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 Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2005 11:30 pm
My friend is sixteen. She has had several pregnancies scares and continues to have unprotected sex with her boyfriend. She thinks condoms are "icky" and instead she just has sex while on her period. How is that less "icky" than using a goddamn condom? I don't think she's ready to have a baby and her boyfriend is immature. They also fight all the time. She lives in basically a shack and he lives in a different state from her, and moves all the time. He rarely gets to see her even. That would not be a healty life for a baby to start out with. I don't know what to do to get her to be more responsible. She might be pregnant right now even. It could be too late for this anyway. She's a very close friend of mine, and this is important to me. I don't want her to have a baby at sixteen and ruin three lives because condoms are "icky". I'm so frustrated and desperate for some advice. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do about this situation?
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2005 11:45 pm
Well if she doesnt wantto do anything about it you cant make her neutral try to explain to her what will happen if thigs go wrong?
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2005 11:50 pm
Chocolate Flavor Vanilla Well if she doesnt wantto do anything about it you cant make her neutral try to explain to her what will happen if thigs go wrong? i kno ican't make her, but i can try to convince her. I've told her about some diff things that can go wrong. Nothing has worked yet though.
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Posted: Fri Aug 12, 2005 5:13 am
I just sit her down and talk about it. their are "ickyer" things then condoms, like parasitic fetuses for example.
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Posted: Fri Aug 12, 2005 8:12 am
Talk to her about going to a family planning center you can sit down with someone and talk about gettinmg her on the pill, you can also ask them to explain the abortion process it might scare some sense into her.
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Posted: Fri Aug 12, 2005 11:14 am
wotfan Talk to her about going to a family planning center you can sit down with someone and talk about gettinmg her on the pill, you can also ask them to explain the abortion process it might scare some sense into her. Agreed. And if her parents don't know that she's having unprotected sex, you might want to tell them for her. She's being immature and irresponsible, which is not what you do when you have sex. Sex is for people who can take care of themselves and have sex responsibly, and it also includes not getting pregnant if they can't afford to get an abortion/raise a child. But I'd suggest telling her parents, or as wotfan said, taking her to a family planning center so they can talk some sense into her.
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Posted: Fri Aug 12, 2005 11:49 pm
Nikolita wotfan Talk to her about going to a family planning center you can sit down with someone and talk about gettinmg her on the pill, you can also ask them to explain the abortion process it might scare some sense into her. Agreed. And if her parents don't know that she's having unprotected sex, you might want to tell them for her. She's being immature and irresponsible, which is not what you do when you have sex. Sex is for people who can take care of themselves and have sex responsibly, and it also includes not getting pregnant if they can't afford to get an abortion/raise a child. But I'd suggest telling her parents, or as wotfan said, taking her to a family planning center so they can talk some sense into her. well i have talked to her about going to our nearest free clinic. She said she wants to go, but she ddoesn't have a way to get there. She doesn't have a lisence, neither do I and neither does her boyfriend. Her father has caught her having sex before. He also can't drive because he has epilepsy and he won't tell his wife. My friend wants him to tell her mom to take her to the free clinic, but he wants her to talk to her mom about it and she won't. She's afraid her mother will react badly, and she most likely will.
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Posted: Sat Aug 13, 2005 12:32 am
Ziannith Nikolita wotfan Talk to her about going to a family planning center you can sit down with someone and talk about gettinmg her on the pill, you can also ask them to explain the abortion process it might scare some sense into her. Agreed. And if her parents don't know that she's having unprotected sex, you might want to tell them for her. She's being immature and irresponsible, which is not what you do when you have sex. Sex is for people who can take care of themselves and have sex responsibly, and it also includes not getting pregnant if they can't afford to get an abortion/raise a child. But I'd suggest telling her parents, or as wotfan said, taking her to a family planning center so they can talk some sense into her. well i have talked to her about going to our nearest free clinic. She said she wants to go, but she ddoesn't have a way to get there. She doesn't have a lisence, neither do I and neither does her boyfriend. Her father has caught her having sex before. He also can't drive because he has epilepsy and he won't tell his wife. My friend wants him to tell her mom to take her to the free clinic, but he wants her to talk to her mom about it and she won't. She's afraid her mother will react badly, and she most likely will. Tell your friend that telling her parents is something that comes with the responsibilitie of having sex. If she's "mature and responsible" enough to be having sex, then she's mature and responsible enough to deal with the responsibilities that come with having sex. I mean if my daughter was your friend's age, and she told me she was having unprotected sex behind my back, I'd be mad as hell too. But that's the risk she's going to have to take as a result of her and her boyfriend's irresponsibility. If she tells her mom, maybe she'll be able to go on birth control too. As for getting there, could she ride a bike? Or take public transportation, like a bus? Does she have a friend who can drive and give her a ride?
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:03 pm
She may be scared to tell her mom but when she gets pregnant her mom is sure as hell going to find out anyway.
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2005 9:48 pm
Niarah Z`Ress She may be scared to tell her mom but when she gets pregnant her mom is sure as hell going to find out anyway. True, unfortunately. xd
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Posted: Mon Aug 29, 2005 10:52 am
you can't make her do anything. you can try to calmly tell her how you feel and that having her period and sex is just as unhealthy. if she keeps having scares one would think she realized by now that she could get pregnant. you could tell her mom or just her.
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Posted: Mon Aug 29, 2005 11:52 am
Ziannith My friend is sixteen. She has had several pregnancies scares and continues to have unprotected sex with her boyfriend. She thinks condoms are "icky" and instead she just has sex while on her period. How is that less "icky" than using a goddamn condom? I don't think she's ready to have a baby and her boyfriend is immature. They also fight all the time. She lives in basically a shack and he lives in a different state from her, and moves all the time. He rarely gets to see her even. That would not be a healty life for a baby to start out with. I don't know what to do to get her to be more responsible. She might be pregnant right now even. It could be too late for this anyway. She's a very close friend of mine, and this is important to me. I don't want her to have a baby at sixteen and ruin three lives because condoms are "icky". I'm so frustrated and desperate for some advice. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do about this situation? 7?Man that's a lot!
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