Apathetic Sin
chaos_theory_panda
-_- You just posted this thread, you have to wait a while for people to actually get online and respond.
And this is one of those 'it depends on what's going on to figure out how to deal with it' things
1. What makes you think she's cheating on you
2. Has anything even remotely like this happened before (not just with you, in any of her relationships)
3. What sort of person is she in general (even if she's never cheated, does it seem like something she'd even consider?)
4. What sort of person is the person you suspect her of cheating with?
Even if you don't answer these there, it helps to think them over to yourself. If there's a chance that she would cheat, I know it hurts to hear it, but you need to break up with her even if she isn't. That doesn't mean she won't.
Just my opinion though.
Sorry, short attention span >.<...
1. She's a little too friendly with a girl she knows...and it really bothers me. I can't decide whether they're just friends or more...
2. Not necessarily...but she's very open about sexuality etc., I'm not sure if she's the type to commit & I've known her for a few years but we've only been together for awhile.
3. She's crazy and amazing! I might just be overparanoid...I've been cheated on twice before. >.< (I swear I'm not fugly!)
4. Umm....not necessarily someone that I'd choose to be with...but they've been friends for longer than she & I have. & there was one occasion where this girl got sorta competative with me and it ended up that both of us were fighting over my girlfriend's boobs...talk about an akward situation...she just thought it was funny. I was kinda pissed tho, she's supposed to be mine :/
Oooohhhh, babydoll. She's not your property. Never say that someone belongs to you, especially in a jealous tone.
Anywaaaay... I don't mean to offend you, but you do sort of seem to be the jealous type. Maybe you're just reading too much into their friendship, sweetheart.
But look, the bottom line is this: You can't have a successful relationship without any trust. If you suspect her of doing something like that, then the trust isn't really there, and you may as well break up with her. That, or rethink the entire situation.
Friends play-flirt a lot, so don't look at innocent-joking-flirting as a threat. These two have been friends for a long time, so it's likely that they "flirt" a lot. Close friends do that.
Speaking of how long they've known each other... You say that they've known one another since before you were in the picture. In that case, if it comes down to it, she's probably gonna choose the friend over you. So y'know, don't go accusing her until you know for sure.
I also don't think they'd do stuff like that unless they were doing it before too. Friends, especially old friends, are hesitant to do anything *ahem* romantic, because it could complicate and endanger the friendship. And, if they are indeed sleeping with each other or something, I doubt they'd do it behind your back, because your girlfriend probably has more respect for her friend than to let her be the "other woman."
Be careful, don't jump to conclusions, hope it works out. <3
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