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 Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 9:56 pm
Well, at school, a lot of people know that I like this boy named Ian and well Ian knows that I like him too. He just broke up with his girlfriend (After he found out that I like him... I hope he didn't break up with his girlfriend because of me or something... I heard he broke up with her because she wouldn't let him hug her) And well, his ex-girlfriend went up to me at lunch and she was like "You should ask Ian out" (She also knows I like him) and I was like no because I am too shy to ask people out. But she kept telling me to ask him out and stuff and so I went over to my friend and asked her what she thought. She wasn't much help though. So I asked this boy who is my friend (Yeah, he knows too) what I should do and he thinks I should ask Ian out too. So during art class, I decided that I was going to ask him out. I told a couple of my friends and they think I should too. What's kinda sad is that I've liked him since 3rd grade... And Ian has had a suspision that I liked him for that long. Kinda embarrsing. I never admitted it when he asked me if I liked him. I like everything about him, his smile, his voice, his persinality, ewverything. I don't really care if he's shorter than me. I just really want to ask him out. I want him to be my first kiss. Other than my parents that is. xp
I'm just wondering is, how?? How am I going to ask him out?? Should I go up to him at lunch when he's alone and ask him if he'll go out with me?? Should I get his friend to like come over to me or something?? I need some help. What will I do after I ask him out?? What will I do if he says yes?? What will I do if he says no?? Will I just hang out with him at school?? Do I sit at his lunch table?? Or will he sit at mine?? Should I e-mail him and call him or what?? I have never been on a date before so I'm kinda scared. No, I'm REALLY scared.
Tomorrow is my last day of school until winter break. I want to know the answer before then. My friends that are girls are really no help to me, they aren't at the same level into liking boys as I am. One of my friends is almost there but she is where she likes this one guy and she says she loves him and she won't get over the fact that he will probably break up with his girlfriend probably before the time she can go out. But all my other friends are not really liking boys like I am. They are still at the spot where they are just friends with boys. I am friends with a lot of boys but I also like some boys, as you can tell.
Tomorrow is my big day, the day I will ask Ian out. I hope he says yes!!
This is like going to be my journal for me to talk about what I'm thinking. I'll update it probably at least once a day. Comment, give me help, anything is appreciated.
There's an update after a few posts.
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 10:49 pm
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 11:05 pm
If you like the guy that much,
go for it!
Guys know what other guys would
think in many cases, and they
know most of the time about
other guys than girls do.
So listen to your friend and go for it.
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 3:51 am
Yeah, I think you should just ask him straight out.
Good luck! (:
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 7:19 am
I'm not good at giving advice, but I'd like to tell you I kinda know how you feel.
You wrote you want Ian to be your first kiss, and that is exactly how I feel about my crush. :3
I hope everything works out and that you'll have the courage to ask Ian out.
You go girl!
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 7:31 am
Whoa, deep breaths, first of all. Asking a guy out may seem scary, but you're in a very good position. You have a ton of people supporting you in your decision to ask him out, and the guy you like already suspects that you like him. Not to mention, he's acted favorably towards you liking him, so there's half the pressure gone right there! I wouldn't be too scared about him saying no if I were you.
But, I know it's scary anyway. You should seriously think about how you will feel most comfortable. Would you prefer it to be just you and him? Then approach him and ask him if the two of you could take privately for a minute. If you'd prefer to have a friend around for back-up, then drag someone along when you go up to ask.
What will you do if he says yes? Celebrate! lol After you ask him out, things will come naturally, I think. Ask him for his phone number or e-mail so that you guys can work out the details of your date. If you want to sit at his table, do it. If you don't, then don't. If you want to hang out with him at school, you can, but you don't need to spend every second together, either.
What will you do if he says no? I doubt he will, but you'll be sad and unhappy for a little while. Then you'll pick it up, put it back together, and keep going. If Ian can't appreciate you, he doesn't deserve you, enough said. It will be hard, but life does go on. No one ever died from a broken heart. wink
When you get up to him, just spit it out. You'll be super nervous, maybe even feeling like you need to be sick. Just take a deep breath and say it. "Ian, will you go out with me?" See, seven tiny, simple, easy words that will just roll off of your tongue. As soon as you say them, the hardest part is over.
Good luck!
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 7:49 am
Ask him straight out, hun. :] It's not that hard once you say those seven words.
Good luck. Don't be too nervous. If he says no, it's not the end of the world.
:B
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 10:55 am
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:08 am
You should definitely ask him out 3nodding Because even if he says no, you know that you have support from people to cheer you up when you're disheartened heart
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 1:33 pm
If you're going to ask him out, ask him out in person. I find notes/e-mails to be a little impersonal, even though they probably would work as well. Its better to see them face to face. That is my advice, short and simple and to the point 3nodding Good luck!!!
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 3:41 pm
 You had at me at Hello. Ask him out. It can't hurt really. You're still young, if he says no, it's not the end of the world.
You kids are silly.
I'm guessing you're really young.
I hate how society seems to try and push people to believe, even at a young age, they need a partner. It bothers me. :/ Would it be okay, would it be okay if I took your breath away?
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Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 2:56 pm
Thanks for all the help everyone!! I wish I could've read this before I went to school, it would've given me a lot more confidence. Well, I asked him, here is pretty much what happened yesterday:
I went to school earlier than usually yesterday to switch lockers back with my friend. But my sister wanted some help bringing her science project home. So when she was done, I went to class like usual. Then, at 8:00am, I went to the Bronze awards (A celebration for students who have a grade point average of 3.5 or higher. I have a 3.667 G.P.A. YAY!!) and so then when we went back to class, I was showing my friend Brennan a bead snake that I made the last night for Ian. He was saying I was desperate but in a joking voice. I laughed and told him I wasn't, that I had made a bunch of my friends snakes. So, then when we switched classes, I became very worried because lunch was in 30 minutes. I talked to my friend Sarah because she knows I like Ian and she was telling to tell her what happens after I ask him out. So then lunch came. I sat at my normal table and ate my lunch. Then, I went to my other friends' table and talked to them. The thing is, their table is really close to Ians table. So while I was eating some of a cookie my friend gave me, Emma (His ex-girlfriend) called to me from Ian's table and was pointing to him, meaning for me to ask him out. Then Ryan (Ian's best friend) came over to my table and told me to give Ian the Christmas present I made for him. I said that I was going to give it to him outside. So then, when I went to go outside, we had to go to the gym. Then, in the halls, Ian was there so I gave him the bead snake with him name on it. He said thank you and I walked back to the lunch room waiting for my friend to come with me in the gym. So when we went to the gym, I walked around and talked to some of my close friends about what to do to ask out Ian, they gave me pretty much no help. So I talked to my best friend and she like pushed me over to Ian and said "You're Ian right?" Because she didn't know who Ian was. Then it was time for me to ask him out. I said "ummm, Ian, will you go out with me?" Then he said "No, I'm sorry. But thanks for the present, I love it" And I said "Ok" and then I went to talk to my friends. I was fine then but when I got to class, I felt like crying. I didn't though. I told Brennan and Ryan that I asked him out and Brennan wanted to know if I was ok. I said I was. I spent the night at my friends house and we talked about our feelings for a while.
I think I'm going to be fine, I still like Ian and I will for a while, but now is not a good time to ask him out. When I'm more ready to be in a relationship then I will probably ask him out again. But for now, I think I like another guy. I think I like Brennan. He is really sweet, nice, cute, and he made sure that I was ok after Ian said no. But, I've told him again and agian that I didn't like him, I even told him that if I ever did start liking him, that I would write a note saying "I like you Brennan. From K.R.V." and put it in his locker. I like to be just friends with him. But I also really like him. He's really close to my height but I don't care about that. I'm going to have a long talk with my friends at my winter sleepover party coming up soon.
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Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 3:15 pm
Aww, I'm sorry! gonk *huggles*
He's totally missing out.
I hope you don't feel too bad.
But, this Brennan guy seems nice, so you know, you haven't lost yet. wink
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Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 3:38 pm
Thanks. I'll feel better soon. I'm glad I'm on winter break, I'll be able to feel better without having to go to school to Ian for a while. I like Brennan a lot, but he likes over 55 girls. He even told me, and he is going to ask out this girl named Alysia who is a popular at my school. She will probably say no anyways.
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Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 5:19 am
Well you say that, but keep in mind sometimes friends can be closer than one realizes. But you also need to realize that relationships and such can make or break a friendship. So you have to keep that in mind. But if he is considerate, and cares about you, I would say go for it.
But not like you did with Ian.
If this guy's kind've deepish or at least the warm and friendly type since you definately aren't strangers, I'd say go for the heart to heart.
It makes it evident that you really like him, it's not just the hormones talking...cause mature guys sometimes think that way. I know this one guy ddid...and he was right. The next week I came back and liked someone totally diffferent. But it sounds like you guys know each other.
Just think before you do anything though, do you really like him, and will you continue to like him without going from guy to guy. That happens to every girl. It can be toootally confusing. I know from experience. Just make sure of what you think and make sure you will be committed to him and that you believe you two have a romantic future together.
I'm sorry...this must be making you nervous...
But it just might help because I probably could've done better with my relationship problems if I had the same two years ago. ><
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