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 Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 10:48 am
I know that there are a lot of people out there who change some aspect of themselves for lolita--whether it's as minor as getting a haircut to better wear a headdress, as major as losing significant amounts of weight to better fit into brand name clothing, or as extreme as altering your entire personality to better fit into what you hold as the ideal "lolita lifestyle". I'm sure most of you have heard me give my spiel before in the past, some of you have heard it many times: changing yourself for lolita is a silly thing to do.
That is, however, just my opinion, and rather not even entirely concrete in terms of beliefs; it mostly applies to mannerisms and personality, anyway. Like most girls [and guys] getting into lolita, I have done certain things to change myself [cutting my hair for one example]. Lolita has also changed me in some ways. It has made me significantly more open-minded to "alternative" looks and lifestyles, for one. Another example is the way I approach people around me. I'm still the same me, I just have started to spread the love and show that me to strangers and not just close friends. I'm more extroverted than before.
So. My questions for you:
How have you changed yourself for lolita?
How has lolita changed you?
And for each of those questions: is there a reason why?
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Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:49 pm
What I changed:
Grew my hair out, and dyed it back to blonde (it was red beforehand), and got classic lolita bangs.
Changed body language to be more graceful, which is good to have anyway IMO.
What changed me:
I now think of money in terms of what lolita it could buy. Like "Oh, that's two expensive! It's two headdresses and a skirt!"
When shopping for "normal" clothing, I try and see if it could be used in lolita, and I end up putting nearly everything back. XD
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Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 10:33 am
What I changed:
I now have my hair one colour (brown) instead a rainbow of craptasticness like it was before and I started covering up my cleavage a bit more.
What Lolita changed:
I have no stopped spending every single penny as soon as I get it, now I am keeping a piggy bank of my extras everyday. Clothing has also modivated me to shead some of my 240 pounds and get to a healthy size!
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Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 4:56 pm
Hmmmm, first of all, I dont consider myself lolita or at least completely, just heavily influenced.
I dunno, but the way i dress, has a lot of those modest stuff and knits. Um I dunno how to explain it but it has ruffles but its still kinda an asian style with more modesty and femine touches. (well not so much on the modesty if i still wear jean minis ha ha ha) Ill have to post a pic sometime ha ha ha.
But i think the idea of the soft cute colors that lolitas love like cream and pink and soft blues and yellows, that stuff.
Also Ive been trying to grow my hair long (just need 2-3 more inches) so i can curl it properly.
Also my drawing style, when it comes to drawing, I love drawing lolitas its sooo cute, and drinking tea is a favorite passtime and im so glad that my crush loves tea as much as I do. Recently I went over to his place and we had tea ^^llll with honey and we actually argued about tea and sugars and honey and anything that compliments it ha ha ha
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Posted: Sun Jan 20, 2008 6:40 pm
Well, I tried getting a haircut to look more lolita, but I found out quickly that bangs are not for me and I changed my hairstyle back to something a little more "tomboy-ish" (despite the fact that I may not look like a proper loli now).
I'm also trying (and failing) to lose weight to fit into lolita dresses better, and I really want to learn how to sew so that I can create my own designs.
Other than that, lolita hasn't really changed me. I mean, I always try to act polite around people regardless of what I'm wearing, and I don't really see the point in changing your personality to fit into a certain style. It just seems kind of... fake.
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:44 pm
How have I changed myself:
Well, I'm not the walking rainbow I used to be. I used to wear lots of crazy bright colors since I was into Decora. After a while I got tired of it, and it figures when I do I dyed parts of my hair pink sometime before x_x It was just a bit..much. And because of my height, it made me seem more like a mismatched kid than anything. And around that time, I was looking more at Lolita clothing. I joined communities on LJ, and discovered Casual Lolita. I saw that even with stuff from Target could fit Casual Lolita style..it was like my 8th grade self squeed in joy XD Because I always liked the fashion back then, but never actually dressed the style.
How has Lolita changed me:
Well I'm still the same me. Shy, quiet at first..then tomboyish and snarky when you break the shell. But I find shopping a hella lot more fun. Scouting stores for casual lolita clothing and accessories. I feel I'm a bit more fashionable than I was ever before, even if I did like decora for two years previously...D: its just a bit different I guess. Well, of course. XD; but..you know what I mean. I think.
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Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 4:58 am
What I changed:
I'm more effeminate, and use make-up. I try to act a little calmer when I meet new people to set a better example. I also enjoy myself more often then I use to. Lolita is defiantly a step forward, in my book ^-^b
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 8:49 pm
What I changed:
My hair cut, only because I liked my hair with bangs, and Lolita sort of influenced that. I'm also nicer, but it's not forced. I have "cuter reactions", which is what alot of people tell me. I'm also told that since I got into High School, I've been calmer, and I dress a little cuter, like, nothing boring. I dunno what else to say... >.>
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Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2008 7:03 pm
What I've changed for Lolita ~
Nothing. I didn't need to change anything.
How Lolita has changed me ~
I've become more interested in different types of fashions, and in fashion design. It has also made me a fan of Charmmy Kitty for some odd reason.
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 1:28 pm
A couple of you have said that lolita has made you "less tom-boyish" or "more feminine;" is there a particular reason you became interested in lolita, given your previous clothing and likes? Did you just feel a need for the change, or was there something in particular about lolita that drew you in?
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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 4:47 am
spuntino A couple of you have said that lolita has made you "less tom-boyish" or "more feminine;" is there a particular reason you became interested in lolita, given your previous clothing and likes? Did you just feel a need for the change, or was there something in particular about lolita that drew you in?
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Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 10:45 am
I haven't changed anything yet.. but I have little self-esteem. I'm enforcing a rule on myself that I am not allowed to wear lolita, or any nice clothes at all, for my own sake (at a wedding or party where it's mandatory, obviously I will) until I'm at a healthy weight. I have about 50-60 pounds to lose before then.
I would not change my personality for the sake of lolita. While wearing the clothes, I might act differently; that's just the kind of person I am. Different outfits, different states of mind. But I don't fake anything.
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Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 6:31 pm
How have you changed yourself for lolita?
Nothing, unless spending all my time on lolita sites count heart .
How has lolita changed you?
I'm into fashion a lot more, and I pay attention to what I wear, and incidentally what other people wear.
Other note:
I think if the mannerisms of lolita and the lifestyle appeal to you, then if you want to change your self then go a head. As long as you aren't forcing your self into a nonexistent lolita "ideal", then do what you want.
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Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 7:26 pm
Morbid Outlook I think if the mannerisms of lolita and the lifestyle appeal to you, then if you want to change your self then go a head. As long as you aren't forcing your self into a nonexistent lolita "ideal", then do what you want.
A lot of girls who do this, I've noticed, either haven't been into the fashion very long, or else are huge fans of Princess Skye [which is ironic, since she herself has written articles talking about how there is no "one" lolita lifestyle and that hers is hardly the "perfect" lifestyle for everyone, as it's all a sort of role-playing to her]. Many times, they grow out of it and realize that they don't have to give up liking skateboards or violent movies or pizza when they're dressed up. Sometimes, it results in a lot of drama and suffering along the way.
Mostly, that's the sort of change I'm against; the rejection of all past influences to fit into some imagined ideal rather than an acceptance of yourself as yourself, whether you like ruffles and lace or not.
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Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 12:51 pm
spuntino Morbid Outlook I think if the mannerisms of lolita and the lifestyle appeal to you, then if you want to change your self then go a head. As long as you aren't forcing your self into a nonexistent lolita "ideal", then do what you want.
A lot of girls who do this, I've noticed, either haven't been into the fashion very long, or else are huge fans of Princess Skye [which is ironic, since she herself has written articles talking about how there is no "one" lolita lifestyle and that hers is hardly the "perfect" lifestyle for everyone, as it's all a sort of role-playing to her]. Many times, they grow out of it and realize that they don't have to give up liking skateboards or violent movies or pizza when they're dressed up. Sometimes, it results in a lot of drama and suffering along the way.
Mostly, that's the sort of change I'm against; the rejection of all past influences to fit into some imagined ideal rather than an acceptance of yourself as yourself, whether you like ruffles and lace or not.
Yeah, basiclly what I was thinking. I think it should be bolded on every page on lolita, that there is no ideal lolita lifestyle. >.<.
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