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 Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 4:06 pm
Well alot has happend this week.. I found out I was pregnant on the 21st of november,which is my first pregnancy. I ended up in the ER on the 24th of November with bleeding and was told i was having a "threatened miscarrage" and that I had to do a follow up test on the 28th,so until the 28th i stayed in bed. So i went in at 8.10am and did the follow up test and got the results at 10am telling me that i miscarried... i want to try again so bad, but apart of me is tarrified of miscarrying again.. to be honest, miscarrying for me is worse then when i was raped, because its something that my husband and I created adn now we dont have that little bondle of joy to hold...
I am so mad at my aunt because she said that she always wanted kids and she has them and now she wants nothing to do with them, she is always trying to pawn her kids off on someone and most of the time they are with our grandma and she is at a friends house takeing care of her friends baby instead of her own...
I know that my miscarrying isnt my fault but i cant help to think "there are people in my family that dont even want there kids and yet, they have healthy kids and I want a kid and I know that i will take care of our kids and give them everything they need, why me"
I thought i would just share becase this is a hard time for me, thanks for listening...
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Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 4:35 pm
I feel for you.
I want to have a child of my own, baybe even a bunch(#5 of 7children). But right now my husband and I should save up some money first. We both want children so badly.
I take every chance I get to be with my only niece. She's 2 now and her mother feeds her Elmo habit.....
In short, I ..... I have no words. but I hope we both find joy in our lives.
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 2:03 am
I am sorry. I feel bad for you. My husband and I are both trying to conceive too.
There is a group on myspace though for people TTC. Everyone in there is very supportive and helpful if you have any questions at all. I know there a few people on it too that have had miscarriages. But yeah they are very supportive on there.
If you have a myspace and/or are interested I can go find the link for you.
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 3:51 am
I'm so sorry to hear that!
Sometimes these things happen, there's not much you can do about it but grieve and move on. My thoughts are with you, and I really hope things get better for you soon. heart
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 4:06 am
I'm very sorry for your situation, but that thought process and resentment is truly unhealthy and unfair. I agree that child neglect/abuse is wrong, but you can't judge someone else's life and fertility by yours. Just because someone can have kids but doesn't want any has nothing to do with your situation.
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 8:35 am
I'm so horribly sorry about the miscarriage. I had one about a year ago, so I know what you're going through. I'm sure you already know, at least academically, that the hurt will lessen with time. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 1:29 pm
I know that my thinking process is wrong, and its subsiding now,I will get over it i know i will
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 5:10 pm
Maybe you and your DH should go on a weekend vacation to try to feel better about it. Just take some time away to be together and enjoy being together with no worries or pressures for a couple of days. Then, when you're feeling better you can try again. In all honesty, a lot of first pregnancies are miscarried, especially at a younger age so your next one may not be effected at all.
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 7:31 pm
I'm really sorry that happened. It must be awful. I can sort of sympathize in a way. I've never miscarried, thank God. But I am unable to have intercourse (if anyone is curious, ask away. I don't mind sharing and I am getting help for it). So right now the chances of me becoming pregnant are slim. That alone hurts, because I've always wanted to have children. So I can't imagine what its like to have one and then lose them. I'm really sorry it happened.
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 7:50 pm
I am sorry for that. My first wife and I tried to conceive for 8 years before were successful. He was and is a joy...
We went through miscarriages too. It hurts for the husband too. I am sure you know that. You are not to blame.
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 10:27 am
dyami, I'm so sorry to hear that and know that right now, you are devastated. I too had a miscarriage, and still today it hurts to think about. I don't want to say that to make you feel worse, though, because I really believe that it is natural to feel sad when going through and thinking about a situation like this. What I can say, however, is that hope is not lost. Give yourself a chance to grieve, and when you are ready, you can try to get pregnant again. I had two pregnancies since my miscarriage, both successful. My children have always been healthy and have had no problems at all so far. The pregnancies went reasonably well, I just had to rest up and not to housework. The same may be recommended to you, but rest assured, chances are your next pregnancy will work out, you will have your little bundle of joy, don't give up hope heart
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Posted: Tue Dec 11, 2007 9:05 am
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have many good comforting words I'm afraid but I'll send you lots of cyber hugs and I offer you a shoulder to lean on. I'm here for you. smile
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