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 Posted: Sat Dec 29, 2007 4:38 am
Meh..I know I whine about this alot.
But about 6 mounths ago my girlfriend passed away
Girlfriend as in lover >< not the type I gossip with and blah...
anyways, Well I still dwell over her death till this day. I am going nuts and my friends are saying I should just get over it and move on.
I tried everything from recreating my look to changing my attitude and trying new things but I just lost intrest in everything...including my pasion for music...
I was just wondering..how long should it take to get over a death?
are my friends right?
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Posted: Sat Dec 29, 2007 11:40 am
The typical period of mourning is a year, but it's different for each person. It depends on how close you were with her. I would say that for a serious relationship, 6 months isn't enough time.
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Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:40 pm
crying I hope it doesn't bother you with me saying, "I'm so sorry!" but I can't help it. Obviously you aren't the only one affected, I'm sure, but what a horrible thing to deal with. Maybe I'm being too harsh on your friends but I find it very disrespectful of them to be so insensitive to the issue. Maybe they just feel really uncomfortable about it and don't know what to say, but it still bothers me that anyone would basically say, "get over it," or, "move on." I haven't been close with anyone I've known who have died but it has still really affected me. It took me a few months to recover from a death at school (not actually during school, just someone from the school) and I had never even seen her. Maybe I'm just more sensitive.... Even though I'm not too experienced with someone close having died, I can be almost certain that 6 months wouldn't be enough even for the most emotionally strong people to come to terms.
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Posted: Thu Jan 10, 2008 1:11 am
Death, especially that of a close friend and loved one, is not something that you're going to get over quickly. Hell, you might never get completely over it. You'll learn how to deal with it, but it's something you'll think about every day. I can't say much from experiance, but I have a close friend whose girlfriend died about 4 years ago. I went to school with her, but never really knew her. He still talks about her to this day. But, as he said, she was a large part of his life and always will be. Nothing can change that. Don't say that you whine about it. Talking is ok. Yeah, to some people it may get old, but to the ones that truly care, they will be there to listen. If you need to talk or anything, just ask. smile
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Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 8:06 pm
My sister lost her best friend in a car accident about 11 years ago and she still isn't completely over it. Take your time recovering. Your friends should be able to understand what you're going through and not push you to forget her.
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Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 9:42 am
UnlovedWarior Meh..I know I whine about this alot. But about 6 mounths ago my girlfriend passed away Girlfriend as in lover >< not the type I gossip with and blah... anyways, Well I still dwell over her death till this day. I am going nuts and my friends are saying I should just get over it and move on. I tried everything from recreating my look to changing my attitude and trying new things but I just lost intrest in everything...including my pasion for music... I was just wondering..how long should it take to get over a death? are my friends right? my advice is dont get over it - embrace it - take that person with u everyday - go on living and enjoying ur life yes - but always keep that person close to u - that person prolly had a huge impact on ur life - so y replace that think about it
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Posted: Wed Jul 30, 2008 8:35 am
the amount of time it takes to get over a death all depends on the person. everyone will at least partly get over it sooner or later, but its never necessary to completely let go. holding her memory inside of you is a good thing, and eventually the grief will get less severe and you will be able to think about her without getting too upset. it is never wrong to love someone and grieve for them, but you do have to move on and keep living despite your loss.
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Posted: Tue Nov 10, 2009 8:36 pm
I lost someone I truly loved 2 years ago. Still hurts just as bad now as it did then. But you can't just dwell on it for too long, otherwises you might end up doing something you'll regret (In my case, I almost downed a bottle of sleeping pills. Took a lot of willpower to put the bottle down) Try and keep yourself constantly busy, and your mind off of said death. Otherwise, if your truly feeling bad, let someone you trust know how your feeling. Sometimes all it takes is for someone to listen.
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