothering us and went on to the next door. He came and told me what happened and I just looked at him and said: I wouldn´t have given her money even if we had some to spare. In this area, I don´t trust that they´d actually give it to the corporation but keep it for themselves. Am I wicked for thinking that? @_@;; I mean, if I´m going to donate to an organization, I´m going to write out a check and mail it to them myself. I don´t trust door-to-door-ers, even if they´re 9 years old. I agree, it's not easy to trust people.
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 10:59 am
My mom used to work for the a.h.a. and i know for a fact that there are other ways of donating to them.
I highly recommend not giving donations to door knockers.
Some of them are just trying to get money for their own greedy selves.
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Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:44 am
You're just a little synical. There's nothing wrong with that. Don't worry.
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 11:05 pm
I understand what you all are saying but.... While I'm not disagreeing totally with what you are saying I do have a few things I would like to say. Personally I think that sometimes you just have to trust. I personally profess to be a quite conservative Christian I would like to ask why you give. I give because I am called by Christ Himself to care for the poor and needy. So therefore I can give to someone who I don't know for sure what they will do with the money because I am doing it to help people. If that person uses the money for their own self than that is between them and God. Now, to come back out of Christan world. I would ask why you felt lead to give in the first place. If its out of a feeling that you need to do good for a reason(I don't know your motives but I'm just guessing). Then even if that person used that money to buy alcohol or whatever you would not know. Thus you would feel like you helped some charity or such. Its the same result to you in the end. Now if you have reason to believe that that person would use the money in an unwise way then of course you wouldn't be wrong in not giving your money. This was just my 2 cents. Thanks for considering. bugguy
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Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:39 pm
I wouldn't have given anyone money, no matter how old they are or who they had with them.
Bad experience.
A man approached me once, half crying. He said his car ran out of gas and asked for a ride to the nearest gas station. He had two children with him, whom he claimed were his kids. Upon getting to the station, he said he 'just realized he had no money'. So me being the nice person I am, I gave him a $20 bill. He gladly took it, but then asked for another $20. I felt uneasy, but he said it was to feed the kids, so I hesitantly gave him the other $20. He said he would pay me back later that night.
He came back, but it was him saying that it wasn't a gas problem, and the car needed repairs. I loaned him $50 that time, and he said he would come back to give me $100 on his way back from his father's house.
That time, he never came.
Sure, it's my fault because I was the one that fell for it, but I'm never taking that chance again. I don't care how honest the person is.
So in my opinion, you did the right thing, undoubtedly.
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