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 Posted: Fri Jan 11, 2008 10:12 am
You made a great connection with someone, you've grown so close to them. You consider them a best friend, and they consider you a best friend. They know you better then you know yourself and..
Now they don't even want to talk to you.
Perhaps I'm overreacting. I have a buddy who I made a deep connection with this last summer up until late December. I got on at a certain time to catch him online, he's the only kiddo I let read my personal blog, he's given me damn good advice, and really helped me out with everything, and in return, I've given my all to be there for him too.
Now days, we don't really talk much, he's busy with things I'm not interested in, and I'm busy with studying, social life, and boy stuff.
It just sucks, because I know where this is going, and it won't be me who breaks the friendship...
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Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 2:11 am
I've lost so many close friendships because of distance.... and difference in interests... and getting caught up in life. My best friend from 4th grade... all the way up to high school... and then we just kinda split to different groups... stayed "friend's" but were never really close the same way again.
My Two greatest friends from after high school... had drama together, spent every lunch we could and classes together that we had... We were so close that people outside of our little group thought the three of us had some kind of orgy thing going on after school *shrug* talked about everything.... after graduation, I got a random myspace message every few months... which suddenly stopped. Then I got an invite to one of their weddings.... never got a reply on 'where' it was going to take place. I had even scheduled that day off...
I guess, the pattern being.... in most relationships(friendships being a type of relationship) unless you hang out on a regular basis for no reason at all, the closeness can be maintain... but with distance, there has to be things to talk about... or else the few hours of nothing turns into days... turns into weeks... It really can't be helped. With different things going on in life on both ends, it's very straining when neither end is interested.
I'm very sorry though. On the other hand, you don't have to break the friendship... it'll just kinda fade on it's own. I've even had friendships that I thought were dead seem like they were going to try to come back to life only to flop out as if it were a fish on land and die again.... because of the distance. The only friendships I have that remain on a keep-in-touch basis are the ones involving me hanging out with them. The friendship is still there... it's just... less reliable on the fly.
That also reminds me. Those few months that I moved out of Trevor's... where I got to get as close to girlie as I did and start everything ^_^ Well... Trevor's closer to me than a brother, and I love him as if he were. At this point, he is my absolute best friend, and was even before then, but when I moved out for that period of time... I never really heard much from him... or even talked about things... it faded... just like that. Now, we're back in the same house, joking, hanging out and sharing our experiences and helping each other out.
Yay wall of text, I'm sorry -.-;; all of that was only semi-relevant, but it's something to think about right?
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Posted: Tue Jan 15, 2008 8:52 am
Mm. heart Thank you doomed, that helped alot. <3
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Posted: Tue Jan 15, 2008 11:53 pm
E> Yay! I'm glad. See, I sometimes have helpful things to say, xd
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Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 4:32 pm
You call that a wall of text? Psh! I've seen better.
Toasty, I've seen many of my friendships fade away because I just don't have anything interesting I can talk with them about. It happens. It sucks, but it happens. It's rare that I have to end a friendship, but there's some that have faded that I'd like to get back.
Probably because I knew them from when I first joined the World Wide Web. So, yeah.
Oh, on the subject of marriage, my friend Gary who used to live in Arkansas, who now lives in Plano, is getting married on the 25th. I wanna attend, but I don't know if I can, with classes and everything. What I find funny about when he told me this was the fact that he was more interested in me attending the masquerade party on the 29th from like 7-9 or even 10pm. Which would be fun, if I could get there. =D
doomed, I think my "wall of text" helped less than yours did.
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