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 Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 2:59 pm
A branched thread form Water's open adoption thread.
This thread is to ask what do you see as important in the up brining of a child. Aside fomr the obviousness of wanting them to share your beliefs, what else would you do.
I've already given my explanation. I would like to see my child grow up with a knowledge in music, language, and martial arts. But as an add on I would love to see my child as an artist as well.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 3:08 pm
I'd want a really good background in the arts and science - which would include things like explaining the biology and the ecosystem we live in (like what all the plants and animals are - and what they eat and where they live) and visiting lots and lots of museums. And a good religious education - like from UU religious ed classes.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 4:44 pm
Well, I'd really like my child go grow up with a second (or more) language. I want this so badly I've considered moving to a place where a language other than English is spoken.
I also really want my child to travel internationally at least a little bit. I think it is really important that people experience places other than their home country. Different cultures, different landscapes, different beliefs, different languages . . . there are so many things you encounter when you travel abroad.
Also, it is really important to me that my child have access to a good and varied education.
Apart from that, I'm not sure. I'll add more if I think of more.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 5:07 pm
I guess I would want for them to have a good knowledge of history. Have a good education. Learn more than one language.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 5:44 pm
I'd want for my child to learn everything they possibly could about everything. The world is an exciting place, and I'd want for them to see as much of it as possible, and not from the TV or internet. Learning is fun! (I remember being a kid, and having so much fun just going for a walk in the park, and doing the whole 'what's this? what's that?' with my mum)
It's also a goal of mine for my child to get 'outside' time at least once a day, if at all possible. I STILL think that some of the best toys I had when I was a kid was either a stick with which to poke things outside, or a really big box, with which to play with on rainy days.
Second language = very important.
One of my goals as a parent is to teach my child/ren good morals, and how to stick to their guns while still being respectful of other people's choices. I'd like for them to have friends that aren't back-stabby, etc, and for my child/ren to be able to differentiate on their own what sort of people they like to be around.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 7:24 pm
ShadowIce Well, I'd really like my child go grow up with a second (or more) language. KP approves this post and its user as double win! I agree. I want my children to be polyglots. I really want to expose them to as much as possible. I'm hoping that I can be the best parent possible just be showing them what else is out there in this world. I certainly know if I knew of half of what existed... my mind would have been eased a lot more when I was younger. I know that sounds like it would distress a child more but no... I think knowing there are problems, other then yours, means thinking about problems... other then yours. To me that's more reassuring then just wallowing in a misery no one else shares.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 9:48 pm
I want my child to be a respectful and tolerant human being. I want them to have compassion, a sense of humour, and a love of things artistic.
I hate to think that when I have a child it will go through a lot of difficulties, but I'd hope that when they do come (as life inevitably does throw some hard stuff at you), they would know how to deal with it as well as they possibly could, and know that they can trust me with anything, and that I'd never judge them. Ever, for anything they would do.
I want them to know the definition of unconditional love, too. Because I want that bond with my child to be strong.
And I want them to be passionate about everything they love. And who they love. Passion is important. heart
This thread makes me want to have a baby. Right now.
Probably not a good idea, but also probably pretty improbable.
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Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2007 2:16 am
I would want them to learn music from a young age. Piano and possibly a stringed instrument as it seems to be easier to pick up most other instruments later on once that basic knowledge is there.
Swimming is important, I know most children learn to swim, which is awesome, but I would like them to be a strong swimmer. Both my partner and myself have swum competitively before and are strong swimmers. Blake can also scuba dive, which I am keen to learn. Being able to be safe on the ocean would be very important not least because I intend to spend a good deal of time with my children their. My father was an Officer in the Royal Navy. Blake (my partner) is a rower and has yachting certification an his father used to row for England before he died so I like to think it would be in their blood.
I would like them to love animals of all kinds. Ideally I wouldn't want them to be afraid of any animal, just to respect those which could be dangerous to keep themselves safe. Understanding is safer than fear I think.
I wouldn't teach them any specific religion, but as a trainee teacher (and hopefully one day a fully fledged RE teacher) I would give them a solid grounding in all faiths and teach them that even without religion, purpose of life comes from what you make of it if nowhere else.
Art is important, it teaches you to really look at the world. The best way to draw or so I've found is to look carefully and draw what you really see, not what you assume you see 3nodding it gives a good eye for detail rather than glancing over whats to be found. heart
Most importantly I would want them to be better than me in every-way possible. One of the best things my parents did for me in school was to listen to what I had learned and my theories on it rather than say "we know better because we are older" they would teach me, but not assume that knowledge and age were the same thing. Sometimes I saw parents at school who found it difficult that their child had learned somthing they didn't know and assumed their child must be wrong. It is good though for the next generations learning to exceed our own, and when it happens it is somthing to be celebrated, you have not let them down because you couldn't teach them somthing you didn't know. the best learning comes from discovery heart
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Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2007 9:34 am
Oh, I completely forgot about animals!
Mind you, it isn't really something that I'll be able to accomplish better then my in-laws, because my mother-in-law is crazy about chipmunks, squirrels and all other little fuzzy creatures. Oddly, she's not a vegetarian, but she should be, the way she goes on about things.
Anyways, she puts out birdseed and stuff for little animals in her yard everyday, so her yard is this little sanctuary (it's got a high fence that cats can't come it, and if they try my mother-in-law will chase them around 'til they leave), and it's something that I'm really excited my baby will be able to experience.
That, and being out in a boat, going on snowmobiles, 4 wheelers, and riding horses. Basically outdoors type things. Because Canada's pretty ^_^
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Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2007 1:35 pm
I want my children to know at least on second language since that is always a good thing and could be helpful in the future.
Also another language would expose them to other cultures and it's always good to learn about different countries and cultures.
Art and music is always good as well, it helps with creativity and imagination. What instrument they want to play is their choice (I started of with piano/keyboard then I learned to play the flute,alto saxophone, then tried to play the electric guitar but hadn't practice much).
When their older, I think having take a CPR class is a good idea, they may be able to save someones life by learning CPR.
Swiming is good to learn as well.
Martials Arts and self-defense is always a good thing to learn. It teaches them discipline,help keeps them in shape and it can help protect themselfs or others if someone tries to attack them.
Basic sewing skills is good, even if it's just to repair a pair of pants or sew on a button.
And science, I plan on saving my medical books,dictionaries,ect as well in case they are interested in it. Music,medicine, martial arts, and language are things that seem to be common in my family.
Though I myself never studied martial arts due to not enough money or not having time.
Basically I want my children to learn things that are fun,educational, and could help them out in the future (like when it's for them to think what job or career that they want later on in life,ect...).
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 8:24 pm
Generally speaking...
I'd want my child to question everything, to learn to read as early as possible and read, read, and keep reading. To learn compassion for all living things. To spend their childhood exploring. And to learn self-reliance early (which I didn't, and I hate that) and to have confidence in themselves and be unafraid to speak their minds. I'd also raise my children to be polite. 3nodding
For example, I'd want a child who could at, say, seven, walk down to the corner store by themselves and buy something reasonably priced, and if the cashier gave them the wrong amount of change, could not only count to see if it's wrong but also say, "Excuse me, sir, but I believe you accidentally gave me incorrect change," and if the cashier argued, be able to say, "No, if you count it you'll see I'm right."
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