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 Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 9:03 am
my problems r as follows
i am 20 my parents r rasicts so is my sister OH WAIT my whole flippin family is grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr anyways i am with and have been dating and am now engaged to and maybe pregnant by in love with and wanting to marry a 25 year old black male he comes from the city (chicago) i come from a hillbilly rascist hating villiage i cant even call it a town we meet at our local collage and we love each other but because of my 'rents racism i can NOT and i quote sorry if i offend anyone here "YOU CANT SEE HIM LOOK AT HIM TALK TO HIM TOUCH HIM OR DO ANYTHIN ELSE WITH HIM I DONT CARE IF U MOVE OUT BUT THIS IS HOW IT WILL BE IN MY HOUSE" well that was a year ago and i am still in a dangerous house maybe pergnent my father has a violent temper to say the least. he has thrown me against walls. knocked me out, i have knocked him out, one min he will say i hate u the next i love u, he has taken away my cash so i cant move out then he gave it back to me after 2 years of being forced to live on 20 bucks a month i am watch when ever i go anywhere , my father will stop me, he will fallow me if i leave his house, wants to know where i am at all times, i have a crefew, i am not allowed to be on the phone to anyone for more that 20 min, i have a twin sister who loves to pick on me and degrade me she never has a crefew, ever, she doesnt date will never have a guy cuz she is a very mean person. there r times i wanna crawl up in to a ball n die but i never do when ever that happens i get on my other cell n call the guy who has kept me alive for the past year and a half. i ahve to sneck out i have to get friends to cover for me so i can see him i lve him to death i dont know what i would do with out him hell my parents dont even wanna meet him they act like i am a shame to my family i do have 2 cells one my parents know about the other one they know is here but they dont know anything else about it i am the one who bought it i am the one who usees it they throw fits they shake me down 2 a week they strip search me they think i have a problem cuz i am not like them. they give me drug tests once a month and they think there is nothing wrong with this picture how can i get them to stop i dont wanna leave but it is getting to the point i cant live here any more if u have any addvice it would be lovely any qs i can answer ask anything at all g4it im here most days i work to so ill answer when i can oh pm me with anything else oh wait my rents r opposed to bi, gay, same-sex marrige and anything else u can think of love u all bye now
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Posted: Sat Apr 05, 2008 10:56 am
If i was in your position i would have ran away with that guy a long time ago. you are living under an abusive household. you should not have to deal with that. and you can't afford to get beat by your father considering how you might be pregnant. I know it's hard to let go, because no matter what they do they are your family and you love them deep down no matter how bad they hurt you. but it's the best thing you can do. if your parents know where he lives you should live with him. you should both look for a place far away, borrow some money and run far away. smash your cell phone so they cannot trace you. take your stuff either when they arent home or little by little so they don't notice. and if they ask about him say you broke up or that you don't want to see him anymore so they become less attentive. I know what i'm saying might sound crazy but it's the best thing you can do for yourself at this point i think. other than telling the cops who don't do anything at all about anything...
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Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 8:10 pm
Floral Pink If i was in your position i would have ran away with that guy a long time ago. you are living under an abusive household. you should not have to deal with that. and you can't afford to get beat by your father considering how you might be pregnant. I know it's hard to let go, because no matter what they do they are your family and you love them deep down no matter how bad they hurt you. but it's the best thing you can do. if your parents know where he lives you should live with him. you should both look for a place far away, borrow some money and run far away. smash your cell phone so they cannot trace you. take your stuff either when they arent home or little by little so they don't notice. and if they ask about him say you broke up or that you don't want to see him anymore so they become less attentive. I know what i'm saying might sound crazy but it's the best thing you can do for yourself at this point i think. other than telling the cops who don't do anything at all about anything... This basically states everything I was thinking of saying. You have every right to leave that house, especially because you're an adult now. You can't endure this. I don't know how the situation is with the pregnancy, but other way that's a dangerous household for you to be in. If anything you can move in with friends if you can't live with your fiance as of now. My situation isn't nearly as bad as yours, but it's VERY difficult and we've managed over 3 1/2 years. Strength, determination, trust, loyalty, and undying love has kept us going and will keep you going as well. Good luck and let us know if anything changes or you need more advice/help/opinions. Good luck!
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Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 10:52 pm
I think you should leave or report to the police that your father beats you since you are an adult. If you leave then make sure you have enough money and you should tell your boyfriend your decision then that way you two could live together. If you go to the police then make sure that you have evidence to prove he beats you so that the police don't think it's a phony report.
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Posted: Wed Nov 05, 2008 3:17 pm
Wow... what an extreme situation you're in. I'm so sorry you're having to endure this.
If I were you I would report your parents to the police. Just even go to a local station and tell them you're having problems with abuse in your home, and you'd really like to talk to someone there about the situation. Your parents seem to be, obviously, quite racist and hateful, and I would guess they are harder on you because they know this guy exists in your life.
Do you have anyone else you can live with, at least for awhile? Perhaps a friend? You could additionally try to talk to someone at your school such as a counselor or advisor, your school might be willing to assist you or give you resources.
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Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2008 4:38 pm
I have a few things to say about this:
a. Good job to you and your boyfriend for continuing to stick with each other through all the odds.
b. If you father is abusing you, I suggest that you get to a shelter as soon as you can and report him to the police. Just tell them you're going to a friends house, and get to a shelter. They can help you and the police can help protect you.
c. Then have your boyfriend and yourself leave, and do NOT let your family know where you are going. Destroy your cell phone so that they can't trace you.
You need to get away for the sake of your maybe pregnancy. If you are pregnant, do you really want your baby born into a family where its father is hated so much and where its mother is so abused?
I wish you all the luck with this situation, and pray you get out of it as soon as possible.
~Alexis~
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