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 Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 8:06 pm
Well recently two guys in my town died in a car accident they were 16 and 17. But I didn't know them. My friend Sharla did and she said she hadn't talked to him in awhile and she wish she had. So that reminded me of my one friend Letti....
If you're wondering who Letti is, she was one of my best friends and she died in a car accident August of 2005. But the thing is, My sophomore year of high school her and I were both busy and we only said one thing to each other that entire year, "Hello". And that was it.
So about two weeks before she died I was on the phone with my friend, she is also a very good friend with Letti and rarely talked to her that year, I said to my friend, "I'm going to make it a plan to try to talk to Letti more." Then two weeks later she died in a car accident.
I felt horrible and when I thought about it tonight again, I still feel bad. I was just crying not too long ago and eh I kind of stopped.
I know you'll probably tell me to just get over it and move on with my life, but the image of her laying in that coffin lifeless will always be imprinted in my mind. And when people tell me that I need to get over things like that, it just frustrates me.
I miss her so much.
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 8:09 pm
Nothing's wrong with you.
You just feel remorse.
I'd say just go to her grave and talk to it for a while, pretend she's there. Cry if you want to.
That's what I'd do... It's not like talking to them, but they're there in spirit.
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 8:10 pm
»»»Pixie«««
Well, what the hell can someone TELL you other than get over it? It ******** sucks, we get that. I'm not saying I understand, but it SUCKS. And there's NOTHING you can do about it, except get over it.
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 8:12 pm
K I N G S H O Y Nothing's wrong with you. You just feel remorse. I'd say just go to her grave and talk to it for a while, pretend she's there. Cry if you want to. That's what I'd do... It's not like talking to them, but they're there in spirit. This one person thinks there's something wrong with me. I wish I could do that, but she was cremated and then buried in Mexico next to her sister. The only other place to go would be where the accident happened, but I don't want to go back there again.
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 8:14 pm
Pixie Saylor »»»Pixie«««
Well, what the hell can someone TELL you other than get over it? It ******** sucks, we get that. I'm not saying I understand, but it SUCKS. And there's NOTHING you can do about it, except get over it. Like I told the other person that said this to me, I got reminded of it tonight. I don't dwell on this thought 24/7. And honestly if you don't understand something like this you wouldn't know how it feels.
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 8:22 pm
o__o; I'm really sorry about what happened. <33333333333333 -huggles.-
I agree with Shoyee, but if you don't have access to her grave and you don't want to go to the scene of the accident, maybe you should set apart some quiet time, lock yourself in your room and talk to her there.
No one has to hear it but you.
It anything, it will give you some semblance of closure, and maybe her, too.
Say everything you want to say and like Shoyee said, let yourself cry if you need to.
heart
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 8:31 pm
Wrendraith
o__o; I'm really sorry about what happened. <33333333333333 -huggles.-
I agree with Shoyee, but if you don't have access to her grave and you don't want to go to the scene of the accident, maybe you should set apart some quiet time, lock yourself in your room and talk to her there.
No one has to hear it but you.
It anything, it will give you some semblance of closure, and maybe her, too.
Say everything you want to say and like Shoyee said, let yourself cry if you need to.
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*huggles back* That sounds like a good idea. I'll just have to make sure I am home alone one day.
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Posted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 3:57 am
Meiko_Michan K I N G S H O Y Nothing's wrong with you. You just feel remorse. I'd say just go to her grave and talk to it for a while, pretend she's there. Cry if you want to. That's what I'd do... It's not like talking to them, but they're there in spirit. This one person thinks there's something wrong with me. I wish I could do that, but she was cremated and then buried in Mexico next to her sister. The only other place to go would be where the accident happened, but I don't want to go back there again. Ooh. Well that's complicated. .3. I'm short handed in the advice department. ;3; Best of luck solving this situation. Don't believe what the ONE person says.
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Posted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 4:38 am
Don't feel like you need to 'get over it.'
Personally, if one of my very best friends ever died, I would never get over it. o_o That doesn't mean I'd dwell on it constantly, but who could stop missing someone they cared so much for? It's human nature to ache when we take losses like that, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
People take things differently too. Whereas I would need time to cry and come to terms with the idea, some other people I know might deny it or laugh it off as if it's sad but can't be helped.
Personally, I'm one that can suffer often from regret. o_O Some don't as much. Just because that one person thinks something's wrong with you doesn't mean they're right-- maybe it would be right, if this was about them, but everyone's different.
Walk in your own shoes, trust me, they're much more comfortable. heart
As for advice (as if that wasn't...lul), I would suggest the same as Shoy and Wrennie. o_o Just take some time, maybe write things down in a notebook or mentally tell your friend what you would say if she was still around. Going over painful things like that has helped me lessen the pain, in the past. <3333
I hope you feel better soon. D: -huggleheart.- <333333
/ramble
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Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 12:56 pm
I felt a lot better the next day. biggrin
I guess I needed to get it out that I was feeling that way.
@Kingshoy- Thanks for your help, it made me feel better. biggrin
@Wrendraith- Thanks for your help too, it helped a lot. biggrin
@Sylfaen- You're right, I'm going to walk in my own shoes. And I'm the type that will suffer from regret often too. Hopefully you'll never have to lose a best friend in that manner. And thanks for your help! biggrin *huggles back* <3
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